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Um, so I’m the type of girl that dries her own tears, takes care of her own business, and has a hard time accepting help from anyone else. Even close friends.

Up until now, I’ve mostly taken pride in this. But lately, I’ve been thinking about it, and I’ve realized it may (or may not) be an issue. Chivalry coming from anyone else other than my dad is mostly shut down. I’ve realized one of the reasons why I turned down a guy I really liked was because if this. I feel like this would somehow affect future relationships because I feel like I’d lose a part of myself.

Does anyone else feel this way? Is this even a legitimate concern? How do I deal with this?

June 14, 2015 at 13:28
Nate

Nate

Being independent is good… to some extent. But you need to learn to let other people help you sometimes. Not everything can be done by yourself, and it is ok to except help.

June 15, 2015 at 09:56
carolinereinhart1

carolinereinhart1

I understand what you’re saying. I’m my grandma’s only grandkid (I have siblings, but it’s a LONG story), and so she has a hard time with letting me go. Trying to find the balance between letting her do stuff for me to help her self-esteem, and yet do things on my own to maintain mine, is very difficult.]
It may help if you consider things that you’d be willing to let others do for you. Open doors, pull out chairs, something small would be a good place to start. It helps to figure out how dependent you’re willing to be.
You don’t need to be a damsel in distress or expect chivalry, but appreciating it when it’s provided is a good idea. 🙂

June 15, 2015 at 11:14
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