posted on March 13, 2012 at 6:08 am
Do you have a bestie who’s always hurting your feelings? Well, your friend might actually be a frenemy. According to Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, A frenemy is “one who pretends to be a friend but is actually an enemy.”
Actions speak louder than words
Does your friend say one thing and then her behavior indicates something different? A good gauge as to whether someone is truly your friend is how her behavior makes you feel. If she’s constantly and purposely hurting your feelings, then that’s a good indicator that she may really be a frenemy.
No one is perfect so even a true friend might unintentionally hurt your feelings sometimes. However, what differentiates a friend from a frenemy is motive. True friends won’t purposely hurt you. Friends are loving and are quick to make amends to salvage your friendship. A friend who truly cares about you won’t want to see you hurt.
A frenemy, on the other hand, is intentionally hurtful and is always trying to make you feel or look bad, especially in front of others.
- Your friend is constantly gossiping or spreading rumors about you
- She exposes your innermost secrets to others
- She always seems jealous
- She is unnecessarily competitive just to make you feel or look bad
If this sounds like your friend, it may be time to re-evaluate your friendship.
Check back soon for my next post: “How to Deal with Your Frenemy.”