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Mandi Pi

Mandi Pi

So, to begin: recently an out-of-state church joined my church for a mission project, and, long story short, I met a great guy from this other church, we’ve been talking a ton, and I really like him and he really likes me (to clarify though, we are just friends at the time being, as I am 14 and don’t believe in dating in highschool anyway 😉 ). While this is all great and fine and dandy, it has brought closer to my attention an issue that I think every human being, especially teenage girls, has. So whether you’re 11 or 23 or have a crush or are dating or are married or are single or have no interest in those types of things (like crushes), I’d like for you to read this and really take it to heart.

We all have things we count on to give us self worth (feeling like we’re worth something or special to someone) and satisfaction (joy, peace, hope, inspiration). As Christians, hopefully we can all agree that while we have our struggles/failings, we know that God is the one who gives us our identity and He’s the only thing that can satisfy us. Right? Right. But, the thing I’ve seen most easily strip down that truth is liking someone (romantically), and especially having them like you back. Now, let’s back up for a moment: there is nothing wrong with simply liking someone or having someone who makes you happy. That is not at all the message I want you to get. What I want you to get is that you should never get so wrapped up in that person that your heart forgets where your self worth and satisfaction really lie (with Christ). Because let me tell you, it is so incredibly easy to become giddy with happiness when the person you like says sweet things, or when you’re daydreaming about how perfect they are for you, or when you’re just enjoying a conversation–and they just make you feel good. And what’s wrong with that? Nothing. At least, not unless that’s the *only thing that makes you feel that way*. Because then there’s an underlying issue.
I will be honest and say, personally, I am boy crazy. I’ve had a ton of crushes, including a couple that have liked me back, I obsess over guys, I daydream about how great it’ll be when (or, *if, really) I’m married one day…And, I don’t consider myself an insecure person. I don’t think I have a problem with basing my self worth on the wrong things. I love God. I don’t agree with dating at my age and I haven’t dated anyone. Yet, I realize how awful I felt when my previous crush told me he didn’t like me anymore. I realize I didn’t even like him anymore either, but I had put myself on this level thinking wow, this guy likes me–and when I stopped liking him, I didn’t want to admit it to myself, because then I wouldn’t be on this *level* anymore where this great guy liked me too. I realize that when I woke up this morning, I didn’t pray, I didn’t read my Bible, I didn’t go to God–I picked up my phone and messaged the guy I like. I realize that all the issues and things I see wrong with dating at this age can still be applied to me with this guy, even though we’re not dating. And then I think: what am I doing? And, reality check. I’m basing my self worth and seeking all satisfaction from this guy. And in the process, where have I stuck my relationship with God? On a lower level than my relationship with this guy. That is the issue; that is the mindset we need to fight.

Girlies, I want to encourage you to keep your eyes on God, no matter what point you are at in your life. Trust me when I say I *know* that it’s hard to avoid getting caught up in liking another person. I *know* it’s hard to remember that God loves you more than anyone when He’s invisible but that person you like is standing in front of you saying it (or maybe if he’s not). I *know* it’s hard to go to God and talk to Him about things when you could talk to a real person about things. I *know* it’s hard to remember you’re beautiful because God made you and not just because someone thinks you are. But you–WE–have to do it. Because we can avoid so much hurt and so many mistakes if we learn it now rather than later. It is possible, and God really is so much greater than any person could ever be.

Just wanted to encourage all you lovely ladies with that, as it was on my mind. 🙂 If you ever need someone to talk to, find me on here in the Land O’ Forums, or email me at Amfin@earthlink.net! Have a fantabulous day, remember you’re beautiful and loved. <3

August 9, 2015 at 17:48
moon_flower246

moon_flower246

that was rlly good, it must have tooken a while to right that. idk if i’ll get married, depending on how the guys act then, cuz today they don’t act that well and it could be hard to find the few good guys.

August 10, 2015 at 11:33
Celby

Celby

Thanks for that word!

August 10, 2015 at 12:58
Broken Vessel

Broken Vessel

Thanks, Mandi!

August 10, 2015 at 15:03
PolkaDot

PolkaDot

MANDI!!!! I was wondering where you were when I got on here last week. 🙂 I’ve been thinking about you for some reason! Been missing talking to you.
Thanks for this word! I too am a bit boy crazy. I didn’t use to be but as I’ve gotten older (I’m turning 18 in a couple weeks :D) I’ve gotten more and more boy crazy. I’d agree that that doesn’t mean we are insecure in who we are. I certainly am not! But it is easy to get caught up with crushes and what not and forget about God momentarily. Thanks for the reminder and the encouragement! 🙂

August 12, 2015 at 17:16
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