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What is a 'Christ centered' relationship? What does that mean?

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SereneInChrist

SereneInChrist

Hello! I have been thinking a lot lately on what a Christ centered relationship is.
I realise from asking a fellow Christian friend that there is courting and Christian dating; not to speak negetively about courting, but it almosts gives me the vibe that with courting, it seems like you’re filling out an application. 😛
I see courting and realise its actually quite smart, you’ll discover what kind of future husband/wife the person will be, see where the both of you are at in your relationship with God, and of course, compadibility.
But you see, I love God, Jesus, and my spirituality, but to obsess over it in a relationship with someone is just too much! I’m one of those people who enjoy smart planning, but also enjoy the thrill of seeing where “life” takes you. You know what I mean? Yes, to set boundries, physical, emotional, ect. But to also not say “Okay- if six months goes by, and we seem like God thinks we are ready- lets pop the question!” That’s just…. almost seems a little organized and sucks the adventure of life out of it.
I also enjoy the thought of marrying a Christian guy, a guy who isn’t into drugs, starring at other girls in a perverted way, seeing if he’s a responsible guy who doesn’t sit on his butt all day playing video games, but after getting to know a guy in THAT way- I want to move on into personality! I don’t want to keep obessing over if he does this or a good guy in this way- ect.
If I see a red flag, yes, I’ll contemplate it, pray, talk it out with the guy. But like I said before, I don’t want it to seem like this evaluation and like your “applying” to be a future spouse.
To me, that’s the impression I get when I hear Christ centered relationship.

December 19, 2014 at 11:05
smileysofie

smileysofie

Yeah I understand what you mean. The serotype pops into our heads when we hear ‘Christ centered relationship.”
But my definition is different. Here it is:
God is the center of your relationship. Don’t quickly point to what I just said above yet. I see so many couples (mostly teens cause I’m around them more 😛 ) kind of follow their hearts. They don’t take the bible’s commandment’s very seriously.
Centering God in your relationship is basically putting him before each other. Not letting the love for your gf/bf come between you and God. Your relationship with God is more important than with a guy. And if the Bible says “don’t do this with the man you love” you don’t do that. That’s centering God. Putting God’s wishes before your own. Does that make sense? For some reason it’s hard for me to type this out….

December 19, 2014 at 15:14
SereneInChrist

SereneInChrist

So in other words, if two people decide they think its alright to have sexual relations because THEY think they are ready, and God says otherwise; they follow Him? I can TOTALLY understand that! 🙂 I guess I might be overthinking it; but its not like you discuss God and say “Oh, I think God wants us to go out for ice cream this weekend for a date!” Its not extremely specific like I just typed out… right? Hopefully not. 0_0

December 20, 2014 at 22:03
smileysofie

smileysofie

Yeah. 😀
I just think it’s about keeping his commandments. As long as you do that, everything else is up to you. 🙂

December 21, 2014 at 16:18
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

What smileyofsophie said! 🙂

Also, I think it just means loving each other like Christ would want you to–in an honoring, kind, pure way.

December 24, 2014 at 22:29
chloe523

chloe523

I think part of what it means is that while you two love each other, you both still put God first. God doesn’t want you to make each other your idols, like how a lot of relationships are. Along with that, that means that the two of you walk beside each other and grow in Christ together. If one of you has a rough time and briefly falls from God, the other will help to encourage you and pick you back up. I think that that’s what it means to have a Christ centered relationship. Not really courting or having a boring relationship 🙂

December 26, 2014 at 17:13
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