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Hey girls,
So I know confidence is something everyone struggles with. I’ve been dealing with accepting my self and loving my self the way God made me for a while.I have lost over 40 pounds still have more to lose but I finally was having confidence in my self and it seems the more confidence I have the more I get put down.I have been getting bullied so much more now that I’ve lost the weight.I’m usually always positive and never let people get to me but lately I have been.I was just wondering how do y’all stay positive and confident? Thanks Girls ๐Ÿ™‚

January 23, 2015 at 06:04
Celby

Celby

I’m so sorry that you’re getting bullied for your weight, that’s definitely unacceptable. To first have confidence you must learn to not compare you self to others or have hungry ears for what they think; Comparison is the thief of joy. When you get up each day, remind yourself that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (psalm 139:14). Be positive about who you are because no one else will ever look like you or be able to replace you as you are a child of God. Don’t pay too much attention to how other people think of you but instead look at yourself from the perspective God looks at you with: a beautiful and irreplaceable person He made in His image. Maybe you want to tell those bullies that you are happy with the way you look and don’t need the added commentary. I’ll be praying for you,
God Bless.

January 26, 2015 at 21:09
Musician4Life

Musician4Life

I’m so sorry you’re being bullied! Confidence is something I constantly struggle with and have been struggling with it my whole life. I’ve always been the quiet girl no one really noticed and it was hard for me for a long time to be confident because I felt like no one cared anyway. The biggest thing I have to tell myself (and this is very important with you being bullied) is that you have to draw your confidence from within. Your confidence has to come from knowing you are incredible, God created you exactly the way he wanted you to be and no one has been or ever will be exactly the same as you. You have to know that outside opinions of you are not important – to an extent. Of course, if someone calls you out on a sin or is trying to help you be a better person, you must take that into consideration. But ultimately, it doesn’t matter what anyone else is saying about you because you are an incredible creation of God and no one can take that from you or say you’re lesser for any reason. My music teacher worked with me on confidence for years, still does some, and every time he always tells me “once you stop caring, your life will be so much better” and he was right! If you stop caring and worrying about what people will think of you, life will be so much better because you can be yourself without needing to justify anything. It’s a process, its taken me a long time to get to where I am no. I’ll be praying for you <3

January 28, 2015 at 10:10
CocoChanelNumber5

CocoChanelNumber5

Oh no!!!! Being bullied is the worst ๐Ÿ™ I am not trying to promote my charity one little bit (I swear), but I run a charity called Give the Look and it’s totally focused on building the self-confidence of teenage girls! I’ve done oodles of research on the subject of self-confidence and it has been successful for me and girls in my community ๐Ÿ™‚ Because we all look at each other so critically… ugh. I’ve found that most people that bully are super duper insecure about themselves and there is either A. something they don’t like about themselves so they pick on someone else or B. something going on at home and they need to get their emotions out. A few things I do to help boost my confidence are…
1. Wearing my favorite color. If a color makes you feel great, wear it as much as you can!
2. Hold my head high. Even if you feel like it’s the end of the world, pick out the great things happening in your life. It helps you feel great about yourself and helps you radiate your inner confidence and beauty.
3. Tell myself something nice every morning. I used to be ultra-insecure about how I looked (acne, height, underweight, bad teeth, greasy hair, etc.). I read an article about confidence and here’s what I did with the information: Every morning, I think of something that I love about myself. It doesn’t matter whether it’s inside or out; all that matters is the positivity. Bullies will realize that you’re confident and won’t even bother picking on you because you are simply too fabulous for them ๐Ÿ˜‰
4. PINTEREST YAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!!!!! Okay, other than PI, Pinterest is my favorite website in the whole wide world. I have a board on my account called “Faith and Quotes” and I pin items to it that are encouraging, funny, inspirational, confidence-boosting, etc. Whenever I am feeling down, I just open up my board and take a peek at things that will help me feel great. This activity can also be done with a shoebox and pictures and cut-out quotes.
5. Dress your best. Wear what you want, not what other people want you to wear. You need to feel great in what you are wearing!!! Take fashion risks with bold colors and prints. Embrace your lovely curves (I would be so happy to have a bit more meat on me so that I can fit into the adorable women’s and Junior’s clothes at stores!! Still fitting into kid’s clothes at 16…). Don’t feel like you need to cover up or drown yourself in clothing (it never looks good!). Flaunt what you’ve got and experiment with different looks so that you know what looks good on YOU.
Alright, that’s it for me! Please, please, please try your best to hold your head high and ward off the bullies with God’s protective shield of faith ๐Ÿ™‚ You can do it, girl! I will be praying for you along with all of the other girls whose confidence I help boost with Give the Look. Know that you do not walk alone and that there are countless others in the same boat as you. If you need any additional advice, love, prayers, or help, feel free to contact me through my website givethelook,.wix.com/givethelook . I hope all of this helps!!! I found this quote from John Lennon that has a bit to do with staying strong: “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not, okay, it’s not the end.”

God bless โ•ฐ(โœฟยดโŒฃ`โœฟ)โ•ฏโ™ก

February 4, 2015 at 16:37
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