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What Do Guys Really Think About Modesty?

Ladies, have you noticed that female fashion has become so very sexy these days? Even for young girls. If the skirt length isn’t short, then necklines are plunging or the fabrics are so sheer, they might as well not exist.

Of course, the media plays a huge part in determining fashion trends. And as we’ve discussed many times on PI, our favorite young starlets are very eager to flaunt their assets. So why do girls like dressing in this manner? I believe it’s because they want to look sexy, attractive, and hot…to the opposite sex.

Boys! It’s all about boys. That’s what they want, right? Boys like it, right?

Or do they?

Below is a video clip of different teen boys telling you what they really think about immodest dress. Do they like it? Let’s find out…

Much of what the boys said has been mentioned here on Project Inspired. But hearing it from the source legitimizes it, I believe. These are young Christian boys who are telling Christian girls like you that if you dress immodestly, you’ll conjure up lustful thoughts in their minds.

Dressing immodestly causes boys to stumble. They told you in their own words.

My mind runs places when I see that, places that you don’t want my mind to go. So, if you guys want to help us out, don’t dress immodestly.

Based on some of the comments I’ve read, I know some of you girls think that if a boy stumbles, it’s his problem, but you’re wrong. It’s your problem too, because scripture tells us not to cause our brothers to stumble.

These boys also told you that dressing immodestly sends a negative message about you. It says that you’re easy, one boy said, and that you have no self-respect. Some of the boys even went on to say that they look to the heart when they’re looking for the right girl for them.

The good guys care about what’s inside. What you heart is like. If you’re dressing like that, your heart’s in the wrong place.

Ladies, the boys in this video are young Christian boys who obviously respect girls. If you meet a boy that is attracted to your “sexy” body, then he’s just that, “attracted to your body,” not you. Your physical self is presented as a sexy being, so of course any boy that’s interested is interested in what you have to offer.

Consider this: If you go window shopping, you’re going to enter the stores with the desirable window displays, right? If you see books in a window, the store’s likely to be a bookstore. If you see shoes in a window, you assume the store sells shoes. If you see lingerie in a window, the store probably sells lingerie, right? It’s pretty logical. Well this is how a boy thinks. If you dress sexy, you must be sexual. This may not be the truth, but it’s the assumption many boys make.

I hope this video was enlightening to you. Many girls don’t get the chance to look into the minds of boys. This is a truth pill for all young girls. This clip gives you insight about what guys really think and I pray you take their words seriously.

Immodesty makes them uncomfortable. It leads their minds places they don’t want to go. It’s distracting. It sends the wrong message. Modesty tells boys that you have self-respect and that you have a good heart. Isn’t this the message you want to send?

Ladies, what did you think of this clip? Did you find it enlightening? Will it affect the way you dress from now on?

Image: YouTube Video

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  1. Joelle98

    Posted by Joelle98 on February 28, 2015 at 22:12

    I’m so happy I found this! It’s good to know there are Christian guys out there that are actually serious about God.
    And girls… I truly hope that you receive this into your heart, and strive to dress modestly, respectably, Godly, and with respect to the men around you, and your future husband.

  2. Gods Sparkle Girl

    Posted by Gods Sparkle Girl on July 3, 2014 at 10:55

    I honestly find this insightful. Honestly, it’s the wrong boys’ minds who will run places when you’re dressed conservatively. And regardless of them, we truly don’t want to cause our brothers in Christ to stumble. I think this was a really insightful post.

  3. Pinkypie2017

    Posted by Pinkypie2017 on June 21, 2014 at 03:36

    Oh and all of the cute stuff I own that I think are sexy I have worn around my grandparents and my parents and they both think their cute so yeah

  4. Pinkypie2017

    Posted by Pinkypie2017 on June 21, 2014 at 03:33

    I guess what some of the stuff they said is true I’m not saying you should dress like a slut but it’s ok to look cute and slightly sexy cause you can’t live your life just to please boys and my dad told me that boys minds will ” run places” even if your dressed like a nun it’s just the way they are they have hyper imaginations and teen boys especially with all of their h ormones running through them just naturally think like that even Christians .

