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What Do Christian Guys Really Think About Sexual Purity?

Ladies, I don’t have to tell you that we live in a hyper-sexual era–we can see it everywhere around us. Teens are becoming sexually active at a much earlier age and teen pregnancy has become a norm in schools. Girls obsess over boys and boys can’t stop thinking about sex. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you ladies striving to maintain Christian values!

And the media doesn’t help, does it? Television shows and movies constantly feature sexual content and celebrities always are pushing the envelope in their attempts to sexualize themselves.

In such a highly sexualized society, how can Christian teens feel encouraged to maintain their purity, especially when losing your virginity as a teen has become so popular?

Fortunately, not every teen is looking to lose their virginity as soon as possible. And not all boys are obsessed with sex. Check out the clip below–you may be surprised by what you hear!

Ladies, do you ever feel pressured to get a boyfriend or lose your virginity? I pray that this video encouraged you to maintain your purity and save yourself for your future husband!

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  1. destiny.chafin

    Posted by destiny.chafin on July 20, 2015 at 19:40

    This is a super touchy subject for me. Before I became a Christian, I was wild and messed a round and went way to far with a guy, and I tend to put myself below other Christians because of it.

    • Revolutionary24

      Posted by Revolutionary24 on September 3, 2015 at 10:49

      Who you were is not who you are. If any man be in Christ he is a new creature all things have passed away.(2 Corinthians 5:17) God wants you to have dignity and standards despite your past. Focus on the here and now and make sure you’re living right today,that’s all God requires.God Bless

  2. ShaForever

    Posted by ShaForever on December 13, 2014 at 07:05

    This is so amazing but I’ve actually found someone just like these guys and we are both virgins I’m 16 and he’s 18 and we are saving ourselves for marriage. It’s hard but we encourage each other.

  3. Grace014

    Posted by Grace014 on December 12, 2014 at 20:36

    Yes, this video is great, and I just want to encourage all you readers/watchers out there that I know of SEVERAL guys who are like this, and are really cool people!
    I don’t know how the Bible could be more clear that God HATES sexual immorality. Teaching ‘safe sex’ is only going to encourage more people to think that pre-marital sex is OK and that it is not damaging as long as it’s ‘safe’. Although I know that there are some topics in the Bible that are more difficult to pin-point as right-or-wrong, but this is one of sins that God clearly hates. But, don’t just be swayed by my words, read the Bible and ask the Holy Spirit to show you the truth, himself!
    Try these verses to start: Hebrews 13:4, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, Exodus 22:16-17, Jude 1:7, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 1 Corinthians 7:2, Colossians 3:5, 1 Corinthians 10:13…….
    Some people like to think that there are two sides to God: the ‘judging’ Old Testament God, and the ‘all-loving and forgiving’ New Testament God. That is not true. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. There are many verses in the New Testament that talks about God hating certain sins and sinners burning in hell. Yes, God can forgive your sins IF you confess, repent, and believe and follow Him. But the REASON God forgives in the first place, is because of the penalty of sin.
    One more thing: I would also encourage everyone to read books like those by Eric and Leslie Ludy and other Christian authors. Actually to Christians and even to God, sex is really not ALL bad. It is meant to be a beautiful thing…within marriage. Just keep that in mind.

  4. thetruth

    Posted by thetruth on October 14, 2014 at 10:52

    Any guy that want brainwashed wants sex. And for good reason. People attach too much feeling to sex. People shouldnt be scared or uncomfortable with it. They should learn about it and decide for themselves.

  5. ChanCav

    Posted by ChanCav on September 22, 2014 at 17:28

    This video was seriously just what I needed to see. I’ve never dated before and my friends have been putting me down lately because of it, but I know I just need to trust God because he has a plan for me! It was so nice to see guys my age wanting to save themselves for their future wives, it reminded that I really do need to wait and that I will meet someone who has the same values and morals that I do.

