So, today I found out that a boy in my grade likes me (a friend of mine said that she knows that someone likes me and we had to try to guess who… We eventually got it :)). We are juniors and are both in the IB program at my school and talk fairly frequently. I was talking with him and a few other people during a free period a few days ago and I said that I honestly don’t think that I will have a boyfriend until I am out of college just due to me wanting to get my JD and start practicing law. He said, “Wait, really?” and we were talking about other topics for a while afterwords. He is holding the door open for me quite a bit and when we went on a school retreat, he helped me get my luggage situated on the bus. Honestly, I think I do like him but I’m not sure whether or not what I said before will change what he thinks of me. We are in a group chat with a group of other people in my IB Bio class and (because I had to leave a chat earlier because of swearing) someone started swearing and he said back, “Hey ___, stop it. Or else [me] and [my friend who also left the inappropriate chat] will have to leave again.” A few of my friends said that they saw it coming, but I’m not sure what to do now (as in, do I flirt? Or not? And if so, how on earth do I do so?). Any and all advice would be awesome!
|January 31, 2016 at 12:18|
Hey! So I’m a junior too and I feel you about waiting to date thing. I have never had a bf and its not for the lack of offers lol but I do have many crushes and love the drama of crushes and relationships, idk if that’s good but yeah.
Anyways so I suggest you lay back and act normal. Wait to see if his interest changes. If he still seems to like you (now pay attention) and you want a relationship then flirt. (I will return to this)
If your not interested in a relationship, keep acting normal. One day he may get the guts to ask you out. If your ready at that time then accept. If not then tell him your not ready for a relationship. The best is to tell him the truth.
Now as for the flirting…the definition of flirt according to my brain is: to be polite with a hint of charm, a dash of sass, a pinch of oops and a teaspoon of attitude. When you walk together maybe “accidentally” brush arms. If he looks at you, look him in the eyes, give him a small smile and look down. If he’s a cross the room, look at him, if he looks back, small smile, then look away.
I hope that helps! Leg me know if you have questions!! ❤
|February 1, 2016 at 15:57|
Thank you thank you! All of the flirting things I have seen online involve some sort of inappropriate twang to them and it is definitely not a good thing. I think I can get the whole sass thing down pat and, with my record of accidentally running into doors and lockers, the oops should be a breeze 😉 It certainly helps; thanks again!
|February 1, 2016 at 18:25|
Your welcome! And about the online flirting stuff..I thought about suggesting an online site about that but I knew it was gonna be like that due to last experiences lol. My bff says I have a flirty personality. It comes natural for me to flirt. Good or bad idk 🙈 haha so I just told you stuff I do when I like a boy. Its a lot of teasing with small smiles and looking up at him from underneath your eyelashes. Stand a little closer to show your comfortable, just a little bit of physical stuff like hand on shoulder when your squeezing by or stuff like that idk maybe that’s more than what you asked but hey its in my nature 😂
|February 1, 2016 at 21:57|
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