Thank you for your help in advance! As sisters in Christ, we should be willing to help one another.
I have a hearing loss but it’s nothing I would ever tell anyone. My neighbors seem to know about it and I’m ok with that. I trust them. But for the people at school, are they being nice to me and paying more attention to me because they see me as special or something. I usually don’t expect people to be nice. (Obviously I’m not as smart as them or the best socially.) Why would they like me? and I’ve noticed guys also have been nicer to me lately and saying “hi” to me. I say “hi” first sometimes and it makes me feel good because my mom told me “You’re showing them they’re important by noticing them.” Guys have been raising their eyebrows at me -Could just be a greeting, but I also see them looking at me in class sometimes or feel them looking at me. I made a good friend in my Acting class because when I walked in the second day of class, he said “Hi Julianne” and I looked up and he smiled. It made my day because I didn’t even know he knew my name and I usually don’t expect people to notice me. We were in the theatre for class but I didn’t know where to go so I just waited for him. (I think that made him feel good.) In class, he seems to like to always look out for me, even though he’s younger. He’ll try to catch my eye and smile. In the halls, he smiles or sometimes waves. In class, if we can sit where we want, he’ll sit closer to his friends but in the seat next to me. And one time when I adjusted my hearing aid, I turned around to make sure no one saw and he was watching like he cared. Why would he care? Does he just feel sorry for me? How did he pick me to be his friend? Whatever is going on, I can tell he has a good heart, and maybe even a friend from God. Even his friends are being nice to me, especially his girlfriend. I also have a friend in a club I’m in. A few weeks ago, a nice girl in my gym class started talking to me and told me she’s good friend with my other friend and said we should all hang out. So my friend must have said good things about me. I didn’t think people would ever say good things about me. I still remember in grade school, a girl said “No one will like you because you have hearing aids.” and “They’re not going to like you.” All this stuff now is making me really shy and I’m blushing around almost everyone or I don’t know how to handle attention. I don’t like it, and I don’t really want guys to think I like them. Would they think I’m creepy or cute if they do think that? Can they tell I have hearing aids by looking at me and and then they’ll treat me special? Or do I look like I don’t have a lot of friends? The only thing I know is I have a good personality and my friends say they like talking to me. And sometimes girls will smile at me like I’m being cute or adorable, because that’s also how my friends like to describe me. I’m not sure if that’s a compliment because I associate that with little kids. What do you girls think? I apologize for all the questions, just a little anxious at school right now
|April 15, 2015 at 17:25|
Sometimes it’s hard to get used to new attention especially if you are worried it’s just pity. But from what you’ve said about these new friends, it doesn’t sound like pity to me. Just be confident about who you are, hearing aids and all. I’m dyslexic, I have scoliosis and I had really bad food allergies all through middle school, so I was the weird girl who always ate the strange foods, not to mention I’ve always been a tom boy. But God made you beautiful the way you are for a reason, and as your getting older and the people around you are to and becoming more mature they can see you more as who you are and not just whatever hearing issues you have. Just try to be a good friend and trust that that’s all they are trying to do too. Always pray, pray to thank God for these people he’s put in your life, pray to accept all he has in store for you in life right now, pray for confidence and humility because those virtues go hand in hand and I would say most of all pray for your friends, new and old because we can all use prayer.
|April 15, 2015 at 17:39|
1 Corinthians 3:16 ESV
Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?
13 “Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage.
14-16 “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.
|April 15, 2015 at 17:54|
Ugh, grade school kids can be so horrid. You know why? Because most kids are at an age where they are extremely self-conscious and are uncomfortable with themselves. Some kids become quiet and shy, while others turn into mean girls, like the one who said no one will like you.
That wasn’t true what she said, of course, she was just acting out of spite. Think about it: Would you dislike someone if they had a hearing loss, vision problem, etc? Of course not. So normal, kind, smart people like yourself will look beyond any physical disabilities because they know it’s really unimportant.
As far as everything else, you’re definitely over thinking it. We spend so much time trying to analyze what people are thinking, and in reality they’re usually not thinking of us at all. < I don't mean that you're unimportant and no one cares about you–of course they do. What I mean is that most people aren't forming strong opinions about you one way or the other. They're not *constantly* thinking about you, if that makes sense (If this doesn't make sense tell me and I'll try to clarify more)
Can I give you a "homework" assignment? Spend one day, just one, not thinking about yourself.
No wondering what people are thinking of *you*
Remember it's just for one day. Before you do it, pray that God will give you wisdom on what to say in your conversations and how to act, and then go forth and be you! Focus on other people, you're activities, God, but NOT on yourself. Do this one day and see how you feel, ok? 🙂
Love you girlie <3
|April 17, 2015 at 14:54|
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