So I met a seemingly amazing guy almost a year ago. He was a very huge portion of my life and my support line for that time. Although we lived far and only hung out in person a few times (not including working together) we talked every day. I honestly saw a future because he was so sweet, funny, loving, and cared so much and had what seemed like the similar values to mine. God gave him to me right when I felt like I had lost everything. For seven months everything started to look so bright. Sadly I found out he had major flaws and very dark life habits that he had lied and kept from me. It has been a very messy ending and I feel so betrayed. On top of losing him and that support my best friend is also moving to another state. I just feel like once again things are getting taken from me. I understand this is part of Gods will for me and I wouldn’t change it because I’m growing as a person. I guess my question is this: What are some ways that help you learn to be okay with being lonely? and does anyone have any helpful tips on how to deal with seeing a person who caused you hurt after the fall out?
|June 19, 2015 at 19:12|
I can relate to not having any close friends at all and I can say that at this time it is good to look up at God, as He is your friend.
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” -Proverbs 18:24
Thank Him for even the family members that you have because it is possible to have absolutely no one in your family with you. I guess being alone is a chance to grow even stronger in your dependence on God. At first losing those friends may be a shock, but rest assured that in time you’ll make new ones (not to say that you can’t keep in touch with the others). If you end up seeing a person who has caused you to hurt, it is best to forgive them and love them back, despite what they did to you.
I think that treating them nicely and not picking harshly at the things that made you to hurt would alleviate the problem better.
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”- Proverbs 15:1
It is possible that you may even be able to reconcile with them and heal the friendship if they themselves are willing to change their habits and keep the friendship. Let them know that you forgive them and don’t hold a grudge against them. Show them the love of Christ, because a kindness is like a salve on a wound- it helps heal the tensions in a relationship, if at all possible.
Find comfort in God’s provision, even in this time of loneliness. Know that God is always with you, no matter who leaves you.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” -Deuteronomy 31:6
God will satisfy you every need, just trust in Him and keep trusting. Don’t get low because of this moment in your life where you feel lonely, but keep looking to Him and know that He is God. He has a plan for your life and it ends in heaven. You won’t stay at this point of your life forever. Just keep hoping and persevering through the storm. There is hope always.
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Have a good day and God Bless! 🙂
|June 23, 2015 at 16:25|
Wow, that is rough. I wrote a post on this (Put something in the search engine about isolation), but I guess I could say this. everyone has moments in their lives where they are lonely. I’m in that position right now. But it’s okay. It gives you time to consider what you want and what God wants in your life. As far as being around people who hurt you, another thing I went through. Just take a deep breath and try to love them through it. And be nice. When you get home, you may cry a little, but you’ll feel good about keeping your cool. 🙂
|June 23, 2015 at 18:40|
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