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The #1 Biggest Secret to Real Beauty

I’m not sure why, but happiness really makes a person look beautiful. Maybe it’s the beautiful smile, the enlivened complexion, or just the energy that you radiate when you’re happy, but whatever it is, people definitely take notice! Happiness is important because when you’re happy you attract more people to start friendships, working relationships and romantic relationships.

Personally, it was especially hard for me to be happy while I was in high school. I had a lot of pressure on me to do well in school, pick a career, get into college and on top of that, my hormones were going crazy. There’s a strange process that your brain goes through during that time that prepares you for living on your own and being independent. This process causes you to be very irritable and makes ‘feeling happy’ very hard. So how do you maintain a steady level of happiness when your brain and the world around you are making it nearly impossible?

Here are five steps that have been extremely effective for me (and everyone I know!) for maintaining happiness and attracting people.

1. Self-actualization. Self-actualization is a term that psychologists use to describe the process of bettering yourself and working towards a goal. When a person is working towards a goal, that’s when they tend to feel most happy. This can be a personal goal, a career goal or a school-related goal. One project that inspired me and definitely qualifies as self-actualization is the story of the Christian teen group Pure Heart Girlz.

My advice to you – find something you’re passionate about and strive towards your goals! Whether you’re starting a club, learning to play an instrument or working on an art project, find something you really care about and work a little bit on it every day. You never know what little projects can become big or open doors for new opportunities.

2. Surround yourself with positive people. I’m most happy when my friends are supportive, especially when I’m successful. You can tell that a friend is worth keeping when they’re happy for you rather than jealous of you when something good happens. I had a friend who had something great happen to her and almost all her friends were ecstatic for her success, but one of her friends was very negative about it. Your real friends will be happy when you reach your goals. Also, stay away from people who are very negative. If you spend some time with a person and afterwards you feel sad or like they sucked all the energy from your body, stay away from that person. These people will only bring you down and keep you from reaching your goals.

3.  Eat well and exercise regularly. It’s so important to fuel your body with the right things for optimal energy and performance. Make sure you’re eating foods that are rich in nutrients and balance the kind of foods you eat. Make sure to get all the food groups in a day. I make sure to eat vegetables, fruit, dairy, meat and carbohydrates every day. When my diet is balanced, I’m much more energetic and resistant to getting sick. In addition to the health benefits, eating well also makes you look better — your nails are stronger, your hair shinier, your cheeks rosier and your eyes are brighter! If you can’t get all your nutrients with your meals, you can try taking some vitamins in addition to a balanced diet.

Exercise is also very important to keep your energy levels high. Be sure to exercise for 30 minutes at least four times a week. You don’t have to play sports or run. Find something you enjoy even if it’s just dancing around your room. If you’re enjoying your exercise, you’re more likely to stick with it. When I was in high school I ran cross country and it gave me so much energy in all aspects of my life.

4.  Relax! In the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, this is called “Sharpen the Saw”. It’s just as important to rest as it is to work to your full potential. Make sure you take some time for yourself every day to slow down and enjoy life. Spend time with friends, watch a movie you really love, whatever makes you happy. Whenever I have a rough day, I go home and watch Breakfast at Tiffany’s. I guess you could say that this movie cures my “mean reds”.

5.  Don’t worry!  Give your troubles to God. When you’re young, it feels like you have no control over your life. I still worry about things that I have no control over. When I get too stressed or feel hopeless I know I have to turn to God. He’s always helping me make decisions and helping me relax when I’m worried about something that I can’t change. God is the only one who is omnipotent and he’s the one who can help when you worry about things you can’t change. Every night I get so worried about the future. I pray to God and everything seems to work itself out. If there’s one thing that has helped me maintain happiness, it’s my trust in God. I know he has the power to make everything work out exactly the way it’s supposed to.

I hope you can apply my five steps to happiness in your own life. Be sure to let me know in the comments if you will use the steps or if you have your own techniques for maintaining happiness and radiating your true beauty!

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31 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by karlabelivesingod on October 3, 2012 at 13:19

    That is a good saying.

  2. soccersk8r14

    Posted by soccersk8r14 on October 1, 2012 at 20:46

    thank you sssoo much!! I loved this!:)<3

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by liv4god on September 20, 2012 at 08:43

    I will definitely use these and apply it to my life. This is great.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by Artist_In_Blue on September 5, 2012 at 02:51

    thx for the suggestions! I loved this article because it’s so encouraging. I really liked where you that practicing little things (i.e. guitar since I do play) can lead to big opportunities. Keep writing like you are because words like these really do inspire people to do bigger things that please God.

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by Blovedforever on August 5, 2012 at 10:25

    this is just awesome. 🙂

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by Sammy_Jo on July 9, 2012 at 14:54

    It always seems to make me happier if I smile and wave while I’m driving at people I pass on the road. Before I know it my spirits seem lifted, and it always gives me a big boost when they smile and wave back. You never know…someone you waved to may have needed it very much!

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by 1_artist on June 25, 2012 at 09:13

    Thanks. <3

    I totally relate to this, and I needed this. 🙂

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by Maddie on June 25, 2012 at 08:46

    Also, take a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar with water. Trust me! It clears up your skin, makes your hair shiny, your skin glow, has a ton of other benefits plus anti aging properties and makes you not get sick!

