Hey again! This is my third time posting in the past two weeks and for that, I am sorry. For the backstory on this, please read my post “is he leading me on?”. Thanks 😊
Ok, so here’s my problem: my crush, who has been showing many signs that he likes me in the past few weeks is now ignoring me. (I’m going to continue this assuming you read my previous post, sorry if it confuses some of you 😕). The past few times we saw each other, he would barely talk to me and would hardly listen when I would try to talk to him. At times, he would stand very close or stare at me, but for the most part he would act distant. Also, for the past week, he had ignored all my messages (a total of three and they were normal messages), which was very unlike him. Thishappened for a few days, until this past Sunday night. I went to a super bowl party with a bunch of friends and he was there. (How was your guys’s superbowl?). And he would hardly look at me. We made eye contact maybe three times and he barely acknowledged me. He stood right in front of me while grabbing something and even then, he didn’t even look at me. It really upset me and I went through a cycle of looking over at him, getting mad, frowning, and then making myself stop at least 20 times that night. It was bad.
I don’t understand it. He goes from very attentive, to sending mixed signals to sending none at all. I’m so confused. I do know that people were talking and certainly noticed how he was acting towards me, and one of my friends suggested it could be that he was a bit embarrassed. This could be true, but it is not a shy person at all, so I’m not entirely sure that’s it. Another friend suggested he could be scared of his feelings for me, which definitely seemed strong. So that could be it as well. I just don’t know. I’ve spent this whole week in prayer, asking God to show me what is going on and to allow my crush to work through whatever’s going on. But its been really difficult.
What do you girls think? Any advice would be greatly appreciated at this point. 😘
Thank you so much!
|February 10, 2016 at 14:15|
To me it sounds like he might just be confused about how he feels about you and how he should act. I don’t think that gives him a good excuse to ignore you but I think that may be the deal. If I were in this situation, I would probably go up to him and ask him (as a friend) if something is going on or if you did anything to upset him. Maybe then he will know how you feel about his actions and be more conscious on how he interacts with you. Good luck 🙂
|February 29, 2016 at 00:12|
I’ve read your posts and let me tell you one thing—a guy won’t stop feeling something towards you so easily so there must be something hidden.
It may be that he is scared of feeling something for you, or maybe, Have you shown him any signals that you like him back? because perhaps he thinks that you don’t like him so he’s just trying to forget about you, or perhaps he is just ignoring you so you pay him more attention.. you know they want to feel wanted because of his ego’s thing (I’m not sure about how that works, haha.)
I just know that most times when a guy is really interested in you, he will—at some point of your “relationship”—ignore you and pretend you don’t exist.
But PLEASE, do not feel upset and don’t let that bring you down. You can do something too, show him that you are worth fighting for, and that you also have feelings for him.
What I’d suggest you to do is to keep praying so you get some answers. They’ve told me that when you pray for a person, this person will start having such lovely feelings towards you. So keep praying and let’s see what happens!
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13
Think of that verse everytime you feel down or feel like doing something.
Your situation is in my prayers. (:
|March 10, 2016 at 12:05|
Hi Ari! I definitely agree with what chloe mentioned. I’m a guy and from a man’s perspective, I assume your friend/crush is probably confused about his feelings towards you. Chances are he is still trying to figure out his emotions.
I think if it’s something you can bear with, then just play it cool and give him some time and when he finally decides to talk with you again, be sure to show that you’ve missed talking with him and spending time with him. You can demonstrate this through ways you deem appropriate for both of you (so that there won’t be any confusion i.e. show him you miss him but w/o too much romantic attachment). You could even tell him directly that you wish you guys would hangout together more.
On the other hand, if he never decides to turn back to talk to you again and it gets to the point where it’s too distracting for you, so much so that you can’t go on your daily life without thinking about it, I think you should find a way (as hard as it might be) to sit him down and talk to him about it. It might be difficult, but it’s better to talk it out, liberate your soul than tormenting it by wondering day in and day out.
|March 22, 2016 at 10:02|
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