posted on July 10, 2012 at 4:07 pm
The sad news in Hollywood is that Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise have gotten a divorce. It may not be surprising, since Hollywood relationships rarely last, but it’s still sad.
At this point, we really don’t know what the underlying reason for their divorce is, but there’s a lot of talk about it being related to Holmes having issues with Cruise’s passion for Scientology. I don’t want to get into the gossip of the story, but I do believe that this brings up a very important question for you, PI ladies.
Since she’s a Catholic–assuming she still is–should Holmes only court Catholics from now on? And when it comes to finding the right husband, should you as Christians only court someone of the same or similar faith as yours?
In other words, should Christians only court and marry other Christians? This question may sound divisive, but befriending a non-Christian is different from marrying one. Especially if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you have a strong desire to glorify God.
On PI, we’ve discussed both courting and choosing a partner with the same or different religion. Holmes and Cruise’s situation is a great real-life example of the consequences of marrying someone of a different belief system. As Christians, we must put Christ first. Holmes’ first mistake was to put Cruise first.
Holmes had admitted in the past that she had a teen crush on Cruise. So imagine her luck when she was actually approached by him, and then to receive a proposal? I’m sure that was pretty surreal! Needless to say, putting her own Catholic faith aside for his personal belief must have seemed an easy feat. It’s Tom Cruise!!!
But one baby and five years of marriage later, the fireworks are over. Some sources close to the couple are saying it’s because their child is at an age where she too will be partaking in the faith, and Holmes is against that.
Personally, I see this as a perfect example of how religion plays a huge part in marriages. When you put boys and crushes before God, you lose sight of what’s important: Christ.
When the time comes for you to court, there will be many characteristics that you’ll take into consideration before deciding whether the person is right for you. Personality, interests, aspirations, family values and children are just a few of the subject matters that should be discussed, but the most important should be your desire to follow Christ and his teachings. And this is because Christianity dictates how you live your life, how you relate to other people, how you raise your children, and many other things.
As a Christian, Christ must come first in everything you say and do. If your husband doesn’t agree with this, or you are so besotted by him that you are willing to put him before Christ, then you’ll eventually become lost in your relationship. This is because different belief systems lead to conflicting ideas and priorities.
This is what may have happened to Holmes and Cruise. In the short term, the romantic idea of marrying her superstar celebrity crush may have blinded her. He was her No.1, not God. His interests became hers and she lost herself.
But in every marriage, reality sets in and the honeymoon ends. And when that happens, you need to be with someone who shares your love for Christ. You need it because it determines how you deal with every aspect of your marriage.
PI ladies, how important do you think it is as a Christian to marry a Christian?