    • OliviaLC

      Posted by OliviaLC on October 19, 2014 at 14:37

      I definitely agree with you. 🙂 It is so amazing that these young men are saving themselves for their future wives and that they are encouraging other young men and girls to protect their purity too. I love that you are wanting to wait for the man that God has planned for you instead of giving into the pressure of dating just anyone. I know that the Lord will reward you for your faith in him and your future husband will be so glad that you waited for him! That is something that is very special. 🙂

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by missunshine93 on August 23, 2014 at 16:07

    love love love!!! SO glad there are Christian guys waiting for their future wives!!!

    thank you for posting!

  7. godlovesme316

    Posted by godlovesme316 on July 10, 2014 at 19:28

    don’t feel at all pressured..don’t want to end up like my aunts or like my sister..all my aunts were teen moms (60s, 70s, and 80s); my sister is now going through a lot of stress, being a single mom, having to share my niece….then having to go to court later this month to get visitation stuff…:'( pray for my sis…i have always been there for her, emotionally and physically….i am a 20 yr old virgin, soon to be in a fantastic relationship with an amazing guy, who shares the same qualities as me <3

  8. Neaster

    Posted by Neaster on July 1, 2014 at 14:07

    This really encouraged me! I’ve never dated before and some people have put me down because of it, but I know that God is saving the right guy for me! There were some guys that I thought were right for me, but I realized they weren’t. This video showed me that there are good Christian guys out there and one day I’ll meet the right one for me!

  9. catera45

    Posted by catera45 on April 20, 2014 at 19:20

    This was really encouraging to me even though I already know it its a good reminder and a true blessing THANKS(:

  10. Jesusfreak1415

    Posted by Jesusfreak1415 on April 5, 2014 at 16:42

    I love reading all these articles of guys point of view about topics like this. IT really helps me to understand a little more how much the way we, as women, dress and act effects the guys around us. I especially loved the comment one of the guys made about how we are like a gift. A gift is not something to be unwrapped until the right time. I thought that was the perfect analogy.

  11. B.I.A. Agent 006

    Posted by B.I.A. Agent 006 on January 9, 2014 at 20:39

    That’s a really cool vid! 🙂

  12. ayoo_erika

    Posted by ayoo_erika on September 2, 2013 at 19:36

    Love it! 🙂

  13. raybob

    Posted by raybob on May 21, 2013 at 11:56

    This video is so sweet and proves that there are some good guys around. This was really encouraging 🙂

  14. mickeymousebabe17

    Posted by mickeymousebabe17 on April 12, 2013 at 21:58

    I love this video!! I really needed to see this, gives me hope that there is actually good Christian guys left out there and when the times right God will send him my way, waiting is hard but I know it’ll be worth it, I want too marry a guy like this

  15. Sapphiresword23

    Posted by Sapphiresword23 on February 15, 2013 at 15:21

    This is so great! 😀

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by NatalieNoel13 on February 11, 2013 at 17:35

    Just what I needed to see! Amazing. I am going to wait for the right guy, I already promised God this and have told my pastor, mom, grandma, and even some friends.

  17. nicolegal93

    Posted by nicolegal93 on February 11, 2013 at 17:21

    I Loved this video So CUTE!

  18. Project Inspired

    Posted by iwannabeacowgirl on December 26, 2012 at 19:54

    Wow! I think i can honestly say,i have never met a guy like this, and i’ve been in church since i was four.. Well,i’m sure i have,i just didn’t know. Haha these guys made me not only want to wait for my future husband even more than before i watched this (which was a lot!), but they also make me want to follow Christ more than i have been lately. Thank you SO much for posting this video!!!