  5. freedomlights

    Posted by freedomlights on January 26, 2014 at 18:32

    Wow, that was really encouraging. Thank you for sharing! I dress fairly modestly in general, but lately I’ve found myself wanting to test the line on occasion. This really encouraged me to dress in a way that doesn’t cause my Christian brothers to stumble. I’ve also heard a lot of girls say, “Well, if a guy gets ‘excited’ by how I dress, that’s his problem.” It really isn’t, though. Yes, they can choose to turn to God to fend off those thoughts, but it is naturally engrained in their mind. We, as Christian girls, should do whatever we can to keep our brothers in Christ walking strong in the faith.

  6. Patience

    Posted by Patience on September 5, 2013 at 19:13

    This is really amazing. I’m definitely going to start dressing more modest, even if it means getting rid of some of my favorite clothes.

  7. Godsgirl1996

    Posted by Godsgirl1996 on June 3, 2013 at 20:56

    This really encouraged me also the faith saver about what Christian guys think about modesty also really encourage me thank you!!

  8. Godlover22

    Posted by Godlover22 on May 20, 2013 at 15:43

    Wow that was great and so helpful!!!! Thank you! I dress modestly but I haven’t heard before what a guy says what he thinks when girls dress immodestly. We may think that guys can control their thoughts themselves and that it’s not our problem, but if the way we dress causes them to have bad thoughts then yes, as it says up there ^ it is our problem. We both need to do our part. Guys need to be careful of what they let enter their minds, BUT we can help them by dressing modestly and not causing them to stumble! Thank you so much for posting this! God bless you girls! 🙂

  9. PumpkinGirl

    Posted by PumpkinGirl on April 8, 2013 at 18:41

    There is this girl at my school who is always dressing immodestly. This video made me feel better because I was always thinking that all the guys in my school were all going to go after her- just because of what she was wearing! Thank You!!

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by Maddiemay42 on March 9, 2013 at 18:19

    Sometimes it can be so hard trying to know what is modest and what isn’t because it seems to vary from person to person but the quote that really helped me was “Would you wear it if Jesus was with you today?” if not, then don’t.

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by LeahD on February 20, 2013 at 08:21

    I am so glad this video was posted and that I came across it!
    I hate all my clothes right now, and want to buy new ones. After watching this video I will definitely be more careful when buying clothes. I didn’t dress very immodest before, but lately I have wanted to catch guys eye. (Which is kinda hard where I live. There are no guys!) But its dumb because I don’t want a boyfriend or need one. And I only want a guy who wants me for who I am. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is; thank you for posting this video, and YES. It will affect the way I dress from now on. I think I need to go through my clothes and get rid of some….

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by germanrottweilers on January 19, 2013 at 21:54

    LOVE this video!! A couple years ago, I decided that I would wait to date until I was 17. Now that I’m nearing that age, I have discovered that I definitely DO NOT want to date right now! And it’s not necessarily because I think high school guys are immature or stupid or whatever, but because I want to focus on my relationship with the One who will never, ever leave me, and who will always love me. Over the past couple months, I’ve found that I’ve fallen completely and hopelessly in love with God, but more than that, I’ve found that the more I’m focused on God, the less I’m focused on guys. I haven’t been seriously interested in guy for four months now, and I’m loving it. I’ve found freedom, love, value, and my worth in God. So, for now, I’ll focus on working for the glory of God, working hard in school, and cultivating great friendships–boyfriends will come into the picture later 🙂 LADIES: The dating scene can be put on hold–your relationship with God cannot.

  13. atla_bee

    Posted by atla_bee on January 16, 2013 at 20:06

    Ohmygoodgracious. Where have guys like this been hiding all my life?? I feel like there are little to no good, strong, Christian guys around anymore. This is so encouraging.

  14. Project Inspired

    Posted by nolasleuth on December 28, 2012 at 14:32

    Very good comments and observations! When Jesus spoke to a group of religious rabbi’s, and priest, he said,” if you look upon a woman to lust after her, then you have committed adultery with her in your heart”?
    Hmm, a tuff statement, but is it difficult to comprehend.

    Looking requires seeing,,, seeing what?,,, What creates visual lust?
    If a human body (male or female) is made to be a “billboard” for the opposite sex for attraction, well is that manufacturing lust?
    Modesty is a “condition of the heart”, and when out of the heart flows modesty, then it renews the mind, and it causes all of us to “renovate” our closets.
    Do you take Jesus in your mind, do you take Jesus in your closet, would you let Jesus lay out your clothes to dress for a date?
    Would you let Jesus put your makeup on?

    Would you like or promote your boyfriend or husband looking at any of todays American women walking around anywhere in a recreational casual way?

