Okay, get a snack y’all, you’re in for the long run. I have a few questions. Some may seem silly or irrational but oh well. So first off: how do stop thinking about what I feel like I’m missing out on in having a boyfriend? I guess I could call it being boy crazy but I always thought that was a very high school term. I’m a sophomore in college and have been a believer for about 3 years now. I’ve grown up in church so the concept that I need to wait for the one He has for me is not new. However, I just feel like I’m missing out or rather I missed the day in girl school where I know how to flirt, be able to know if a guy likes me, and when to just let it go.
I feel like that’s also one of my problems. I just kind of at the same time, think it’s near impossible for someone to ever like me this way. To want to date me with intention. Marriage and family is a huge desire but I feel silly for having that desire so heavy on my heart. I see friends in long term relationships like its no problem and I just don’t understand why I’ve had this problem of that not being me.
Praying for my future husband has always seemed incredibly selfish to me. What if God wants me to be single for my life? I’m not praying for anyone then. I’d just be yapping on about a man that for me will never exist. Everyone tells me to just work on me first and fall in love with God first and just like its the worst thing to tell me.
Because honestly then reading my bible and doing my studies becomes an “okay I’ve done my devotional and read my bible for a week straight where’s my boyfriend, God?” I’m not learning anything. It’s too goal focused and I have no idea how to shake myself of that mindset. I don’t like how crazy I get when I like a boy and even crazier when I don’t know if they remotely feel like that back. I’ve only ever had rejection when it comes to boys I like and I feel like the rest of my life will be the same.
Can anyone help with any of these concerns and questions? I just need some real life specific feedback. I’ve gotten too many generic answers that haven’t solved anything.
|December 17, 2015 at 06:49|
I am seriously going through the exact same thing so I’m just figuring out things too but I hope I can help.
So basically this generation puts pressure on girls and guys saying they need a boyfriend, they need a girlfriend, you need to know how to flirt in order to get a guy, ect.
And I know what you mean, like you’re not boy crazy but you cant stop thinking about what if…..
And even though you got rejected it was for the better. Because that guy wouldn’t have made a good godly companion you deserve.
Again sorry for being all over the place and I hope you at least under stood a little of it and that something helped.
|December 22, 2015 at 22:21|
Hey girl! Sorry I took so long to respond, holidays and everything. I also asked to be emailed when someone replies to this and yet no email, so I completely didn’t think to check this. Anyways, hi, yes thank you. Girl so much of what you said I feel so real right now! I so want to check out that book that you mentioned. And seeing what you said makes me feel a lot better and a lot less crazy! I hope some of this has helped you on your journey too!
|December 26, 2015 at 08:22|
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