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The Struggle Of Being An Introverted Christian

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TL;DR – this is a story about me as an introverted Christian and how I learned to examine my intentions more.

This past week my church put me on the welcoming committee.

Yes, me. The biggest introvert you’ll ever meet, was now on the welcoming committee…

Insert panic attack….

When I heard the news, I quickly got nervous. I thought to myself, ‘I can’t do that. I’m an introvert’! Put me on the set up team! That’s where I shine. It’s where I feel most ALIVE. It’s where I can be me. After going back and forth about this in my head, I responded to the email and promptly declined the offer. I stated that it would make me feel REALLY uncomfortable. Thankfully for me, this wasn’t a problem for them. In fact, the email came back moments later suggesting some other areas where I could help.

Boom! Off the hook! At least I thought I was.

The following Sunday, as service started, we went through the usual stuff, but this time we got to the “meet your neighbors and get to know one another” portion of the service, or as I like to think of it, my “personal h e double hockey sticks.” Our pastor informed us, while looking at me (it’s funny how that seems to happen in these times) to greet 10, yes 10 people. I felt the Lord’s conviction right then and there. So, I did it. I went through the motions and met 10 different people. It wasn’t easy. It was actually very awkward. However, I powered through! And that’s where today’s post comes in.

Is it okay for Christians to be introverted? Many of you are probably rolling your eyes thinking “yeah, I was born this way!” To a certain degree that is true. We all have personality traits and for some of us (many of us) introversion is a way of life. So what can we as introverted Christians do in a church that seems very extroverted?

It starts with understanding who you are.

I mean fully understanding that you’re not inferior or that there’s nothing wrong with you. You simply like deep conversations over small talk, you prefer solitude a lot more than being around people. Small group discussions typically find you without words and you’re much more comfortable with your hands down during worship. There is nothing wrong with that.

But, here is where we as introverted Christians DO tend to get in trouble.

Acts of service.

You see, we LOVE being alone. And saying “no” to any group activity is usually the norm for us. But that is where we need to improve. You see, in my example above I didn’t want to be on the welcoming committee, despite being asked. I said no because it genuinely freaked me out. THAT, my friends, is where we get in trouble. We’re hindering God’s Devine plans because of our own insecurities. What if God wanted me to be on the welcoming committee for a specific person? What if someone missed their blessing because I freaked out and said “no.”

Now, this isn’t written to get you all messed up in your head. I just wanted to point out that as introverts we tend to act on fear and insecurity and distance ourselves from one another. It’s something that I’ve struggled with in my life, but God is helping me work on it. Why? I don’t know. Maybe He’s teaching me something for another season in my life. I can’t be sure, for only He knows His plans. But what I do know is that I need to understand my motivations and intentions before I say “no” to anything.

From here on out, I vow to not let my introversion impact my true mission of making disciples of ALL nations. Are you with me? Will you go out of your comfort zone too?

Next time I get asked to be on the welcome committee, I will accept and just embrace the awkwardness that will come along with it. Who knows, maybe in a couple of weeks, I will have a funny or cool story to share.

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9 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Le4NaLuvsD1sNey on June 19, 2017 at 09:33

    I’m an introverted person as well (with social anxiety), so this is wonderful!

  2. raesta102

    Posted by raesta102 on January 28, 2017 at 22:28

    The meet and greet is my least favorite part of church. It always plays out like a nightmare for me. I generally just end up hiding behind my mom, shaking my brother’s hand, and looking around for someone I actually know. I can definitely relate and I feel very challenged right now. Thank you for your post.

  3. princesshunter

    Posted by princesshunter on January 28, 2016 at 21:05

    Can you do a post on witnessing as an introvert?

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by trulyblessed on May 28, 2015 at 22:02

    I can totally relate to you, thanks!!!

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by PianoGal on May 20, 2015 at 18:52

    Thank you so much, this has challenged me.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by leyn2060 on May 19, 2015 at 21:22

    I’m an introverted Christian as well, thank you for this!

  7. Winged Eloquence

    Posted by Winged Eloquence on May 19, 2015 at 21:11

    I’m an INTP with INTJ influences.

    For people who aren’t familiar with personality typology, it means that I’m a very introverted, somewhat eccentric young woman who spends most of my time tossing ideas around in my head and exploring theories. I can usually be found with my nose buried deep in a book. Basically, the epitome of a literature nerd. There are only a few people in the world who don’t zap my energy very much – and, as for the rest of humanity, I have a painfully short “battery life” before I feel the frantic need to retreat and recharge.

    No, there isn’t anything wrong with introversion. I’m glad that the article says that. Too often, introverts are vilified or looked down upon as “weird” or “uptight” or [insert adjective of your choice here]. That simply isn’t true. We introverts have our own unique strengths and abilities, just as extroverts have theirs. We can excel in areas that extroverts find difficult. I read an article once that suggested that introverts’ and extroverts’ brains are physically wired differently. We function differently.

    As an introvert, I’m learning to find ways to plug in and serve people that line up with the gifts and talents God has given me. I’ve found that I enjoy apologetics, and I consider it a ministry to respectfully challenge my professors, fellow classmates, and others in conversation. I’m passionate about logic. I like to analyze a problem and figure out a solution. And I also have a deep-seated love of writing, and I hope to use it for God’s glory.

    Like the author of this article, God has recently been challenging me to step out of my shell and expand my comfort zone. My goal is to run after God with “reckless abandon,” whatever that means. Is it terrifying? Yes. Will it involve a lot of gaffes, stilted conversation, and desperate literary references that no one finds funny but me? Probably. I just hope God can use me somehow, quirks and all.

    • raesta102

      Posted by raesta102 on January 28, 2017 at 22:26

      The level to which I identify with this comment is almost laughable, with the only exception being that I’m and INFP-T. I always love seeing blogs and comments that I can agree with and relate to, but rarely do I find one that I identify with as much as yours. The writing, the apologetics, the literary nerdiness, and all the rest of it is almost exactly me. I often find myself getting into debates with people I know about apologetics and the interpretations of different sections of scripture (my mom says it’s because I like to argue like her, but my dad says it’s because I like to be right like him).
      That was a very long paragraph that can roughly be translated to: thank you for your comment. I really liked and appreciated it.

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by _sunlightinme_116 on May 19, 2015 at 18:38

    Wow …. I need to work on this…