    You,girls, ladies have the ability and power to help protect the eyes and minds of boys or men anywhere, by 1st examining how you approach your image that you show.

    Then, girls you have the power to encourage and teach others to promote “godly modesty”. Not just for not harming men,,, but in obedience to Gods instructions and that not even a hint of bad comments could be laid against you because of any immodesty in your life.
    Happy New Year !

  15. Purpledup

    Posted by Purpledup on December 4, 2012 at 15:34

    I always dress modestly out of respect for guys and that’s what the Bible tells women to do, but I never realized HOW MUCH guys are triggered by what they see! So, I will definentley pay more attention to what I dress like!

  16. JustaDreamer

    Posted by JustaDreamer on November 19, 2012 at 18:17

    I have so many good guy friends who truly love God, and I would hate for them to stop haning around me because of how I dress. It might be harder when I’m shopping, but worth it to keep my friends and self-respect!

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by marci807 on November 13, 2012 at 10:01

    oh my goodness! so glad you put this up! It really is great to hear a guys perspective! Really girls if you follow the Bible you’ll be safe!

  18. Project Inspired

    Posted by ForeverForgivenJ14 on October 5, 2012 at 20:48

    Great video! I always try to dress modestly, but some of my clothing that’s meant to make it MORE modest doesn’t work. Such as spaghetti strap tank tops, they KEEP slipping down and I’ve tried getting both smaller and bigger sizes. It’s not as though I have a big chest at all! Anyone have tips?

    • Smylinggirl

      Posted by Smylinggirl on July 13, 2014 at 11:22

      I’ve always struggled with that problem too! Go to Justice and get some of their tank tops (the wide shoulder ones, not the spaghetti straps). If you are wearing them under low – cut shirts, then you don’t have to worry about them being too tight. I get a size smaller than the shirt I would get there (size 20 shirt, size 18 tank top). Hope this helps.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by germanrottweilers on January 19, 2013 at 22:06

      Adding on to that, maybe think about not wearing spaghetti straps out a lot. It does reveal an awful lot, but whatever your personal preference is.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by germanrottweilers on January 19, 2013 at 22:03

      I’ve had that same problem over the years. Here is some stuff that I came up with to help. . .

      -Look for tank-tops that have that sticky adherent stuff on the straps and sometimes the bra line–they form to your body to keep your shirt secure
      -LAYERING. I train and show horses, and, seeing that I’m out at the barn five to six days a week, I get really hot. So, I (providing the appropriate undergarments)wear a spaghetti strap tank-top, and then either another spaghetti strap tank or a thicker cami. They all stick together, and prevent each other from slipping.
      -The shorter the straps are, the less chance you have of your tank falling down in the first place. Try to make them short enough to provide snugness without being uncomfortable.
      Hope this helped 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by marci807 on November 13, 2012 at 10:04

      don’t wear it if it’s complicated! and usually spaghetti strap tank tops are not what one of these kinda guys would want you in. It shows to much.

  19. MissDaae1988

    Posted by MissDaae1988 on October 4, 2012 at 18:22

    I can’t possibly express enough how much I LOVE this video!!! And please tell that kid not to wash his eyes out with soap. I’ve heard its painful…

  20. Project Inspired

    Posted by Angles143 on October 3, 2012 at 13:08

    This was so helpful thanks so much!!!(:Z

  21. Project Inspired

    Posted by Angles143 on October 3, 2012 at 12:46

    This was so helpful thanks so much!!!(:

  22. hannah1997

    Posted by hannah1997 on August 22, 2012 at 11:05

    I think modesty is soo important!! I want to make a difference! What are some ways that I can get brands to make more modest, but cute, clothes??

    • DanieB

      Posted by DanieB on August 26, 2012 at 12:31

      Here’s a tip, (I do this all the time!!) go to your favorite store or clothing store. Then see a pattern or print or style you like, try it on. If its too short or the neckline is too low or both, then try to make it longer or higher without it higher than the knee or lower than the neckline. If its lower and shorter still don’t get it. Instead try a bigger size that’s longer and higher ( of course it probably won’t fit ) if its higher than the neckline and below the knee but big on the sides, ALTER it!! Or pin it. So you can find cute clothes while still being modest and being totally fashionable! Hope this works! If u have any questions just comment afterwards. 😀

  23. Project Inspired

    Posted by Ashbear96 on August 12, 2012 at 06:22

    I’m so lucky i found my Boyfriend, He’s totally for God and lives to do His will.