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lyudababs

So recently I made a really stupid and completely unintentional mistake and now I feel like for telling the truth, I did the wrong thing. I now have to pay a VERY expensive price for telling the truth and now, my mind keeps telling me that I should have run instead of staying and telling the truth. Do you girls have any ideas on how I can calm my nerves about this and have strength to go through it? College is really wearing my down with my 20 units and now this just had to add on as the cherry on top. Not only do I not have the money to fix my problem, but my grades are already dropping and college just started 2 weeks ago. I really need some strength on this please!

Also, there are two guys. One I’ve known for about 3 years very well, and he’s just absolutely the most amazing guy. I know he likes me too, and he’s planning to take the BAR exam soon, which presents the problem. He’s kinda a lot older than me. Like 9 years older. But when I’m with him, I don’t feel the age gap. We just get along so well and I love talking to him, and he even pushes me to Christ.
The other guy I met about a year ago, and he’s really funny and all, but sometimes I feel like he judges what I do and how I look. Like I can’t live up to his standards. I don’t actually know if he does, but it feels like it. But he talks to me often and I enjoy spending time with him. This guy is 3 years older than me and also has a good education. But looking at my parents’ marriage, I think that he would be forcing me to do things that I wouldn’t want to, like move to his parents on the other side of the country. That’s how my parents’ marriage is and I don’t it to end up like theirs. I’m afraid that eventually I’m going to have to make a choice and will make the wrong. Any thoughts?

Also, how can I make more time to read the bible in my schedule? Any ideas? Thanks!!

PS: I’ll pray for you if you would like me to.

January 29, 2015 at 19:42
emkay15

emkay15

First to address the mistake issue. While I do not know what is going on, God does, if you are needing strength cling to Him and pray. My motto has always been Honesty is the best policy. While it may not seem like it now, I’m sure you did the right thing by telling the truth.

Next to address the college issue and Bible time… I find that having a planner really helps me to accomplish everything I need to (and by a planner I mean, I have a large one that goes to all my classes, a small one in my purse, a calendar hanging on my door and one on my desk). You don’t have to go to that extreme, but I can mark down When I have classes, when homework is due and any upcoming assignments. I also try to make a daily schedule to stick to including my Bible Time. I am more of a morning person so I try to read mine before I get in the shower, but whatever works for you is what you should do. Not only do these planners help to keep you organized, they can be super cute and express your personality!!

As far as the two guys go, this is going to sound so cliche, but age is just a number. If the first guy you talked about really pushes you to focus on God and is what you are looking for the age factor won’t matter. The second guy kind of worries me. Just from what you have said I had some red flags fly up. If he can’t except you for who you are, he is NOT the one for you. It doesn’t matter if he actually is or not, the fact that you feel that he is judging you is enough. Do not put yourself through that. You have enough on your plate already without having to impress him all the time.

A few verses I think will help you are Jeremiah 29:11, Psalms 46:1, and Philippians 4:13.
Hope this helped.

Love and Prayers,
Em

January 30, 2015 at 22:53
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Pippylongstockings

I agree with everything @emkay15 said. The first guy is pushing you to further your relationship with Christ, who cares if he’s 9 years older? (Remember Ruth and Boaz :D) You want someone who’s going to be your spiritual better, not someone who you feel you need to change for and who you feel judged by. The second guy doesn’t seem like he accepts you the way you are. But ultimately, you need to pray about this. Personally, I’d pick the first guy, but I’m not you haha

I hope this helped

February 23, 2015 at 11:13
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Pippylongstockings

http://www.thefulltimegirl.com/2014/01/03/faq-he-really-is-a-great-guy-but/

I found this article, and I thought of you haha. I really really like this author

February 27, 2015 at 16:15
pinkopal100

pinkopal100

Just wanted to pop in and say my grandparents were 20 years apart and had one of the most beautiful marriages I have ever seen. Age is just a number. Pray about it and go from there.

April 16, 2015 at 20:39
BridgetteMarie21

BridgetteMarie21

Hey darling! I totally understand your dilemma (both of them actually lol).

This sounds totally ridiculous, but get a Bible app on your phone or tablet (I have a Bible and a devotional on my Kindle) and read it in the bathroom when you’re getting ready. I know it sounds totally stupid, but it works! Definitely get a planner too, the best have four or five lines per day and you can break down each of your days and what you should be doing.

As for the guys, age doesn’t matter, especially when you’re college age. My parents are six years apart and have been together thirty years, my grandparents are 14 years apart and have been together almost sixty! With the second guy, I definitely wouldn’t pursue a relationship with someone who wanted me to meet certain standards and was judging my every action. The whole age thing doesn’t even matter when you’re older, in my opinion.

May 19, 2015 at 20:37
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