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Hey ladies,
I’m not even sure what to write but I know I need prayer and maybe advice.
I am dating the love of my life and while everyone loves him and sees such greatness in the relationship my parents act like I’m a child when it comes to me talking about marryin him. This is his and my first relationships (committed) and while sometimes we face struggles together and find differences i don’t want anyone else. I am only 20 so my parents think we are getting caught up in. Plus we keep missing curfew and now my parents are mad. It’s hard because our schedules mean we have less time during the day and more at night. Any suggestions on how to get better at a curfew when all you want is to be with the guy you love? We lose track of time so quickly.
Another thing is that while we have boundaries and never ever cross them
And he’s super respectful there are still times that kissing gets passionate and it’s hard to fight my bodies reaction. Even simple innocent things can set it off…. Any advice would be nice. It is hard to to back track once you have felt what it is like to kiss someone passionately. I’m not afraid of crossing more boundaries I’m just afraid that what if this is already too far?
Thank you so much!

May 9, 2016 at 10:14


Hey! I am 20 and in a serious relationship as well so I’m speaking from that standpoint. I think the first thing to do is realize that you are an adult and that it is only natural that we should be thinking about mairrage when we’re with guys we love especially if that is really where you see it going. You also sound very responsible and mature when it comes to this relationship. It’s not like you’re some rebellious teenager whining to her parents that she has to spend ALL her time with her boyfriend, you’re both adults who are busy with school and work and stuff and when you’re in a serious relationship making time for that other person is really important and needs to be a priority as well. Of course, playing devil’s advocate, it is hard for parents to realize their baby is moving on in life so that’s probably where your parents are coming from. I think you should have a mature talk with your parents and present the situation to them, remembering that you do have a right to have more control over your own schedual but making sure you take their side into account as well.

TOTALLY understand about the boundaries thing. I know how hard it is to take a step back after things get heated one night. I think it’s important to kind of change the “what if this is too far” mindset because really, that mindset just leads to “how close can we get to the line without actually crossing it.” and 9 times out of 10 you cross it without even realizing it and someone ends up upset. obviously I’m probably not the best person to give advice about how not to cross boundaries but I do think mindet is important. I always try to think of it like “okay, is all I am doing honoring this relationship and the man I’m with or am I just doing it because it feels good.” Once the focus is off the relationship and the mutual respect you have it kind of becomes selfish. I’ve been there. I think it’s really important to have these conversations with your guy and just talk though how you’re both feeling about what is going on. I know those can be hard and confusing conversations sometimes, but I think talking about it often can really help keep the focus where it should be.

Relationships are HARD, no one really warns you about that. I’m here if you wanna talk some more, but I hope some of this helped!

May 10, 2016 at 05:27
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Hi so im only 17 but i have some advice that i hope will help. About being late for curfew maybe set an alarm like 30 minutes before or depending on hoow long it’ll take you to get home.
Ive never been in a relationship but i can understand how you’ll want to spend all of your time with him but its kind of an immature argument against being late for curfew. Everything with moderation. Your parents were kids in love once and if you can come up with sensible argument i bet they will listen and understand.
The boundaries, try to not be alone. Dont be at his house, apartment or whatever, alone or even your house. They dont have to be in the same room as you. Also if you do, dont like lock yourself in a room, try to keep the door cracked open or something.
Lastly, pray pray pray.
Talk to your boyfriend, your parents and God.
Hope this help!

May 17, 2016 at 13:33
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