So during my freshman year I was in a pseudo-relationship with this guy. We were all but officially dating. A summer went by and we grew apart and in a sense “broke up”. It wasn’t really dramatic, we had just matured a lot over the summer and realized we had both gone into the relationship for the wrong reasons and were really better as friends. Last school year we saw each other occasionally and we have exchanged emails off and on. I am always the one to initiate those conversations. It has been a while since we’ve talked and I want to say hi. Am I being pushy? I don’t have any feelings for him anymore and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t have any for me (last I knew he has a girlfriend) but I don’t want to come off as if I do. Do you think he wants to keep up the friendship? Or is he no longer interested in any kind of a relationship? This is a friendship I don’t want to lose. He is a really cool person and I enjoy his company in a non-romantic way.
|October 29, 2015 at 18:18|
If it’s been a while since you talked, I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t initiate a conversation. If you were starting a conversation with him every week or something, that might come across as pushy. But you shouldn’t come across that way now.
And I can’t really say whether he wants to keep up the friendship or not. There are some people who never initiate conversations but who are happy to talk to you once you start one. If he responds to you and shows interest in keeping up the conversation (by giving answers longer than a word or two, asking you questions, responding to things you say), then I think it’s safe to say he does want to talk to you. If he’s not doing those things, it might be a sign he’s moved on from the friendship.
|October 30, 2015 at 18:36|
I don’t think it’s pushy. If he’s might think that then clear the air and make sure he knows.
|October 30, 2015 at 21:53|
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