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Is Chris Brown Really the Love of Rihanna’s Life?

The biggest news from this year’s Video Music Awards is the hug and kiss caught on live cam between Rihanna and Chris Brown. The moment only lasted seconds and it was her kiss on his cheek, but it was enough to cause a stir.

This incident follows Rihanna’s public admittance to Oprah last month that she still loves Brown and he’s the love of her life.

For those who may not know the Rihanna/Brown story, check out the following clip:

The question this news story prompts me to ask is whether girls should go back to the guys who abused them in the past. My answer is a difficult one to give, primarily because it’s not one a young girl in love wants to hear.

When a young woman falls in love for the first time, the emotions involved are so consuming and it seems like the end of the world when that love ends–even if the one she loves had abused her.

I don’t think Rihanna would want to hear my answer either, because for her, Brown is the one. But is he really? If he were, would he have treated her the way he did? If they were a match made in heaven, would they have fought to the extent they did? Sure, couples argue, but I believe if they’re matched as God intended, they wouldn’t allow any disagreement to reach the point of violence.

The truth is that God has a plan for us and it does include love. But it’s a love that’s genuine and destined for us. God would never partner us up with someone who intentionally would hurt us because abuse is NEVER okay. And so we need to put our trust in Him if we want to find the love and devotion that’s ours.

In order for any young girl to let go of the emotions that bind her to destructive love, she needs to call out to God and ask Him for strength. Because during such moments, it seems an impossible feat, so only He can help her.

Any woman or girl in Rihanna’s position really needs to refocus her perspective in order to move on. This is why I believe girls should court and not date. Her priority should be on Christ and pleasing Him, and when the time comes, God will place a compatible and loving man in her life. And PI ladies, this message goes for you also.

Putting strong emotions behind you isn’t easy. But with Christ’s love and strength, you truly can do it. And when the Lord leads you to the right man for you, you’ll realize the love you thought you couldn’t live without wasn’t really love at all.

Ladies, pray with me please.

Lord, ease the hurt and pain of those young girls who’ve been physically and emotionally abused by someone they loved. Let each girl first turn to You for a love no man or boy can offer. Let each also realize their worth, and Lord, I ask that you guide them with the understanding that rushing into love only leads to rushing into loving those who were not destined to be with them.

PI ladies, do you think Chris Brown is the love of Rihanna’s life? Do you believe a girl can have a healthy and positive marriage with someone who physically abused her in the past?

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17 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by cowgirl98 on September 19, 2012 at 08:05

    i agree with Nlacrosse124

  2. Paris

    Posted by Paris on September 15, 2012 at 21:54

    God can transform the most broken people.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by Journalistlove on September 15, 2012 at 16:43

    I think there must have been a misunerstanding I don’t really think she was trying to say abusive people can’t change. She just wants to know what we think: Should a girl go back to an abusive guy or should she not? I mean not all opinion is truth, but God gives us the right to have our own opinion unless, that is He wants to change it.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by Journalistlove on September 15, 2012 at 16:37

    I think that if it’s within a marriage, if there is abuse, everything should be saturated in prayer. God should be the one in control; plus he hates divorce and he can put marriages back together, even abusive ones.

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by XxRachel_Luvs_SkittlesxX on September 15, 2012 at 13:15

    Rihanna is stupid for going back to someone who abused her…. Unless God has changed Chris Brown, he isn’t right for her. Although, Rihanna is apart of the illuminati, God has a plan for her life.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by haley_nicole_4_Christ on September 15, 2012 at 06:03

    It’s her decision. 🙂 It’s possible to forgive someone, as she probably did, and let’s just leave the rest to HER!! Honestly, I feel like this is honestly turning into a place where Christians get together to talk about “dirty” celebrities. I came her for advice about Jesus…and Jesus only…

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by Maddie on September 14, 2012 at 20:36

    So in other words Chris Brown is not allowed to change? A kiss on the cheek does not necessarily mean they’re back together. Judas kissed Jesus on the cheek before he betrayed him. I agree with you that abuse is an awful thing and it shouldn’t occur, but when you make such a big deal about a kiss ON THE CHEEK, it makes everything more dramatic.

