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Save the Drama! What You Can Do to Stay Drama-Free

Project Inspired welcomes “Inspired Guests” to our community. These experts, bloggers, and passionate everyday people stop by to share their personal perspectives on faith and beyond. Today’s guest, Lauren DeMoss, is a New England-based blogger for the site thefulltimegirl.com

“Do you know what she did? Did you see what she was wearing? Did you hear what they said about YOU?”

Oh, the drama. Sometimes it feels like we can never escape it. It’s a love/hate relationship for most girls…we love to hear the latest gossip, but not when it’s about us!

We all know that one person who is always bent on seeing the bad in situations or looking for the faults in others–someone who is all drama. No one is perfect and drama will arise, but if we are thinking on the things of God, it will be a whole lot easier to handle drama or gossip in a loving way, and treat one another with grace.

Our grace for others is directly proportional to our understanding of the grace we have received from God. When we hear a bit of gossip, are we genuinely concerned for the victim…or with having something to tell our friends or hold over someone else’s head? Will we use it as a source to draw attention to ourselves or to Jesus Christ?

Maybe you are thinking, “Yeah, I wish so-and-so would read this. They can’t seem to keep me out of their drama.” The bottom line is that you can’t control the actions of others. You can only control your own actions–everyone is only responsible for their own stuff.  If you seem to be stuck in someone else’s dramatic episode all the time, pray for them, seek godly counsel about the situation, kindly speak to that person about what is going on, and if you can’t ever seem to stay out of their drama, separate yourself from them.

It’s hard to rise above the drama that surrounds you–especially if it involves you. It has a huge effect on our emotions, but this is when we have to trust God. That always seems to be the answer, doesn’t it? And it is always easier said than done.  But girls, if we are seeking our God, He has promised to take care of us and work all things together for our good. No matter what anyone does around you, no matter if the whole world seems to hate you…if God is for you, then nothing can stand against you.

The bigger picture is that your life will consist of the things YOU focus on. Start thinking about pure, lovely and true things. Focus on your relationship with God and what He has called you to. Focus on all the blessings God has given. Focus on all the people you love and who love you. Today’s latest drama is not the meaning or overall purpose of your life. God is so good and I promise that you have so many wonderful things to be thankful for today and even better things to look forward to tomorrow.

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laurendemossLauren DeMoss is the founder and author at thefulltimegirl.com. Through her writing, she desires to point people to Jesus, and encourage and inspire her generation and the next to be courageously and fully abandoned to their Savior. It is really all about Him.

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17 Comments

  1. Lilster

    Posted by Lilster on March 15, 2013 at 14:33

    And that’s why I mostly hang out with guys… although actually, I know a few guys who cause almost as much drama as girls. But it’s still a lot better.

  2. ashleyrawlings

    Posted by ashleyrawlings on March 15, 2013 at 13:33

    True friends are the ones who have nice things to say about you behind your back.

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by on March 6, 2013 at 17:14

    I think it’s important not to pick pointless fights, but we also need to make sure we aren’t using “I don’t want to start drama” as an excuse for “I don’t want to stand up for myself.” It’s a fine line. We have to choose our battles.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by on March 18, 2013 at 21:39

      So true! It’s important to stand up for ourselves AND others, which we do by fighting for truth.

  4. Em91181223

    Posted by Em91181223 on March 6, 2013 at 16:35

    I love this article and her blog! 🙂

  5. JustaDreamer

    Posted by JustaDreamer on March 6, 2013 at 14:58

    What I’m finding out is that a ton of girls really don’t like each other, but they act like best friends. I just don’t get it! I mean, they’re are people I don’t like and I’m polite to them, but these girls literally hang out all the time and then turn around and talk about how much they don’t like each other!

  6. misstake

    Posted by misstake on March 6, 2013 at 07:57

    Sadly this site needed this. :/

  7. Art

    Posted by Art on March 5, 2013 at 18:30

    Yay! My two favorite bloggers know each other! SO AWESOME! Lauren, I love your site, and Nicole, you are an answer to my prayers! 🙂 Yay! So cool!

  8. PolkaDot

    Posted by PolkaDot on March 5, 2013 at 16:53

    Thanks for this post! I didn’t read all of it but this sort of thing is so big in America and it is nice to see people writing things that can help us stay focused on what really matters!

  9. ArtisanJem

    Posted by ArtisanJem on March 5, 2013 at 16:43

    Thanks for the article, I will be reading your blogs. 🙂

  10. Eurydice

    Posted by Eurydice on March 5, 2013 at 16:29

    You know, I was going to ask about this on the forums…

    It can be frustrating to deal with this kind of stuff when you’re trying to keep up a professional presence at work. Some of my co-workers like to talk about our other colleagues–another co-worker’s work ethic, how long someone is going to last in the company before they quit or are fired, if someone is unreliable or neurotic, etc. I find that the best thing you can do, especially in a work environment, is to neutralize the conversation. Don’t engage in the gossip, and try to change the subject as soon as possible; that usually sends the message that you don’t want anything to do with talking behind other people’s backs. If they’re not taking the hint, deal with it quietly and privately by telling the person you’re not comfortable talking about others like that. They might dislike you for it, but they just might respect you for standing up to them.

    • hockeychick20

      Posted by hockeychick20 on March 6, 2013 at 20:02

      I wish more people thought like that Eurydice! At lunch at my co op classes you can tell that the other girls talk about me when they hang out. But HEY I’ve got better things to do than worry about them! I try not to let them know that I notice. I don’t talk about them either, unless its alone with my sister! lol

      • Eurydice

        Posted by Eurydice on March 8, 2013 at 08:25

        I complain about my co-workers all the time, but I keep it at home. Sometimes you need to vent, but it needs to be kept private.

        My work/gossip policy also has to do with building a solid relationship of trust with my colleagues. If I don’t engage in gossip with my co-workers, they can safely assume I’m not talking to anyone else at work about THEM.

    • Remedy

      Posted by Remedy on March 5, 2013 at 21:43

      I agree! My guidance counselor who is in her 50’s and is practically my second mom was telling me that even at her age, people she works with still have problems with each other. You can never really escape it. You either let it consume you, ignore it and hope for the best, or resolve the issue.

  11. hockeychick20

    Posted by hockeychick20 on March 5, 2013 at 15:42

    This is awesome! 🙂 There are some super snooty girls in homeschool group who are hard to deal with. I used to get caught up in it and now I ignore them! Now they don’t like me, and their moms don’t like me cause I hang with the guys that they’ve chosen for their girls (who they are teaching to be ditzy boy toys) to be with. It’s crap but I’ve learned to ignore it! Guys are so much easier to deal with…

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by emmyplayssoccer on March 6, 2013 at 06:01

      I agree with you there. no girls in my homeschool group liked me.I just hung with my 3 guy friends.

  12. unicorns4567

    Posted by unicorns4567 on March 5, 2013 at 15:11

    thanks for writing this i really needed to hear it! i will try to start pointing people to JESUS innstead of me