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What To Do When Your Close Buddy Starts Using Drugs

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People sometimes do things that aren’t good for them and are displeasing to God. Whether it’s drugs, promiscuity or other forms of self-harm, it’s difficult to watch people you care about make poor decisions. So, what do you do when your close buddy starts using drugs?

  • PRAY. Be sure to PRAY for your friend. God is ALL POWERFUL and ALL KNOWING and He alone knows the best way to correct the situation. Ask Him to speak directly to your friend so that they might be delivered from this debilitating habit.
  • Witness to your friend. It’s not a coincidence that God put you in their life. In fact, it’s possible that your current assignment is to be a witness to them. Wouldn’t it be amazing if your friend was delivered from drugs and became saved because YOU had the courage to witness to them?! Witnessing to others takes courage but always remember that you’re being a leader for GOD. Ask The Holy Spirit to give you the words to say and be bold (but not overly critical) when you speak!
  • Understand that you’re not responsible for changing their behavior! You’re only responsible for changing YOUR OWN behavior. I know that you care a lot about your friend and you want to see them make better decisions, but ultimately it’s up to them to change their behavior. Jesus didn’t even force people to change their behavior and He loves us more than we can even begin to fathom. While He walked the Earth, Jesus shared The Truth with the world but He gave people the freedom to decide to follow Him or not. Jesus should be your example. Share The Word with your friend and express your concerns, but don’t become discouraged if they don’t change right away. Do what you can and leave the rest to God.
  • Tell a responsible adult. I know that you may not want to “tell” on your friend, but you may be doing your friend more harm than good by NOT alerting an adult about their drug use. Think about it this way: Drugs can be quite dangerous and even small amounts could cause a lot of problems. Sometimes young people will say: “It’s just marijuana,” or something to that effect. However, “a little marijuana” can turn into “a lot of marijuana.” Using marijuana could also lead to even more harmful drugs. Besides that, even “a little marijuana” will impair a person’s judgment and will cause them to make some very bad decisions. Regardless of which drug your friend is using, it CAN LEAD TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS. They may be upset with you at first for telling on them, but in the end, they’ll realize that you cared enough to try and help them.
  • Spend more time with positive friends. It’s really important that you spend the majority of your time with positive friends who share your values. As much as you love God, you don’t want to be tempted by negative influences. No matter how strong we believe ourselves to be, we’re ALL susceptible to falling prey to peer pressure. This is why Jesus sent the disciples out in pairs to preach The Gospel instead of sending them out individually. You can be there to support your friend, but don’t allow yourself to spend too much time in their physical presence. You want to make sure that you stay strong enough to influence them and not vice versa. So, avoid being in the presence of drugs and other things that are from the enemy which could weaken you. Remember:

“The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.” (Matthew 26:41.)

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by blackbelt312314 on June 3, 2013 at 20:44

    When I found out my best friend was doing drugs, I couldn’t sleep until I told someone. The only person I knew to tell was a cop friend of mine who used to be my taekwondo instructor. It kept my friend out of trouble, and hopefully will give me a point to talk to my cop friend about God. It has been a year and a half since I told on my best friend and though it wasn’t an easy decision I don’t regret it a bit.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by MudBloodPrincess on January 6, 2013 at 01:36

    I’d like to find a way to help two aquaintances of mine with their drug problems. They both smoke cigarettes and marijuanna. I really want to tell an adult, but the school will completely crack down on them, and even though they have issues they are very nice people and I wouldn’t ever want them to get into trouble that will go on their record. Then again, if I don’t do something now, they might end up in jail, or worse… Does anyone have any advice on how I can help them?

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by prayingiamlost on January 5, 2012 at 05:52

    My youth group has this huge new years eve party where all the funds go to an orphanage that we go visit in a third world country during the summers. This year, at the party, I had a close friend tell me that two other friends of ours, both committed Christians (we’ve seen their fruits), hung out and smoked weed once. It was heartbreaking. Then they confirmed that they had smoked weed when I asked them. I cried some more.. I know that they are Christians, I know that they have been struggling in their faiths and had alot thrown at them, but how do I support them? Our youth group used to be so much more spiritually alive and now we’ve fallen apart and I can’t keep trying to piece it together. What can I do?

  4. Posted by AyshaIves on October 19, 2011 at 12:22

    Thanks Girls for the alert. We will get the fourth bullet fixed! =)

  5. Posted by on October 19, 2011 at 11:23

    i think you shouldnt be doing drugs cause it kills you i say live your fiends.

  6. Posted by on October 10, 2011 at 19:53

    I like this! God’s heart breaks when we destroy out bodies with drugs. Drugs kill your brain cells and we are all too smart to lose brain cells. Like the saying says, “The mind is a terrible thing to waste.”

  7. Posted by on October 9, 2011 at 18:32

    Well…lets face the facts. Any kind of drug is illegal, expensive, and can up your health really badly. And as for cigarettes and alcohol, well, most of PI readers are probably under the legal age to use it. That, and the fact that both are a really gross habit. I watched a video in health class with these “cool”-looking people picking their noses. The quick 30-second clip said at the end of the video “what’s really cool about a gross habit?” Picking your nose should be way less gross than smoking, yet a lot of people think that smoking is cool. Don’t do a gross habit and save yourself from a lot of self-harm. :)

  8. Posted by on October 9, 2011 at 16:11

    Do NOT even bring in weed. If you were a real christian you would know god put the marijuana plant here for a reason; to cure people and make the world a better place.
    L E G A L I Z E <3

    • Posted by on October 24, 2011 at 07:43

      But that isnt what most people use it for…

  9. Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 12:08

    Same goes for smoking?

    • Posted by on October 10, 2011 at 06:48

      Yeah it goes for anything that isn’t pleasing to god.

  10. Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 11:40

    I believe you mean more GOOD than HARM in the phrase ‘you may be doing your friend more harm than good by alerting an adult’

  11. Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 06:53

    Oh and great article!!! A really excellent lesson and so true!

  12. Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 06:52

    Just FYI in the fourth bullet point it says “you may be doing your friend more harm than good by alerting an adult about their drug use.” I assume this isn’t what you meant. You might want to fix it.