  19. Project Inspired

    Posted by speaknow194 on November 28, 2012 at 15:23

    Loved this video! I definately think all christain girls should watch this. Those are the kind of guys I would like to marry someday:)

  20. faithfulgrl104

    Posted by faithfulgrl104 on November 27, 2012 at 10:36

    I love this video! I just broke up with a guy who was always great to me but I realized I didn’t really feel much for him. We ended on good terms but I found out that he had been talking to his friends about the fact that he was wanting to “take things further” if you know what I mean. I was shocked because he had always seemed like such a Godly guy. I wouldn’t have expected him to say that. I guess it was a blessing that I ended things when I did because I wasn’t put in a bad position. But it made me start to worry about future relationships and if I’d find out the truth about a guy in a less convenient way. I always like to think that I’ll stay strong and stand my ground, but I have worried that if the moment came, what would I do? This video helped though. Those are the kind of truly Godly guys I should be looking for, not the supposedly “Godly” ones. It gives me hope that there ARE guys who are waiting too and if I find myself faced with a big choice, I can use that hope, rather than compromising my values because I’m worried there’s nothing better out there. For now though, I am simply enjoying my life without a boyfriend and praying that God would introduce the right one in His own time.

  21. Project Inspired

    Posted by jdharden1 on November 22, 2012 at 18:40

    Gosh, I so needed to hear this today. What an encouragement!

  22. Chelsi

    Posted by Chelsi on November 20, 2012 at 15:57

    This is very sweet,i love this video.

  23. Project Inspired

    Posted by LittleMonster838 on November 17, 2012 at 21:16

    This video makes me happy. It’s nice to know that there are good guys out there:)

  24. I

    Posted by I on November 17, 2012 at 14:06

    This is so encouraging to to know that there are still great guys out there who are courageous enough to stand up and say what’s right. We girls need to do the same and be bold for Christ, and an example for others to see and follow.

  25. RAGdoll392

    Posted by RAGdoll392 on November 17, 2012 at 10:57

    Great video! I’m a high school senior and have never once gone on a date. Though I don’t mind, I sometimes wish that guys I’ve had crushes on asked me out. However, the fact that they don’t proves that they’re not the ones for me and I can keep waiting for the one who’s worth it. This video proved to me that there are guys out there worth waiting for, and I have great faith that I will find him if God wills it!

    • I

      Posted by I on November 17, 2012 at 14:09

      I agree RAGdoll392. I’ve also never have had a boyfriend and don’t care either because I’m also waiting on God to bring me the right guy when I’m ready.

  26. SanctitysFlame

    Posted by SanctitysFlame on November 16, 2012 at 22:06

    My big brothers and dad have told me things similar to what is said here. We really do affect guys very strongly with how we dress, ladies! You are not dressing to be seen by them but you are dressing in a way pleasing to God, respectful to yourself and consequently respectful to guys.

  27. Project Inspired

    Posted by lovesick warrior on November 14, 2012 at 20:02

    i love it . it has open my eyes to realize that there r some guys that stand up for wat is right when it comes to sex

  28. irina1997

    Posted by irina1997 on November 14, 2012 at 14:16

    amazing video and it is true and helped me

  29. Eurydice

    Posted by Eurydice on November 13, 2012 at 11:51

    I finally bothered watching the video, and it looked and sounded VERY scripted (not to mention cheesy). Even if it wasn’t scripted, I wouldn’t want to date any of these guys…ignoring the fact they’re too young for me anyway. I like a guy who isn’t afraid of his body, heart, and mind. :p

    • I

      Posted by I on November 17, 2012 at 14:14

      I don’t think this was scripted, most of the guys looked nervous. Plus what were you expecting in the video? Some explicit content to make it more realistic or entertaining.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by ForHim15 on November 14, 2012 at 15:38

      I notice that you have commented around five different times here. I am sorry that you feel the way that you do. From many of the things you have said, it sounds as if you are trying to put up an argument with the girls that frequent here. What I am wondering is why that is necessary. We are trying to encourage each other in our beliefs, and it is disheartening to hear from you when you go to such lengths to prove us wrong. And even if this video was scripted, isn’t it still something wonderful to hope for? I don’t really believe that these young men are afraid of their bodies, hearts, or minds, either.

      • Eurydice

        Posted by Eurydice on November 17, 2012 at 09:51

        Just what have I said that was so negative, other than my distaste for the video? Also, is it really so bad to hear a different side to an issue? Not all Christians believe the exact same things, and that’s something you’re eventually going to have to come to terms with.

  30. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on November 13, 2012 at 09:35

    This was great to hear the opinions of Christian guys! Their responses were right on target!

