Girl to Girl Talk: What Godly Girls Really Want in a Guy
Written by Christi Given | February 23, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
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Since it is the month of love, I want to share some words from a Project Inspired Girl who recently posted on Facebook about what she believes godly girls want in a guy. Here’s an excerpt from what she wrote:
“So here is the answer you have all been waiting for…GODLY GIRLS want Jesus.
We don’t care about anything or anyone else more than Jesus. We love Jesus. We want to serve Jesus all of our lives. And if Jesus tells us to be single forever, we will do it.
So know that there is nothing you can do to take His place. However, if we believe you are a man who will make us more effective in living out God’s personal calling in your life, we will be drawn to you….”
Bottom line, if you are a woman of God, you will desire a man of God.
We also want someone we can look up to as a leader in the relationship, one who draws us to Christ, not away from Him. We desire to be able to openly discuss our relationship with God unashamedly and also to be able to grow together with the man of our dreams. We desire to flourish in our home church and to have strong fellowship within our study groups and so forth. It’s not just important for our man to be a provider and leader; we first and foremost want a man of integrity. Not someone who is perfect, but who is chasing after the Kingdom of God.
What kinda of guy do YOU look for? Are there characteristics or traits that you desire to have in a husband someday? What are those qualities?
On the flip side, what traits will you have to contribute to a godly relationship? Do you desire to become a Proverbs 31 woman?
Here’s what the Message version of the Proverbs 31 verse says:
A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear of God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!
Amen and amen to that! PI Girls, make sure you really seek out the Lord before giving yourself away to anyone, whether it be emotionally or physically. Honestly, it’s not worth hurting yourself to just assume any guy who even “says the right things” is going to protect your purity and walk with God. I love what Ruth wrote about what “godly women want.” That doesn’t mean godly women are perfect, but they are seeking a perfect Savior.
I pray this message blessed you and encourages you to be prudent and wise in your selection of dating and in courtship leading to marriage.
God loves you SO much—more than the stars in the sky and more than the grains of sand on the seashore!
PI Girls, do you think that God is #1 in your life? Do you agree with PI Girl Ruth’s post?