Rebecca St. James’ New Book: “What Is He Thinking?”
Written by Christi Given | January 23, 2012
Rebecca St. James is a popular Christian singer and author. On September 26, she released her latest book, “What is He Thinking: What Guys Want us to Know About Dating, Love and Marriage.”
In the book, she covers Christian dating through interviews with males from all different age groups. St. James asked questions via social networking to uncover information on dating, courting and marriage.
The book covers various topics from first impressions to flirting, body image…to spiritually connecting, physically connecting, and marriage. It tackles relationships from a spiritual side, gives examples of things you really shouldn’t do while sharing opinions on practices you should pursue, warnings of spiritual activities leading to the guy and girl getting too attached to each other, and good input on how crucial it is to have some kind of spirituality rooted in your lives together in order to have a healthy, godly relationship (Jesusfreakhideout.com).
St. James gives godly wisdom and council, uses scriptures, and discusses modesty, purity and general advice for younger women. Many of the men in the book are godly men and give encouragement and words of wisdom.
Don’t settle. You are a priceless gift. In Genesis, when God formed woman from man, the Hebrew word used for ‘made’ means ‘to form into a priceless object.’ Nothing else in the Garden of Eden could fill the void that Adam had. Too many women today settle for men who do not truly value and cherish them. If you settle, you are enabling men to not be who God has called them to be. Trust that God will bring to you what you need.
St. James includes scriptures at the beginning of each chapter. In the first chapter, she addresses “First Impressions” and shares her fears and doubts, including dating stories.
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is great worth in God’s sight (1Peter 3:3-4).
In the section, “Beauty is SKIN-not SKINNY-Deep,” St. James asks men about true beauty.
Beauty is a big concept; it doesn’t just deal with physical characteristics. It also gives us a glimpse into our souls and who we are (Andrew).
I like natural-looking girls (Brendon).
Don’t go for the skinny-minny vibe. It is not attractive to guys! A risk-taking spirit is attractive to me (Julian).
Guys don’t say ‘I want the skinniest girl possible.’ Girls can be pretty and not obsessively skinny. Actually, many times it is not a positive thing for guys to see a girl who is very skinny. An engaging personality is way more important! (Robbie).
No matter your shape and size, you are BEAUTIFUL because God handmade you! You are a precious treasure! Don’t settle while waiting on the Lord! Remember, build a friendship first and pray about who are you around.
He who walks the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm (Proverbs 13:20).