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by Country Christian Girl on June 25, 2012 at 06:28

    Love, love, LOVE this article! 🙂

  10. Dee

    Posted by Dee on December 27, 2011 at 16:01

    I totally agree with you! Another thing I suggest is that people keep a thankfulness journal. Write down things that you are thankful for, then pray for them. It makes you much more aware of all the good things in your life.

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by luvJesusInHeavn on November 20, 2011 at 11:56

    Thank you very much for this article! This is beautiful! Thank you! 😀 <3

    PS: Can I be a blogger too…?

  12. Posted by on October 1, 2011 at 10:04

    I love the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens.. and for those who are older than ‘teens’ check out the book ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’..
    also on the working out thing, there are websites and vids on youtube you can find for mostly ten minute workouts that can exercise different muscles. You can combine these to make a perfect workout for you, if you can’t go to a gym.
    And yes, diet is extremely important, the healthier you eat the more energetic you’ll feel, the better you’ll be able to concentrate, and, people will enjoy being around you more.
    I cannot stress enough how important it is to have friends who will influence you positively. I take part in peer mentoring and so I do interact with some negative atmospheres, but make sure that the people you spend the most time with and look up to are people of integrity.
    I am very goal oriented, I am very artistic and I have around three art projects going that I am very excited about. I also write, so I love writing stories as well.

    so thank-you for posting this article.. I know this comment is a little late but I just saw this article and thought I’d comment!

    • Posted by Nicole on October 8, 2011 at 12:56

      this is so true, I love the quote “show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”

  13. Posted by on September 26, 2011 at 14:24

    Gonna use these! Sadly I think I might have to weed through some friends… :/ They are the energy draining friends… Any good advice on how to do this???

  14. Posted by on September 23, 2011 at 11:39

    Could someone tell me what it means to be beautiful? Ive been called ugly a lot and i dont know what beauty is anymore.

    • Posted by Nicole on September 24, 2011 at 01:22

      Beauty is something that comes from within, I’m sure you’ve notice many “beautiful” girls before, but when you talk to them they are arrogant, mean spirited, and rude. Those types of girls are NOT beautiful. Your character is the most important attribute. Someone who is truly beautiful is kind loving, passionate about what they love, sticks up for their beliefs, is a happy and positive person, and takes care of themselves. You are fearfully and perfectly made by our God, and His opinion is what counts!

  15. Posted by on August 28, 2011 at 10:33

    I know number 2 is a HUGE thing in my life. Whenever I’m with friends, there’s not even an inch of space for any type of worry or sadness, because I’m too busy laughing and having a good time! My friends are always very important to me <3 I'll be sure to keep all of these steps in mind :)Thanks so much for this!

    • Posted by on August 29, 2011 at 23:36

      I know the feeling! I always surround myself with people that lift me up and it really makes a difference! It’s so hard to feel sad or alone when you have such good friends.

  16. Posted by on August 27, 2011 at 08:30

    That is so funny because we were just talking about happiness in my Hebrew scripture class this week.

    • Posted by on August 29, 2011 at 23:36

      That’s fantastic! It’s always good to focus on the positive!

  17. Posted by on August 26, 2011 at 12:14

    funny I had a pretty bad day at school today and I was telling God about it (even though He already knows:) and I came across this! I’ve got a new gameplan thanks! 🙂

    • Posted by on August 29, 2011 at 23:34

      I’m so glad this helped you! I always tell God about my bad days as well and it always gives me hope for the future.

  18. Posted by on August 25, 2011 at 22:24

    question what kinds of vitamins?

    • Posted by on August 28, 2011 at 05:09

      My parents also suggest those daily multi-vitamin ones. 😀 Other vitamins: Fish oil’s also good for your brain and skin, blueberry for your eyes, and ginkgo for um…I forget. But my mom’s making me take that one too. XD

      Oh, and -always- take your vitamins with a bit of protein, or else they just go right through your body and don’t process. 🙁 Take it with scrambled eggs, or sausage, or milk or something in the morning. 😀

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by 1_artist on June 25, 2012 at 09:21

        @Exlon: Haha, ginkgo for memory! Ironic how you forgot that one, lol. 🙂

      • Posted by on August 29, 2011 at 23:39

        That is fantastic advice! I have a friend who is a nutritionist and she said to always buy chewable or liquid gel tablets because if you don’t chew hard vitamins then they won’t be absorbed into the body. Personally I really like Nature Made multi-complete vitamins.

    • Posted by Nicole on August 26, 2011 at 13:32

      I like schiff vitamins, especially the hair skin and nails. My skin has gotten so glowy from it! and their B vitamin gives me lots of energy!! And Mega D-3 is also excellent for all around health.

  19. Posted by on August 25, 2011 at 19:25

    I love it and I will definitely use them!

    (1 Peter 5:7)Let him have ALL your worries and cares,becuase he is always thinking about you and watching EVERYTHING that concerns you.

    • soccersk8r14

      Posted by soccersk8r14 on October 1, 2012 at 20:48

      omgosh thank you so much for that verese!

    • Posted by on August 29, 2011 at 23:33

      That is so beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing; I’m going to write this scripture down and put it somewhere I will see it daily!