Hello all! Here is another cliche “I don’t know what to do about this guy” girl talk forum! I was considering not…seeing there are more important things I could talk about… but this one really has me in a bit of a pickle!! (Haha)
|October 3, 2016 at 08:30|
You’re not reading too much into it–from what you’ve said here, it seems that he really likes you. But…be careful, especially with texting, because it’s easy to say these things to multiple people over text. What really shows whether he cares is how he treats you in real life; if he’s considerate, if he’s respectful, etc.
|October 3, 2016 at 11:03|
Please, please. please do NOT get your hopes up. If it means not talking to this guy, don’t. It is wrong for him to be leading you on when he likes someone else–wrong both to you and to the person he likes. If he is a person like this, he is probably not a person you want to be around.
|October 3, 2016 at 11:28|
I too have gone through something like this. It is super frustrating when you can’t control your emotions for a guy and you’re not even sure if he has the same feelings for you. Personally, I would just pray about it. Like Nino99 said, if he truly likes you, then he will show it in real life and not just text. I had a “nice” ( or so I thought) guy lead me on for months over text and he wouldn’t even talk to me in person. It really hurt my feelings. So, if he talks to you over text and in person, you might consider talking about what is there between him. But my goodness let him initiate. Don’t chase after him all the time. Let him come to you. From what I read it seems he is a genuinely nice, caring guy. I hope this advice helps and that everything works out.
|October 4, 2016 at 13:54|
Thank you guys! @Nino99, you are so right. When we are together, which isn’t often because we do not live in the same town, he talks to me as much as he can. And we were together just the other weekend for a church activity and I decided I wasn’t going to follow him around or make the first move to talk to him and he came up to talk to me as soon as I got there!
|October 5, 2016 at 06:25|
Hi again I would also just like to add that he is an extremely strong Christian guy, and I do not believe that he would just start liking another girl because he “got bored of the last one”. It is possible he likes me and another girl at the same time? Honestly, I don’t know, I just felt like I should say he is not like that to be flirting with multiple girls at multiple times. He is very loyal. Sorry if that sounds harsh… but I felt that I should stand up for him in that way because he is my friend 🙂
|October 5, 2016 at 07:29|
No offense taken. I know how it feels. BUT i’m just warning you *not* to get attached. I thought the same thing a long time ago.
|October 5, 2016 at 09:46|
Yes I am very much trying to avoid getting attached. I assume this is the reason I wrote this in the first place? To just get it off my chest. Yes, you make a good point on me saying “positive” he liked someone else, but then again I’ve never seen them together and he’s never talked about her so. ?? I know I am probably sending mixed signals or mixing my words around and I promise it’s not intentional haha! 🙂 Yes I do know this. Sorry if any of this seems rude, but I care a lot about my friends so I feel like I have to justify their actions on the behalf of others- which doesn’t always work :// I am not getting attached- I will not get attached. I am trying to make that a point that its not going to happen. I am trying to focus on God, but I thought maybe anyone would have insight as to what he is trying to tell me. I can’t date, so the point of getting attached to him would be, well, it’s pointless.
|October 5, 2016 at 10:09|
True, true. You don’t have to date to be attached though, but I do understand what you’re saying. It’s just I had a similar experience and I don’t want it to happen to you, though of course I don’t mean to be mean. I’m glad you’ve decided not to get attached to him though 🙂
|October 5, 2016 at 11:06|
I know that you can become attached without dating. That has been a usual occurrence in my life and that is SO not happening again haha! 🙂 Thank you for all your advice/insight, I’m sorry if anything I said was offensive or rude or anything :/ I know how it feels so I wouldn’t want it to happen to anyone else either, so I definitely know where you are coming from. May I ask how old you are @theteenfashionista? Haha random question 😉
|October 5, 2016 at 11:56|
Oh lol I’m 13. (Almost 14). Young, I know. And thanks for thanking me–I don’t mean to be harsh or anything I just sometimes am. 🙂 And nothing you said was rude!! 😀 I hope everything works out for you!!! 😀
|October 5, 2016 at 13:44|
You are very wise for your age! Tho I suppose that is just the generation huh? 🙂 You are going to be used in amazing ways by God @theteenfashionista! Haha thank you for all your love, tho I know I was kinda harsh. (Well… maybe more harsh in my head…. hmmmm)
|October 5, 2016 at 14:55|
Lol we are all defensive of our friends, aren’t we? 😀 And thank you so much!!
|October 6, 2016 at 07:24|
Yes I suppose we are! You’re welcome :))
|October 6, 2016 at 07:38|
I agree with everything that has been said, BUT what makes you so sure he likes this other girl? It’s definitely wrong if he likes her, (not that he’s meaning to lead you on- in his defense it could just be his personality) but are you just assuming this or did he tell you? He might also be confused about whether or not he really likes her. It does seem that he likes you, but like the other girls said, I wouldn’t get attached. Please pray about it and be careful.
|October 7, 2016 at 21:19|
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