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on September 15, 2012 at 08:14

      Maddie: If you believe this post is about a kiss on the cheek, you’ve missed the crux of the message. And nowhere in this post does it say Brown or any other person who’s been abusive in the past cannot change.

  8. kayla.hb13

    Posted by kayla.hb13 on September 14, 2012 at 20:11

    God can lead our hearts to do the right thing, and I hope Rihanna learns this. Dating is not a good idea, but courting is. Tonight I was asked to go out on a date, but I said no and explained that my heart is so wrapped in my faith and family I don’t have time for a boyfriend right now. It was one of the hardest things I have done, but he took it fairly well and was very understanding. Girls, I pray we can show the world that waiting for a pure, Godly relationship is the way to go!!

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by live life to the fullest on September 14, 2012 at 19:29

    I think that if you are married than you should stay together as much as possible. My Dad used to be what you would call quite abusive he even got arrested and put in jail. My mom stayed faithful to him through it all and now today they are still together and have been married for 16 years. God really can heal people. He is all powerful and mighty! He can heal realationships especially if you are married and have children!

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by Brittany on September 14, 2012 at 16:00

    Saying abusive people can’t change is a lie straight from the devil. I know that from my own personal testimony.

    I don’t like sharing my personal testimony, because honestly I used to hate myself for what happened, and I feel still disgusted about it. There were many nights where I actually contemplated suicide, because I felt like I didn’t deserve to live and that I didn’t deserve to be happy or have fun. But God has been helping me through all the guilt and I can say now that I no longer want to commit suicide and that I deserve to be happy as much as anyone else. What happened in the past was not supposed to happen, and it wasn’t who I was supposed to be.

    I guess I might as well just come out and share it. When I was around 6-7 years old (I honestly can’t remember because most of it’s blocked out of my memory for some unknown reason. I assume because I’ve had a lot of trauma about what I did) I didn’t believe in God at all. I thought He was some fairytale. This definitely didn’t help my behavior, and I also spent a lot of time watching violent movies. I witnessed emotional abuse, and also experienced some myself. So I quickly realized that all I had to do was abuse someone to get my way.

    This turned into me physically abusing my mother to get whatever I wanted, whether it be a video game or candy. She actually got bruises on her because of this. I even tried to push her down the stairs once.

    This disgusting and horrible behavior continued for quite a while. I think there was a part of me that wanted to stop, but didn’t know how. When I was around 8 years old I was going to church every Sunday even though I didn’t believe in God, and I could recall hearing a sermon of some sort about how all sinners go Hell. This quite honestly freaked me out, as it would any 8 year old. I got down on my knees and prayed something similar along the lines of “God, if you’re there, please forgive me and change me.”

    Within a week or so I still had my same personality (which I was scared God would change), but my behavior was completely different. I didn’t hit my mom anymore or anything. I still got mad at her, but it never resulted in physical violence like it had before.

    I’m 16 now and my mom and I are closer than ever. We are practically best friends.

    So not to be rude, but I disagree completely 100% with this article. God is amazing, and He can change the worst of the worst, like He did to me.

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on September 15, 2012 at 08:08

      Thank you for sharing your testimony. But let’s be clear. Nothing in this post says an abusive person can’t change. Your first sentence is not only way off base but offensive. Please read the article before making such comments.

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by Nlacrosse124 on September 14, 2012 at 15:30

    Hey Nicole-
    I get the point your trying to make, but first the Taylor swift thing, and now this? I feel like this is turning into a gossip website.

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on September 15, 2012 at 08:21

      I wrote this post and there are very important messages in all PI posts. The majority of my culture shock posts have, and will continue to introduce a celebrity story. But I always take the incident and apply it to our own lives. If all you take from these posts is mere gossip, then you’re missing the value in them.

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by Journalistlove on September 14, 2012 at 11:14

    Yes! I so believe that God can do anything. God can heal an abusive person just like he can heal a person in a wheel chair. An abusive relationship can be turned into a beautiful one. You should watch fury to freedom. OR look up Raul Ries and look up his story because it’s one that would have to do witht this one.