posted on February 6, 2012 at 4:40 pm
Have you seen the Demi Lovato photographs everyone’s talking about? Apparently, in an attempt to transition from child star to adult, Lovato opted for a “sexy” photo shoot.
When discussing the photo shoot, photographer Tyler Shields said this:
I think people have a very specific vision of her. No one has seen her doing anything remotely sexy. But she’s a grown woman now, and she wants to be sexy and feel sexy, and she wants to have these pictures forever. Little kids eat lollipops. She’s not a kid anymore, but people view her that way. It’s like, ‘So if you’re going to view me as a kid, then here ya go.’
There are many definitions of the word “sexy,” but they all have the same connotation: “Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest,” “sexually suggestive or stimulating,” “erotic.” If Lovato’s intention was to be sexy, then I’d definitely agree that the images of her with the lollipop are “sexually suggestive.” But does Demi Lovato really want to be sexy?
The desire to be sexy is the desire to be seen and recognized as a sexual being. You want boys or men to find you “arousing.” And when they find you arousing, that means that they’re thinking erotic thoughts about you. Is that what Lovato wants?
By being thought of in a sexual way, will Lovato then feel like a grown up? Will she then be taken seriously as an adult?
Why is it that so many female child stars take off their clothes when they turn 18, as if being an adult means dressing and acting sexy?
In “Spears, Gomez and Beyond: Can Starlets Transition Gracefully Into Beautiful, Modest Women?”, I wrote about whether Disney stars can transition into adults while still holding on to their dignity and self-respect. Acting sexy does not make you a grown up, it makes you sexy, and therefore attracts only negative attention. I also wrote a post on whether Lovato is making all the wrong moves, and sadly, I think she is here.
Ladies, please! If you are fans of Lovato’s, I hope you don’t emulate her actions. Whatever age you are, you should refrain from the desire to embody “sexiness” in order to be cool or to feel like an adult, or to impress anyone – especially boys. Please know that falling into this ‘sexy girl’ trap can often times attract negative attention from boys and men — the kind of attention that will only get you hurt. The fact of the matter is, boys and men don’t truly respect girls who turn themselves into sex objects. They respect girls who respect THEMSELVES!
I pray that you girls don’t feel that you need to look sexy to be considered an adult or feel a sense of self-worth. As Christian girls and young women, you should glorify God by respecting yourself, remaining modest and staying pure.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
Lovato is a beautiful young woman and certainly can get enough attention for her natural, modest beauty, as well as her musical talents. Take a look at the following clip from a recent Seventeen magazine photo shoot. It’s the polar opposite of the Shields shoot, but definitely more modest and beautiful, in my opinion.
What do you think of Demi Lovato’s Tyler Shields photos? Do you think she looks grown up in the Seventeen pictures? Do you think that Lovato needed to present herself in a sexual way in order for us to see her as an adult?