Let’s call the guy D. D and I are in year 11 in high school.
|February 5, 2015 at 23:02|
Definitely tell an adult. If a guy is being like that, tell an adult.
|February 6, 2015 at 09:23|
Oh my goodness, please tell somebody.
|February 6, 2015 at 16:28|
I know how you feel. This guy at my school used to do stuff like this and it was really uncomfortable for me. If you haven’t already, let him know first. Tell him straight up, “you are making me uncomfortable, and you need to stop”. He may not even realize that he’s doing something that makes you uncomfortable, at least that’s how it was for the guy that I know. When I told him to seriously stop and made it clear that I was uncomfortable, he didn’t do it anymore. If that doesn’t work, that’s when you need to tell someone.
|February 7, 2015 at 07:25|
Unfortunately, I have been giving him signs to stop–I’ve brushed his hand off me, told him “no”/”stop it”/etc., and even got so far as to smacked him in self-defense, but he still doesn’t get the drift :/ I think I’m going to talk to the counsellor this Monday. Thanks guys! Have a good day 🙂
|February 7, 2015 at 13:40|
The thing is, guys often think that you are joking or just playing around when you say stuff like that. Girls smack guys playfully and do that kind of stuff all the time just to flirt and maybe he doesn’t see that you aren’t kidding. Sometimes the guys won’t think you are serious until you stand up and say “look. You need to get your hands off of me right now and stay away from me jerk”. I’m not saying that this would definitely make him stop, because I don’t know the guy you are talking about, but this is just what worked for me. Sometimes guys are just too oblivious to catch the “signs”.
|February 7, 2015 at 16:24|
Ugh, girl, I know these feels! Well… sorta…
I’m not a touchy person. I’m not. I’m not like… psychotic about it, but usually I won’t run up to someone (guy), full on front hug them, hit them in the arm if they’re being stupid, or touch them at all. I feel creepy if I do… over-thinker right here! Well anywho, this dude who used to be my neighbor, and goes to my church, has a crush on me (or is just…. really odd). He talks to me about… cars. And guns. And insultts girls. And expects that I will be interested in cars. And, since we used to be neighbors, he talks about “way back when” we were totesally bestie-BFFL’s. Look, I’m going to be honest here: He always creeped the heck outta me. He would come over uninvited and hang out (we were outside and all… but still.) I never liked him that much. He now talks to me about how small my old house was, how he never realized how small it was, and how weird my old bedroom was. Yes, he spoke about my bedroom. Naw bro! It’s just… you don’t talk about that! Ever! No. He also tries to be funny. He hit me in the head with a dodgeball (after I said several times not to) and when I took them away he tried to get them back, I firmly said NO, and he continued trying to hit them out of my hands. He also bumps into me a lot, stares at me, tries to play tag with me (I shut that down FAST), and it got to the point where my guy friend asked him if he liked me. How do I know this? BECAUSE HE FOLLOWED ME TO THE WATER FOUNTAIN AND TOLD ME! (caaaaaaaaaps) It was one of the most awkward things ever. He also once tried to get a string back from me, and he put his hand on my SHOULDER and tried to get it back. I immediately squirmed away. It was awful.
I’m naturally flirty, so maybe he thinks that I was flirting with him. I blocked him on social media, gave short answers on the group chat. (he argued about Bill Clinton for 20 minutes) and started totally ignoring him, but then I felt bad, so I gave him half of my attention and as soon as my guy friend would talk to me I’d leave the conversation. It’s a blaaaaaast. It’s during AWANA (I help with the Cubbiessssssss) and I can’t get away…. Oy, it’s a blaaast. So I sorta relate, but lesser, but in my mind it’s huge.
|February 7, 2015 at 18:49|
^InsanityPrincess~I am a touchy-person but that guy would drive me absolutely crazy. I hate it when guys touch me at all without permission (aside from hugs. But unless I know them super well patting my shoulder and back is annoying) or when I tell them to stop something and they think I’m playing “hard to get”. —___— Ummm, no. Just no.
Mmkay~I’m soooo glad you told someone. He sounds like a creeper.
|February 8, 2015 at 12:01|
@Adventure, it’s quite irritating… It’s not just me that is freaked out/annoyed by him either… Two of my close friends are weirded out too, and I know he messages one of them a lot… She despises it. It’s creepy. I think he thinks that he’s a… Girl magnet or something. Creepy. And wrong. Sooooo wrong. I think a good rule of thumb is that if you are not touching them, they shouldn’t touch you. It’s creepy otherwise… And I hate it when they assume we play hard-to-get. No… Actually you either repulse me or we’re JUST friends. Geez.
|February 8, 2015 at 12:29|
I told the counselor today! Thanks to you all once again 🙂
|February 9, 2015 at 14:32|
Update us on how things work out 🙂
|February 12, 2015 at 15:37|
He’s still in school (I saw him during lunch), but he avoids eye contact with me, so that’s good:) Thanks guys!!
|February 15, 2015 at 09:03|
Mkayy–yay!! I’m happy things are going better for you 🙂
|February 24, 2015 at 19:46|
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