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Why I'm Not Going to Church Anymore

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I don’t know if I’m the only one who feels this way, which I guess is why I’m writing about it. So here we go…

All my life I have been a Seventh Day Adventist, and as I’ve gotten older I have found that the people that I tend meet at church all seem to be very closed minded. I’ve been to many different churches over the years, and nothing seems to change. Of course, there are always wonderful people, but they seem to be the minority. I’m tired of being surrounded by people who judge me and others, and I don’t think it is necessary to put myself in that situation anymore.

I have also discovered that I have some very deep rooted problems with pastors. The fact that my dad is a pastor probably has something to do with it, but that’s definitely not all. The thing is, I find being a pastor to be, for lack of a better phrase, an outdated profession. Pastors, mainly the disciples, were originally used to share the Bible with people who hadn’t heard about Jesus yet, and that was certainly important because without them many people wouldn’t have heard about all the amazing things that Jesus did. However, I don’t think that it is necessary to have someone up front every week telling a congregation all the things that they believe. Why can’t we have a discussion where we share what we believe instead of listening to one person share his/her beliefs? I don’t know if any of this is making sense, but it’s something that has been on my mind for a really long time.

The final reason that made me realize I shouldn’t be going to church anymore is that I have discovered that I feel closer to God without a church. Reading my Bible and praying helps me grow closer to God, but church doesn’t. If anything, I feel farther away from him. There are definitely some people who feel closer to him when they attend church, I am just not one of those people.

I have gone back and forth on writing this post or not. I guess part of the reason I wanted to write it was to find out if I was the only one who felt this way or not, but a bigger part of it is because PI seems to be very church based. There have been a lot of articles lately about how going to church is essential to have a relationship with God, and I just don’t agree with that. So yeah, I have decided that as for right now, I won’t be going to church anymore. I may change my mind in the future, but this is where I have landed right now. It has become more of a burden than a help, and I don’t need that. No one does. Please be respectful of my decision if you don’t agree, but feel free to say something about it.

September 4, 2016 at 12:43



You literally just described my life.

I was actually going to create a topic like this but I haven’t had time lately. I grew up in church as well (and had some homeschool classes there, so between that, church services and youth group I was at church 4-5 days a week in high school) and I quit going about a year ago.
I have honestly never been happier, both emotionally and in my walk with God.

I’ve attended a lot of churches, and like you said some people and churches are great but the atmosphere tends to be judgmental and closeminded in most churches I attended. I do like the community atmosphere, (and the nice people) so eventually I may try to find a progressive Christian church, but for now I need a break ( a detox if you will 🙂 )

I had never thought of what you said about pastors, but it’s a good point. Also, since there may be a few people who comment who are insistent on going to church in order to honor God, let me remind you all “church” is us. Believers, not a building.

And yes, when you think about it, it doesn’t make much sense to have a pastor. I mean I guess there’s nothing wrong with it, it’s just that like you said, it’s a person reading the Bible and sharing his beliefs on the passage, which we may or may not agree with since the Bible can be interpreted in many different ways based on various beliefs/bias.

September 4, 2016 at 14:44


Here’s an article you might like. John Pavlovitz’s blog is awesome.


September 4, 2016 at 15:08


I love what you said about the church being us, not a building. The article is wonderful, I really loved everything about finding sacred moments outside of church; thank you for sharing it. I hope your spiritual life keeps getting better 🙂

September 5, 2016 at 14:24
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