What To Do When Your Close Buddy Starts Using Drugs
Written by Aysha Ives
Posted on October 7, 2011 at 10:17 pm
People sometimes do things that aren’t good for them and are displeasing to God. Whether it’s drugs, promiscuity or other forms of self-harm, it’s difficult to watch people you care about make poor decisions. So, what do you do when your close buddy starts using drugs?
- PRAY. Be sure to PRAY for your friend. God is ALL POWERFUL and ALL KNOWING and He alone knows the best way to correct the situation. Ask Him to speak directly to your friend so that they might be delivered from this debilitating habit.
- Witness to your friend. It’s not a coincidence that God put you in their life. In fact, it’s possible that your current assignment is to be a witness to them. Wouldn’t it be amazing if your friend was delivered from drugs and became saved because YOU had the courage to witness to them?! Witnessing to others takes courage but always remember that you’re being a leader for GOD. Ask The Holy Spirit to give you the words to say and be bold (but not overly critical) when you speak!
- Understand that you’re not responsible for changing their behavior! You’re only responsible for changing YOUR OWN behavior. I know that you care a lot about your friend and you want to see them make better decisions, but ultimately it’s up to them to change their behavior. Jesus didn’t even force people to change their behavior and He loves us more than we can even begin to fathom. While He walked the Earth, Jesus shared The Truth with the world but He gave people the freedom to decide to follow Him or not. Jesus should be your example. Share The Word with your friend and express your concerns, but don’t become discouraged if they don’t change right away. Do what you can and leave the rest to God.
- Tell a responsible adult. I know that you may not want to “tell” on your friend, but you may be doing your friend more harm than good by NOT alerting an adult about their drug use. Think about it this way: Drugs can be quite dangerous and even small amounts could cause a lot of problems. Sometimes young people will say: “It’s just marijuana,” or something to that effect. However, “a little marijuana” can turn into “a lot of marijuana.” Using marijuana could also lead to even more harmful drugs. Besides that, even “a little marijuana” will impair a person’s judgment and will cause them to make some very bad decisions. Regardless of which drug your friend is using, it CAN LEAD TO SERIOUS PROBLEMS. They may be upset with you at first for telling on them, but in the end, they’ll realize that you cared enough to try and help them.
- Spend more time with positive friends. It’s really important that you spend the majority of your time with positive friends who share your values. As much as you love God, you don’t want to be tempted by negative influences. No matter how strong we believe ourselves to be, we’re ALL susceptible to falling prey to peer pressure. This is why Jesus sent the disciples out in pairs to preach The Gospel instead of sending them out individually. You can be there to support your friend, but don’t allow yourself to spend too much time in their physical presence. You want to make sure that you stay strong enough to influence them and not vice versa. So, avoid being in the presence of drugs and other things that are from the enemy which could weaken you. Remember:
“The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.” (Matthew 26:41.)