So I have this guy friend. He’s really nice, a Christian, and a gentleman. I met him at a 4-H event. But I wouldn’t consider him my best friend by a long shot. Well, lately, he’s gotten into a habit of messaging me EVERY DAY. No joke. He usually asks how I am doing, and makes conversation (he lives about a half hour away from me). Well, while he is a nice person, and it’s not like he creeps me out, I am getting sick of this. And yes, I know this is a terrible thing to say. But sometimes I don’t want to talk to him, and sometimes I get really annoyed with the daily query about my well being. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the fact that he cares, but I get tired of having to carry on conversations with him. And while this isn’t creepy quite yet, I think it will start bordering on creepy eventually. I really wish there was a nice way to let him know that I don’t really want to talk, without saying: “I am not that interested in conversing with you right now.”. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle it? Because while I do want a way out of the constant conversation, I also don’t want to hurt his feelings.
|June 1, 2015 at 19:06|
Mannn what is up with guys? Sounds exactly like one of my guy friend relationships. 😛 Oi. Personally, I got to the very edge of my annoyed line and basically told him how annoying I thought he was, and apparently crushed his soul. We made up and I said I didn’t mean it (even though, well, I kind of did…), and we’re pretty fine now, but ya know.
I suggest telling him that you like talking to him, but you’re not always in the mood to chat, and it can get a bit bothersome when he messages you all the time, so could he please not message you quite as much. Just word it as kindly as possible, and pray he takes it well. That’s basically all there is to it; if he’s bothering you, you should just let him know. If it was wrong to speak your mind in any and all circumstances, the Bible wouldn’t say to speak the truth in love, it would say to shush. 🙂
|June 1, 2015 at 19:39|
Oh my gosh I’m not the only one, thank goodness! Haha The same thing is happening to me (ugh) and I’m really having a hard time too. I ignored his last message because I was not in the mood to chat with him, he left me a lone for a week before messaging me asking me if I was going to a mutual friend’s open house, I replied with simple yet blunt answer and he hasn’t replied since, thankfully, lol. Don’t be too blunt, just let him down easy, don’t feel obliged to talk, seriously, don’t feel bad for it either, nobody wants to talk to someone that much. lol Good luck!
|June 1, 2015 at 19:52|
I know I need to be nice about it, but I’m struggling with coming up with what I specifically need to say (which is rare).
|June 2, 2015 at 09:56|
*Next time he messages you* “Hi, I’m good [if he asks how you are or something], but I kind of wanted to be honest and ask if you could stop messaging me so much. You’re really nice, and I like talking to you, but sometimes I’m just not in the mood to chat, so it can get a bit bothersome when you message me all the time. Please don’t take that the wrong way at all, I’m happy to chat with you sometimes; just not every single day.”
I’d say something like that. 🙂
|June 2, 2015 at 12:33|
I’d try going into offline mode, and pretending I’m offline. Or just not responding to his messages every day, and only respond when I feel like it See if it slows down any.
I might be really really non-confrontational. XD
|June 2, 2015 at 13:27|
I’d do what Slinky said. He probably has a crush on you and I’d guess that if you ignore him a little bit he might stop messaging you every day, because that’s kinda extensive. lol
|June 2, 2015 at 13:38|
To be honest, this whole thing would get like 1000% creepier if he did have a crush on me. Don’t know why, but it freaks me out.
|June 3, 2015 at 05:40|
Yeah, honestly, I usually go the Slinky route too. 😉 And in my circumstance, the guy did like me, and still kind of does, so I understand your feeling like that would make it really weird.
|June 3, 2015 at 11:44|
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