  31. Project Inspired

    Posted by Daisy7 on November 13, 2012 at 06:59

    Its amazing to see guys actually think like that since previous relationships i am convinced i dont want to really get involved with a guy until marriage when i tel guys i dont want to have sex they make me look stupid before time it bothered me but where im from every guy i get into a relationship with wanted sex……thanks for the video…it shows theres hope out there.

  32. Project Inspired

    Posted by Monica on November 12, 2012 at 11:01

    After a while you discover you have better things to do than chase after a boy. I have so many clubs at school, homework, and other things to do that I don’t have time. Plus, I have my best friend that I don’t really have time for! What’s the point of dating in high school if you are going to break up anyhow when you go to college? I guess I’m just overbooked.:p

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by liza13 on December 8, 2012 at 12:04

      i think that one reason you should date in high school is to get an idea of what kind of guy you are looking for other than just making sure he is christian. Whether you marry that that particular guy or not, chances are you will come out of the relationship having learned something about yourself.

    • Eurydice

      Posted by Eurydice on November 12, 2012 at 16:46

      There are a few rare exceptions, but seriously…Guys in high school are seldom worth bothering with. They don’t typically grow up until after college. How do I know? I’m 23 and a college graduate. Again, there are a few exceptions, but don’t count on one.

      About breaking up when you go to college- that’s not always a certainty. My boyfriend and I stayed together even though we went to different colleges far away from each other. We stayed in touch through phone calls, texting, facebook, and whatnot. It actually allowed us to get the hard conversations out of the way without physical distractions. Long-distance relationships are hard, but they can work, and they might actually be a healthful option for people who struggle with physical temptation.

  33. Paris

    Posted by Paris on November 12, 2012 at 02:46

    There are some godly men left out there ladies! Let us wait on them! <3

  34. Project Inspired

    Posted by QuannasLove on November 11, 2012 at 22:43

    *side-hugs all of the guys in the video* You’re going to make wonderful husbands some day! Thanks for the video, it was very encouraging!

  35. Project Inspired

    Posted by godsangel on November 11, 2012 at 19:50

    Ok i wanna know where these guys live!! Cause i’m moving there! Looks like there’s plenty of AMAZING Christian guys that actually want to wait. Too bad none of them live in Michigan. At least i haven’t found one yet.

  36. Project Inspired

    Posted by HollyH16 on November 11, 2012 at 16:11

    it makes me smile to know that there are guys who really do care that it’s important to stay pure as a teen! amazing video. Love it! 🙂

  37. Project Inspired

    Posted by ncharle3 on November 11, 2012 at 16:10

    Wow. I am so happy I saw that video! Honestly, as a christian girl, I felt like I was fighting againts the media and everything that is out there + the boys!! I forgot for a long time that there are still guys out there who want Purity for God as much as I want it! thnks a lot guys!

  38. Project Inspired

    Posted by PYM-Siopao on November 11, 2012 at 08:37

    Awww… Thank you. Hehe

  39. Project Inspired

    Posted by on November 11, 2012 at 07:36

    Okay, forget a puppy. I want one of THEM for Christmas.

    • NerdyChick334

      Posted by NerdyChick334 on November 20, 2012 at 14:29

      My, is that a hint of lust I detect? But seriously, not a hippopotamus? 🙁

  40. Eurydice

    Posted by Eurydice on November 10, 2012 at 22:11

    You know…if we taught kids about sexual responsibility through comprehensive sex ed–you know, contraceptives, protection against disease, prevention of pregnancy–instead of just abstinence-only, we’d have a lot fewer problems in this issue. A lot fewer teen pregnancies AND abortions, at the very least. Areas that practice abstinence-only sex ed are where teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted nastiness are at the highest percentages.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by jazzyh on November 16, 2012 at 19:01

      The only way to be sexually responsible is to honor God in it. The only way to honor God in sex is to follow His law and wait till marriage. To God, all sins are the same, so if sexual immorality is the same as murder, then you are saying we should teach that people shouldn’t murder, but if you absolutely have to, then here’s how to do it safely so you won’t get caught and don’t have to suffer any consequences. My point is, what you are saying is compromising God’s law and trying to justify it. The more we compromise and try to justify, the more we will compromise and try to justify. And the farther we stray from His law, the more consequences we will suffer. Bottom line, It really doesn’t matter what we think is right or wrong in our own eyes. As a Christian, the Bible is the ultimate authority, and the Bible says to remain pure.

