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Girl To Girl Talk: Do You Ever Feel Unloved?

Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and council. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.  

This week’s post comes from a girl who is suffering through some hard circumstances, and some insecurities she is feeling in her family relationships. For the sake of privacy, I will refrain from posting the link, but if you would like to read through our Girl Talk forums and post comments, click here.

Sometimes it can seem like we are alone on our journey, or we may feel like no one cares. Obviously, we know that the truth is we are LOVED, CHERISHED, REDEEMED, VALUED and are God’s prized people! We are God’s children and He delights in us! We are the apple of His eye; just like a Father cares for His children, so God does for you!

Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings (Psalm 17:8).

Even if your earthly parents aren’t understanding or loving, God loves you! We honor our parents and love our friends no matter what happens, but it can be hard. We need to switch our minds from the natural to the supernatural and remember what God’s Holy Word says about us. Feelings and emotions can send false messages. Our circumstances are temporary, and remember…things ALWAYS get better!

And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows (Matthew 10:30-31).

Think of your circumstances this way–at least we have victory in Christ and know that ALL things will work out for the good of those who love God (Romans 8). Even if we don’t feel loved or understood, Jesus understands!

He was persecuted and went through so much suffering when He was taken to be killed on the cross at Calvary. Even in the events leading up to his death, Jesus had temptations and battled the flesh (Matthew 26:48). He was even nervous in the garden of Gethsemane. His circumstance was nerve-wracking, scary and dark, but Jesus knew what the outcome would be. He knew He had to go through with God’s plan and His will, even though it didn’t feel good.

Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing; but the body is weak (Matthew 26:41).

Obviously, there are situations in which you need to speak up. If someone is bullying or harming you, then that is real and is something that needs to be dealt with. If you happen to just feel lonely and are going through normal human emotions, don’t worry…YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

We all have good times and bad. It is how we look at our lives, our season we are living in, and it is ALL about perspective!

Let us persevere through trials and realize there is a crown of glory awaiting us in eternity when we overcome trials; when we honor God and don’t give up, we WILL reap a harvest (Galatians 6:9). Remember God’s Kingdom is the opposite of the world’s system. It says in the book of James that when we have struggles and trials, we are blessed. Seems crazy, right? Well, it further explains that the trials gives us discipline, perseverance (like an athlete has), and ultimately, character.

We desire to be godly people and followers of Jesus, but there will be dry seasons. We just need to remember God is SO faithful, and He brought the Israelites out of the dry desert into the lush, bountiful land flowing with milk and honey. He promises this for me and you, too!

Ultimately, God is working on our hearts, has compassion and will bring us into His promises when we are ready! Don’t give up and keep your head held high. Remember, you are God’s chosen royalty!

PI readers, what do you do to keep your confidence in God high? Also, do you have any favorite quotes or scriptures that lift your spirit when you’re down? Share them below!

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10 Comments

  1. Kenna1996

    Posted by Kenna1996 on August 11, 2013 at 20:41

    Thanks I daily struggle with this

  2. YarnPrincess

    Posted by YarnPrincess on June 5, 2013 at 15:51

    Wow this was amazeing it was byond what I need the hear. I have been feeling so unloved lately. And seeing that just made my day.

  3. lilyworshipsongs

    Posted by lilyworshipsongs on June 5, 2013 at 14:11

    Wow. I saw the link to this on facebook and was like “OMGoodness! This is EXACTLY what I’ve been struggling with!” The Lord always seems to speak to me in some weird way ^^ (hehe, he’s mastered social media too. XD)

  4. littlefaithexplorer

    Posted by littlefaithexplorer on June 5, 2013 at 11:38

    The Stirring

    Stepping out into new territory I sense a new freedom. Not the kind of freedom where my body was physically bound but a freedom where my mind has grasped a new perspective. Breaking the old thought patterns of slavery. A slave to the way I’m suppose to be, not good enough, not perfect enough. Deciding to stand in the gap where Truth gave His life. Where He was beaten and hurt from hatred because they did not understand Him, they did not know Him, and they definitely did not want to believe Him. I have chosen to stand here with Him and not even death can separate us. The cruelest stare joins us closer together…one step closer to joining in His suffering. How can I know this love He so freely gave? How can I touch the hand that took the nail for me? How could He endure such pain on the cross? Was it for me this death He died? Was it for me the hand that held the nail high? Was it for me His heart burst blood for sin? Is it His love which covers over my sin? Hiding my nakedness, shame and regret. I hide in His wounds, I hide to His left. We stand we stand firm as the fighting goes on. We stand together as He upholds me in His right arm. Shout to the North He cries as we read His Word so true. Shout and don’t be silent for I am standing, standing with you. Raise up your shout so loud, so loud for all to hear. For I am coming quickly to take with me my bride, my beautiful bride to be. Come quickly when I come. Leave everything behind. The only thing you need are your two doves eyes which are no longer blind. Take my hand, come into my heart. Here you must rest and abide in My light. Forever I will cherish the time we’ve spent choosing Life in such a dark time. Rise up my love, my fair one and come away with me. Choose Me, choose Life and forever you will walk free. Free as my slave, no longer but my wife. I’ll take care of you and comfort you as only I can. I’ll uphold you and carry you to places I’ve been. I’ll show you the sights of my coming, beginning to end. Take courage, take heart I am with you till the end. -Jesus

  5. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on June 5, 2013 at 09:26

    We suffer for the cause of Christ, Amen?! 🙂

  6. abbeyg

    Posted by abbeyg on June 4, 2013 at 13:39

    I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for this:)

  7. bethanytorstenson

    Posted by bethanytorstenson on June 4, 2013 at 10:07

    I think at one time or another girls will feel like this. It is normal. I think that it can be super sad and hard for a while though,

  8. IdaPahus

    Posted by IdaPahus on June 4, 2013 at 03:44

    I love this quote from Britt Nicole “Whatever you have been told, you`re worth more than gold!!”. We are so loved maybe not by people, but God always loves us with an unconditional love.His love is all that really matters!!!

  9. Gracers22

    Posted by Gracers22 on June 3, 2013 at 14:54

    I actually really needed to hear this! Thanks Christi!! I’ve been struggling recently with A LOT….especially with not feeling loved by anyone. So Thanks So Much!

  10. devsings

    Posted by devsings on June 3, 2013 at 13:26

    “Not till we are lost do we begin to find ourselves.” Henry David Thoreau.
    Romans 12:12 LEt your hope make you glad. Be patient in time of trouble and never stop praying.