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Tips for Ending A Relationship

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Whether it’s a boyfriend that you’ve been dating for two months or a best friend that you’ve known for years, ending a relationship is a difficult task. Here are a few tips to make the experience a little more bearable for both of you.

  • Always end a relationship with a spirit of love. The Bible tells us to “do everything in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14.) Although you can’t control the reaction of the other person, you can choose to speak gentle words in a loving manner. This will make the experience more tolerable for both of you!
  • Be honest! Sometimes it may seem easier to give an untrue reason about why you’ve chosen to end things. However, it’s always better to be honest. Use kind words but always be straightforward and truthful. Also remember to avoid giving someone false hope. If you don’t plan to resume the relationship, make sure that it’s very clear. God tells us “show proper respect to everyone” (1 Peter 2 :17) which means always being upfront and honest with others.
  • Be firm. You can be kind while still being firm. Don’t let anyone pressure you into continuing a relationship that you really want to end. This is especially true if the relationship is toxic or abusive. YOU SHOULD NEVER STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP! If you’re in an abusive relationship, please seek help immediately.
  • Set boundaries. It’s up to you how much the other person is in your life after the relationship ends. If you still want to remain friends with an ex, that’s fine. However, if you’d rather downscale even further to just acquaintances, that’s fine, too. Whatever you decide is okay, just avoid giving mixed messages. If the other person doesn’t respect your decision to end the relationship and is continually harassing or threatening you, seek help from a trusted adult IMMEDIATELY.

Ending a relationship is always a difficult process. However, it can be done in a way that minimizes the frustration for all involved. Hope this helps!

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  1. desiree_moriah

    Posted by desiree_moriah on April 24, 2014 at 20:00

    So I’m Pentecostal and my boyfriend is from a Calvary chapel.. My parents thought they believed the same we did but after visiting a few times and having talks with my boyfriend we found that there were a few things that we didn’t believe the same.. We were together for over a year and I ended it. My parents told me I should , and it took a long while before I did. We chose to remain friends but I know he still has hope of being together one day. I don’t know what to say.. Honestly I want to be able to with him but my parents don’t approve and honestly I do wanna be with someone who’s into church and believes like me. He is very involved because he’s a pastors kid. He does loves The Lord.. But our beliefs arnt the same. Now if he’s somewhere I can’t go because my parents won’t let me for fear I’m gonna go back with him. I hear all the time “he’s not for me”.. I understand but I don’t. I wish my parents would have more trust and I wish I knew how to tell him that we probably won’t have that type of future together no matter how my we want it. Were friends now and I like that.. But he still has hope and my parents have a weird thing with him. I don’t want to lose my bestfriend (him) but I don’t want to hurt him either. What should I do?:,(

  2. Posted by on November 12, 2011 at 21:35

    I’m trying to ease away from a friendship because this girl, even though she is sweet and such, makes me nervous and uncomfortable because she does not respect that I don’t like certain words. On the other hand, I don’t wanna break away from the relationship because she doesn’t have many friends. This guide helped me :)

  3. Posted by on October 27, 2011 at 13:32

    I ended a relationship with my best friend (9 years at the time) because she was hanging out with this other friend every weekend and blowing me off, acting like I needed to fit her schedule. I still feel like I didn’t do the right thing, and that I overreacted. The pain after this has stayed with me ever since. I feel awful because I look at the girl who she hangs out with and did at the time and I hate her. I honestly hate her and the other girl because I feel like they took her away from me. I’m still working on trying to forgive them, it’s difficult but I will try to power through! :)

  4. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 10:46

    Im 15 and me and my boyfriend strongly beleive in god and our personal values but lately we have been drawing further and further away from each other and i do beleive that he is the best boyfriend that i have ever had but i dont feel the way i used to around him i dont love him anymore… :(

    • Posted by Nicole on July 27, 2011 at 13:35

      If you’re heart is telling you these things and you feel that way, it is God whispering to your heart telling you to focus on Him, rather than on your boyfriend. And don’t you worry, God has Mr. Right waiting for you in the future!

  5. Posted by AyshaIves on July 9, 2011 at 00:19

    Hi Sarah! Do YOU want to end the relationship or are you concerned that your friends will speak negatively about the relationship?

  6. Posted by on July 5, 2011 at 18:19

    I’m 14. I liked him, and I still do. It’s just if I tell my friends they would say “Him? You can do better than that.” Like they always say. He really likes me though, and he says he wants to stay with me as long as possible but I know that one happen…

  7. Posted by on July 4, 2011 at 14:21

    I wish I could figure this out. I don’t think it would help with ending my realationship with my boyfriend. He’s so sweet, that I almost don’t want to end the realationship, but I feel like I need to :(

    • Posted by Nicole on July 5, 2011 at 22:51

      yes you do! If you are feeling a pull in your heart to do so, it’s God whispering to you. Don’t ignore it!

  8. Posted by on July 3, 2011 at 11:53

    I just got into a relationship, but regret it. But he is so happy, and i don’t want to ruin that.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 5, 2011 at 11:18

      If you regret it, you can’t be in the relationship! you must not neglect your own happiness! How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

  9. Posted by on July 1, 2011 at 06:29

    I’m ending a relationship today and I hope this helps… He’s a little too in to me and I just need a break from boys. Besides, Jesus is the only man I need!! :)

  10. Posted by on June 27, 2011 at 15:06

    We must all endure with “the fruitage of the spirit”.