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What To Do When The Boy That You Like Likes Someone Else

BROKEN HEART

Dating can be pretty complicated, especially when you like someone who likes someone else. This can be a tough pill to swallow and rather hurtful. So what should you do in this situation? Here are some suggestions:

• Prayer. God says that He’ll always be there to comfort you. Ask Him for the strength that you need to work through the disappointment so that you’re better able to accept that you’re just friends.

• Make a mental note to self: You are special! Don’t think for a single second that this means there’s something wrong with you. That’s simply NOT true. There are a ton of reasons why some relationships don’t work out or never happen. Remember, God closes some doors so that He can open others.

When I was your age I wasn’t allowed to date. Even as I entered my twenties, I struggled with dating. Unfortunately, I felt inept and like guys just didn’t notice me. As I became more confident in my greatness as a child of God, I realized that there was NOTHING wrong with me and that God had someone special for me. I discovered that it’s okay that the other guys didn’t like me because they weren’t who God had created for me. All this to say, God has someone JUST FOR YOU and when that time comes, the other relationships just won’t seem to matter!

• Respect your friendship. If the guy that you like likes someone else, don’t try to sabotage that relationship. Remember to treat others the way that you want to be treated. The Bible says this:

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets (Matthew 7:12).

• Give yourself some space. If it’s too hard to watch the boy that you like dating someone else, it’s okay to distance yourself from him. You shouldn’t try to sabotage the relationship, but you don’t have to subject yourself to additional pain, either. Being a good friend means knowing your limits and taking some time away when you need it. It’s much easier to be a good friend AFTER you’ve healed and regenerated yourself.

• Keep yourself occupied. Try to keep your mind off the situation by engaging in new and exciting activities. It’s easier to move forward when you’re doing other things and interacting with other people regularly. Sitting at home depressed will just make the situation worse.

Remember that it’s okay to choose to WAIT to date. Dating can sometimes produce unnecessary pressure and premature emotional attachment. You can avoid some emotional pain simply by choosing to wait until you’re older to date. Whatever you choose, whether its to date or to wait, remember that you’re God’s girl and you’re worthy of respect.

I know it isn’t fun when you like someone who likes someone else, but remember that in due season, you’ll meet your future husband. When that happens, what’s going on now will be like a distant memory.

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by schwetzbb on August 15, 2013 at 13:30

    That happened to me, and I told him that I liked him sadly it rouined our friendship… I shut down for a while after that but now I just pray for him, there is no point in hurting myself by trying to fix our friendship.

  2. MiSSFloYd

    Posted by MiSSFloYd on August 4, 2013 at 21:56

    Uhh!!! i started a new school in January and went crazy for this guy. but he likes this girl who is super nice, a beautiful singer, and a great friend. i hate being jealous of her cause shes so nice. this summer has been crazy cause im still thinking about this guy. but this article really helped. thanx!!!

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by sparkleandshine17 on June 8, 2013 at 21:32

    I just found out for sure that one of my friends likes this boy I’ve liked for around two years (she made it kind of obvious.) She knows that I like him and she got one of her friends to see if he liked her or anyone. I’m just waiting for an answer. I am in a group chat with my friends and they keep on telling her that he likes her and they would be cute together. It hurts so much to see my friends acting like I’m not even there.

    I just read this article and it made me feel so much better. God will always be there even if boys or best friends are. I realized I shouldn’t even be worrying. I have plenty of time to date. I don’t need anymore stress in my life so I’m just going to forget about it. It summer so I’m gonna have fun instead!

  4. YarnPrincess

    Posted by YarnPrincess on June 5, 2013 at 16:53

    Hey girls ! so I know this was posted a long time ago but I just wanted to sare with you something my youth leader read to us a few weeks ago

    The Lords Plan For Your Mate

    Everone to give thenselves comletely to someone to have a deep,loveing relationship with another, to be love thoroughly and exclusively. But God says to a christian ” No, not untill you are satisfide, fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone, with giveing yourself totally, unreservedly to Me alone…I love you my child, and untill you discover that olny in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect humen relationship that I have planed for you! You will never be united with another untill you are united with Me, exculusive of any other desires and longings. I want you to stop planing, stop wishing and allow Me to bring it to you. Just keep watching Me,expeting the gratest things. Keep experiencing that the satisfaction knowinf that I am. Keep learning and listening to the things I tell you…Don’t worry,don’t be anxious,don’t go arond looking the the thing outhers have gotten or I’ve given them. Don’t look at the things you want. Just keep looking on Me, Or you will miss out on what I want to show you. Then you will be ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wounderful then you whold ever dream of. You see untill you are ready, and untill the one I have for you is ready…I am working even this minuet to have you both ready at the same time..untill you are both satisfied exclusively with Me, and the life I have prepared for you,you won’t be abel to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union I offer you with Myselfe. Know that I love youeternally. I’m God almighty. Believe and be satisfide.”

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Taylorselph99 on February 3, 2014 at 23:02

      Hey! I LOVE that verse u put! Which book in the bible is it in? And which chapter? Thanks :) it helped a LOT!

  5. Syd

    Posted by Syd on May 10, 2013 at 09:13

    Honestly, I just go box. :P It helps a LOT!

  6. iPray4Peace

    Posted by iPray4Peace on April 20, 2013 at 19:31

    This definitely happened to me a few years ago… I fell in love with him, and he was interested in someone else… But! A few years later (presently now :D), he told me he saw that I was consistent in my friendship with him…and I think he secretly knew that I had more feelings for him… He told me he was sorry for being so blind with like that other girl and asked for my forgiveness. He started pursuing me and becoming my very best friend after that (this is honestly the best way to start! But it should be driven by Christ :D). We’re not yet officially in a relationship, because we’re waiting until we’re both stable and able to help support each other as needed. So, long story short, yes waiting is sometimes SO difficult, but… Just know that if it’s meant to be, God will make it happen regardless of the situation. Only He can change a heart of a man. :D Stay faithful and remember Jeremiah 29:11 and Romans 8:28. (: <3

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by hfryman17 on April 13, 2013 at 18:57

    And if you think about it…giving every aspect of your life to God, he’s probably got someone better for you, that is worth waiting for!:) i met a guy in kindergarden and we met 11 years later and started dating…who knew that would happen? god had a plan. Jeremiah 29:11

  8. PumpkinGirl

    Posted by PumpkinGirl on April 6, 2013 at 22:13

    This was really helpful because I had never really thought about turning to God about this sort of stuff!!

  9. cookies n cream

    Posted by cookies n cream on February 20, 2013 at 23:40

    well i had that once with one of my best friends i told him i liked him and then he said he didn’t like me back he liked this other girl .The only reason i told him was because i was moving from that school to another .I still do like him but he has probably got a girlfriend by now .but instead of telling a friend i told my mom this time and that was some years back .all i did was think about some thing else something that wouldn’t get me upset

  10. carlyangel14

    Posted by carlyangel14 on February 7, 2013 at 15:43

    this help’s me to know that! but i have alway’s known that god has someone handpicked for me i just don’t want it to be year’s from now when it is :( even though i still love this guy i have to exept the fact that he is dating someone esle and be happy that god will find that someone special for me, and when the time i right i will know if he’s the one!!! <3 :)