I am courting with a wonderful man who is 3 years older than me. We are both sophomores in college and are beginning to talk about marriage. I am 18. We are both certain that we could be married happily for life. Our political views, social expectations, faiths, expectations for kids, and our goals all line up. We have similar interests and work well as a team. We have been courting for 6 months (have known each other for 8) and have yet to fight; we are able to civilly talk about anything bothering us and find a logical solution that appeases us both. We also both see marriage as a step INTO adulthood rather than a step to be taken after one has “established him/herself as an adult.” What are your views on young marriage?
|December 5, 2014 at 17:46|
I’m not against young marriage at all- I’m 18 and will have just turned 19 when I get married- and even the time you’ve been together doesn’t matter so much.
The thing that makes me hesitant in this case is the fact that you’ve never fought. You say you can civilly talk about what’s bothering you and find a solution, but have you ever seen the ugly side of each other? Have you seen one another turn into their psychotic, angry (pick your flavor) selves? Acting civil is one thing, but I think it’s important to know that you can love one another even when someone isn’t acting lovable.
|December 6, 2014 at 19:26|
I have nothing against marrying young, but I think the amount of time you have known each other should be longer. I have a friend who is 18 and getting married this summer, but she has known her fiancé since she was in the third grade. And then I have another friend who is 18 and getting married and she has known her fiancé for a year and a half. Obviously, I’m a bit more worried about the second friend. Just because you know you want to marry this guy, doesn’t mean you have to get married right now.
|December 6, 2014 at 19:43|
Personally I’d love to marry young. I appreciate how you and your guy are courting. I think those who court typically do a lot better than couples who don’t. Please don’t quote me on that! As long as you both are focused on The Lord and what He wants you to do, I think a young marriage is perfectly okay. God bless!
|December 29, 2014 at 03:39|
I am in the same boat as you in some ways. I have been courting or seriously dating my boyfriend since our freshman year of university. Now, we are in our third year, and everyone around us is getting engaged and married. We attend a small Christian University so the pressure is crazy when it comes to marriage. We are both 20, and I feel like we could get married now, but he is totally against young marriage. In your case, I would advise you to date for a longer amount of time, because whether you believe it or not, you still have so much to learn about one another. I am personally happy we did not get married quickly, because even to this day, I am still learning new things about him. Through the time of waiting, you two should focus on the present time, not the future. Begin to build a strong spiritual foundation that will be solid when you eventually get married. I am not against young marriage but I would advise getting to know one another better than what you do now.
|January 9, 2015 at 08:59|
I’m so happy that you’ve found such a wonderful guy 🙂 I have nothing against young marriage, my brother’s fiancé just turned 21 (he’s 24). They’ve only been dating 6 months or so, but they’ve known each other for many years.
My opinion on this is that you two date for a while longer before getting married. You said it yourself that you guys have never had a fight. Wait until you two have had your first big fight, see if it strengthens you two as a couple, or if it breaks you.
Personally, I want to date whoever it is that i’m meant to marry for at least a year before getting engaged
|January 19, 2015 at 03:59|
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