Q&A – Should I Be Worried if My Friend is Emo?
Written by Aysha Ives | September 12, 2011
Recently I’ve noticed that my friend has gotten into a thing called “Emo.” You’ve probably have heard about it, but if not, in my view it’s extremely satanic. She doesn’t cut her wrists or anything like that, but it’s the way she dresses and who she talks to that I’m concerned about! I know its not my job to tell her what to do, but I want to try to help. She says that she doesn’t do any “satanic” things, but isn’t just saying that you’re “Emo” basically like doing all of those things?
Many young people who immerse themselves into the “Emo” lifestyle do so because they’re struggling with negative emotions and don’t know how to resolve the underlying problems. They often feel neglected by mainstream society and are drawn to this culture because they feel accepted and understood by others who are involved. This culture openly embraces depression and despair and followers report that they’ve finally found other people who know exactly what they’re going through. What these young people don’t know is that there is someone even greater that can heal them from whatever it is that’s going on in their lives. GOD.
You have a right to be concerned about your friend because the “Emo” lifestyle can be harmful. I don’t believe in “accidents” so there’s a reason that the two of you are friends. God strategically places people into the lives of others and your current assignment may be to bring her closer to God. I encourage you to use this as an opportunity to witness to your friend. God has placed you in her life for a reason and I’m confident that you’ll continue to tell her about the goodness of our God. Even if your friend knows about God, once her relationship with God grows, she’ll see that the Emo lifestyle can be destructive and is not something God approves for us. I know that God disapproves of this lifestyle because the Bible tells us this:
Philippians 4:8 – Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
A culture that embraces depression and despair and even sometimes self-harm and death is NOT focused on things that are lovely, pure, noble, admirable or praiseworthy.
I’m glad that your friend has you in her life. Continue to witness to her and offer her encouragement. Pray for her and if she’s open to it, pray with her. Encourage her to get help from a trusted adult about issues that are going on in her life. If she is harming herself in any way, including cutting herself, using drugs or having reckless sex, please, please tell an adult. Although she may be mad at first, she’ll thank you later.
I truly hope this helps.
Does anyone else have any advice?
Written by Aysha Ives