    • Kyla

      Posted by Kyla on November 11, 2012 at 16:45

      You’re completely missing the point though. God doesn’t warn against sex before marriage because of the ‘problems’ that come with it. It is because we are SUPPOSED to completely abstain and save ourselves for our husband. And besides there really is no such thing as ‘safe sex.’

      • NerdyChick334

        Posted by NerdyChick334 on November 20, 2012 at 14:20

        Well, yes, but the point of sex ed is to show people that if they choose to have pre-marital sex, there are ways for them to better protect themselves from diseases. After all, Christianity, choosing to follow God’s Word is a personal choice. I’d rather everyone choose abstinence until marriage because that’s the way, but people are still going to make their own choices and we should at least let them have alternatives. Often times, the best way to learn something is to make the mistake. That is, in all reality, how most people come to the Lord. I’m not saying we should just be like “Go sell and depreciate your bodies then come”; I’m just saying we should encourage them to follow God’s way, rather than not educate them about every way to defend themselves against unwanted pregnancies, infections, diseases. Think about it: if people weren’t allowed “safe sex” methods, diseases could spread more rapidly. No one wants that.

      • Eurydice

        Posted by Eurydice on November 12, 2012 at 16:42

        Actually, it’s quite relevant. The post above mentions teen pregnancy being a norm, and adolescent sexuality being influenced by the media. With comprehensive sex-ed and open conversations with our kids, we can instill a sense of sacredness or at the very least the presence of consequences in relation to sex.

  41. sisterwhocares

    Posted by sisterwhocares on November 10, 2012 at 19:40

    WHERE DID THEY FIND THESE GUYS?????? AND WHERE COULD I FIND ONE????? future husbands!

    • PureLife

      Posted by PureLife on July 12, 2013 at 23:09

      I KNOW!!!!!!!! Seeing this video gives me hope that there are guys out there with these values. If only I could meet someone like that. lol Maybe one day

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by speaknow194 on November 28, 2012 at 15:28

      Haha this post cracked me up! So true! lol 🙂 Good to know there are still good christian guys out there!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by godsangel on November 11, 2012 at 19:52

      AMEN SISTA!

  42. Eurydice

    Posted by Eurydice on November 10, 2012 at 19:24

    Skeptical. Highly skeptical.

    • Shanell Elise is back

      Posted by Shanell Elise is back on January 9, 2013 at 12:14

      You really need to get your life right with God Eurydice. What the guys above say are true and you have been sucked in by hollywood and the world.

  43. princessjaja

    Posted by princessjaja on November 10, 2012 at 17:15

    I admire guys like this. <3

  44. Project Inspired

    Posted by taylorswiftfan on November 10, 2012 at 14:51

    this a GREAT POST! finally some boys are SMART!! I’m gonna marry one of those boys lol!

    • kara719

      Posted by kara719 on November 11, 2012 at 07:38

      I could be wrong but I saw something like this in high school so these guys are probably a lot older now! lol but these are the kinds of guys we need to look for!

  45. _kenzie

    Posted by _kenzie on November 10, 2012 at 12:06

    I love how real this discussion is….very encouraging!

  46. Project Inspired

    Posted by Alexandra on November 10, 2012 at 11:31

    Thank you so much for this video!

    It’s amazing encouragement for me to continue being modest, and pure. It also shows me that there are still good, Christian guys out there, and it gives me hope, and patience while I’m waiting for my prince to take me away. 🙂

  47. Project Inspired

    Posted by samanthacocove on November 10, 2012 at 11:15

    this makes me happy. 🙂

  48. Project Inspired

    Posted by Eleanor on November 10, 2012 at 10:14

    This is a really sweet video! I love it!