posted on September 14, 2012 at 2:38 pm
The biggest news from this year’s Video Music Awards is the hug and kiss caught on live cam between Rihanna and Chris Brown. The moment only lasted seconds and it was her kiss on his cheek, but it was enough to cause a stir.
This incident follows Rihanna’s public admittance to Oprah last month that she still loves Brown and he’s the love of her life.
For those who may not know the Rihanna/Brown story, check out the following clip:
The question this news story prompts me to ask is whether girls should go back to the guys who abused them in the past. My answer is a difficult one to give, primarily because it’s not one a young girl in love wants to hear.
When a young woman falls in love for the first time, the emotions involved are so consuming and it seems like the end of the world when that love ends–even if the one she loves had abused her.
I don’t think Rihanna would want to hear my answer either, because for her, Brown is the one. But is he really? If he were, would he have treated her the way he did? If they were a match made in heaven, would they have fought to the extent they did? Sure, couples argue, but I believe if they’re matched as God intended, they wouldn’t allow any disagreement to reach the point of violence.
The truth is that God has a plan for us and it does include love. But it’s a love that’s genuine and destined for us. God would never partner us up with someone who intentionally would hurt us because abuse is NEVER okay. And so we need to put our trust in Him if we want to find the love and devotion that’s ours.
In order for any young girl to let go of the emotions that bind her to destructive love, she needs to call out to God and ask Him for strength. Because during such moments, it seems an impossible feat, so only He can help her.
Any woman or girl in Rihanna’s position really needs to refocus her perspective in order to move on. This is why I believe girls should court and not date. Her priority should be on Christ and pleasing Him, and when the time comes, God will place a compatible and loving man in her life. And PI ladies, this message goes for you also.
Putting strong emotions behind you isn’t easy. But with Christ’s love and strength, you truly can do it. And when the Lord leads you to the right man for you, you’ll realize the love you thought you couldn’t live without wasn’t really love at all.
Ladies, pray with me please.
Lord, ease the hurt and pain of those young girls who’ve been physically and emotionally abused by someone they loved. Let each girl first turn to You for a love no man or boy can offer. Let each also realize their worth, and Lord, I ask that you guide them with the understanding that rushing into love only leads to rushing into loving those who were not destined to be with them.
PI ladies, do you think Chris Brown is the love of Rihanna’s life? Do you believe a girl can have a healthy and positive marriage with someone who physically abused her in the past?