I am about to be 20 years old in less than a month, and I have never had a “real” or constant boyfriend. Through high school, this was never a big deal to me because I didn’t want to have such a serious relationship at such a young age (especially with the thought of it changing when going to college). Now that I am in my Sophomore year of college, things seem to be going no where. I have been approached by many guys, but most of them are not christ-like at all. They want to try and push me into doing things that I feel make me uncomfortable or compromise my faith, which I will not do. It just makes me feel so hopeless because my friends have such good boyfriends who honestly do treat them right. Now I’m not saying their relationships are perfect or that I know every single thing that goes on with them, but I do not understand why it is so hard for me to have a guy who loves God and only wants me and not another girl on the side. I have prayed about it so many times, and many nights I have cried out to God about it, but my patiences really are wearing thin. Am I doing something wrong? I am a quiet girl for the most part, and I am modest. I don’t like parties, nor do I drink or do other things. I’m not saying these things make me special of any kind, but I thought that maybe that type of guy I am looking for would notice that. How should I go about this situation? God is definitely the most important one in my life, and I want to do things His way. It’s just so hard…
|October 12, 2015 at 11:52|
I totally feel you. I’m 18, a freshman in college, and I’ve never had a boyfriend either. The idea that I may never be loved or feel it for someone else is suffocating. Clearly, I don’t have any real advice for you, since I’m in the same boat; however, I just want you to know you’re not alone. It’s so easy to feel like you’re the only one going through this, and the loneliness can be so overwhelming. But things will get better. That’s what we have to keep believing. God is looking out for us, and He has his hand in everything, even when we can’t see it.
|October 15, 2015 at 07:59|
@sunnydeelovely Thank you so much for your response. I do believe that God will make everything right in his timing, I’m just glad that there are other college girls out there who feel me. LOL!
|October 16, 2015 at 19:43|
Of course! You are definitely not alone. I’m praying everything works out for you! 🙂
|October 19, 2015 at 20:07|
Totally understand! I have never had a boyfriend, and never actually had anyone express interest in me until a few days ago. I’m not even sure i should pursue it because of various reasons, but the point is, that if God has put the desire of marriage in your heart, he will satisfy that desire. My parents didn’t get married until they were about 35. They they almost gave up on actually finding the right person to spend their lives with! Now they have been happily married for 26 years! Don’t give up!
|October 21, 2015 at 07:59|
@GymnastGirl97 Awww, that’s such a blessing your parents found each other! And so true, I’m just going to continue to strengthen my relationship with God because I know that is the most important one I will ever have. Until He feels that I am right for another one, then great! But I think you should pray about the guy who is showing interest in you 🙂
|October 21, 2015 at 18:21|
I totally understand! I am a Junior in college and it wasnt until last summer that someone truely liked me. He left shortly after without a whole lot of reasons, but the Lord used it to grow me in ways I cannot describe. I myself am working on my relationship with the Lord. There is a guy that I am interested in, but if we truely want the Lord’s best than I am going to trust in Him to work things out. It is definitely hard, but think of how horrible your situation would be if you didn’t have the Lord’s love. Remember that the Lord is enough. I man’s love would simply be extra! Praying for you!
|March 12, 2016 at 16:47|
I think God is waiting out on you for someone special! It’s hard to stay patient, but I think it will make it worth it in the end.
|March 14, 2016 at 18:04|
I’m19,and never dated a guy before,i feel like the right guy will come at the right time,and for me,I know that as much as I would love a guy in my life right now,I know I’m not ready for him.And maybe that’s the case for you,you may not be ready or he isn’t ready.Just trust God’s timing,it will be worth it,know matter how long the wait is. 🙂
|March 22, 2016 at 18:02|
Also I want you guys to remember that marriage may not be what God has for you. I am trying to remember that too. It’s hard thinking about it like that but we don’t know the future. So we should learn how to be happy with where we are now. It would be nice to be married but marriage isn’t for everyone. Not to mention it’s better to wait and then find someone right for you than rush into marriage and then end up unhappy. Just trust God. And remember, no matter what, married or not you are awesome, God loves you and has amazing plans for you. <3
|July 27, 2016 at 08:09|
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