Ladies, do you ever feel like your parents are too strict or are stifling you? Sure, they love you, but why are they constantly on your case about how you dress, who you hang out with or how you’re doing in school? If your parents are really strong in their faith, they may have even more expectations of you. Basically, it can seem as if they’re just intent on spoiling your fun.
But there is a deeper truth behind your parents’ words and actions. The following is a list of things your parents don’t want you to know. Why? Because many parents want to be perfect, or at least look perfect, in the eyes of their children. But your parents are human, and in knowing the human side of them, maybe you can understand the reasoning behind much of what they expect from you.
Remember, ladies, not all parents are the same. And not all of them fall into all of these scenarios. But I’m pretty confident that all loving parents devoted to Christ fall into at least a few!!!
- They don’t always have the answers. They may seem like they do, but in many situations, your parents have to research parenting! This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t believe what they say, but it’s important to know that your parents spend a lot of time figuring out how to be better parents. There’s dedication for you!
- They make mistakes. Most parents strive to be the best they can be, but they are human and do fall short from time to time…they may raise their voices more than they wish or forget to take the time to see how you’re doing.
- Their walk with Christ is a work in progress. Just like yours is! Your Christian parents struggle with their faith. They juggle so many balls and feel the brunt of so many burdens that sometimes it’s overwhelming.
- They were like you when they were teens. Life really wasn’t much different for them when they were your age. They experienced the same challenges as you do and faced similar issues, such as friendships, bullying, crushes and their own parents.
- They wish they could have done some things differently. You do this too, right? Well, so do they. Whether it’s related to their teen years or parenting you or even within their marriage, it’s not uncommon for your parents to look back and wish they had been softer, more compassionate or kinder.
- They’re afraid for you. From the moment you were born, your parents became fearful of your welfare. Not even kidding! Imagine being responsible for someone else’s life! And it’s a fear that lives within them daily and will remain in them even after you leave home.
- They wish they could say “yes” more. They want you to be happy, but happiness is not a result of getting everything that you want. And even though they may say “no” to that iPad, new dress or vacation, they say “no” for your benefit, even though that’s not always easy to comprehend.
- They’re living vicariously through you. Maybe it’s unintentional, but nonetheless, you are their second chance to get it right. They know the consequences of your actions, so they’re desperate to show you a better way. Sure, you may feel like it’s your life and your turn to make mistakes, but your parents want to save you the time and the heartache! Is that really a bad thing?
- They’re concerned about who you’ll marry. Again, from the moment you are born, they’re worried that you’ll pick someone who is unkind to you or is not deserving of you (in their eyes).
- They don’t know the answer to that homework question. Seriously! They’ve probably been out of school for a while, so if they tell you that you should have paid more attention in class, it could be that they don’t remember trigonometry or how to diagram sentences!
Ladies, what do you think about the above list? Share your story…we love to hear from you!