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    10 Things Your Parents Don’t Want You to Know

    Ladies, do you ever feel like your parents are too strict or are stifling you? Sure, they love you, but why are they constantly on your case about how you dress, who you hang out with or how you’re doing in school? If your parents are really strong in their faith, they may have even more expectations of you. Basically, it can seem as if they’re just intent on spoiling your fun.

    But there is a deeper truth behind your parents’ words and actions. The following is a list of things your parents don’t want you to know. Why? Because many parents want to be perfect, or at least look perfect, in the eyes of their children. But your parents are human, and in knowing the human side of them, maybe you can understand the reasoning behind much of what they expect from you.

    Remember, ladies, not all parents are the same. And not all of them fall into all of these scenarios. But I’m pretty confident that all loving parents devoted to Christ fall into at least a few!!!

    1. They don’t always have the answers. They may seem like they do, but in many situations, your parents have to research parenting! This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t believe what they say, but it’s important to know that your parents spend a lot of time figuring out how to be better parents. There’s dedication for you!
    2. They make mistakes. Most parents strive to be the best they can be, but they are human and do fall short from time to time…they may raise their voices more than they wish or forget to take the time to see how you’re doing.
    3. Their walk with Christ is a work in progress. Just like yours is! Your Christian parents struggle with their faith. They juggle so many balls and feel the brunt of so many burdens that sometimes it’s overwhelming.
    4. They were like you when they were teens. Life really wasn’t much different for them when they were your age. They experienced the same challenges as you do and faced similar issues, such as friendships, bullying, crushes and their own parents.
    5. They wish they could have done some things differently. You do this too, right? Well, so do they. Whether it’s related to their teen years or parenting you or even within their marriage, it’s not uncommon for your parents to look back and wish they had been softer, more compassionate or kinder.
    6. They’re afraid for you. From the moment you were born, your parents became fearful of your welfare. Not even kidding! Imagine being responsible for someone else’s life! And it’s a fear that lives within them daily and will remain in them even after you leave home.
    7. They wish they could say “yes” more. They want you to be happy, but happiness is not a result of getting everything that you want. And even though they may say “no” to that iPad, new dress or vacation, they say “no” for your benefit, even though that’s not always easy to comprehend.
    8. They’re living vicariously through you. Maybe it’s unintentional, but nonetheless, you are their second chance to get it right. They know the consequences of your actions, so they’re desperate to show you a better way. Sure, you may feel like it’s your life and your turn to make mistakes, but your parents want to save you the time and the heartache! Is that really a bad thing? 
    9. They’re concerned about who you’ll marry. Again, from the moment you are born, they’re worried that you’ll pick someone who is unkind to you or is not deserving of you (in their eyes).
    10. They don’t know the answer to that homework question. Seriously! They’ve probably been out of school for a while, so if they tell you that you should have paid more attention in class, it could be that they don’t remember trigonometry or how to diagram sentences!  

    Ladies, what do you think about the above list? Share your story…we love to hear from you!

    T.M. Gaouettehttp://www.tmgaouette.com
    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    14 COMMENTS

    1. I like the list, mostly. I thought it would be more like “They know best!” and “Obey no matter what!” So I was happily surprised. As you grow older you start to appreciate them more. Especially when you move out!

      • I agree on both parts. I first expected the list to be more like you said, but also you do appreciate them more after you move out. I didn’t have strong Christian parents, but they were still amazing parents. Now I only see them once every few weeks (which is more than some college students) and you really do start to miss some of the advice and love that they give you.

    2. one thing I really love about my mom is that even though her and I aren’t on the same level of faith, I can tell she is trying. Her and i are both Catholic and she may not always make it to Mass but when she does, she engages herself. She’s so supportive of me in my faith and I can tell is even happy I have a great relationship with God. I feel like she has led me in some parts and I have been leading her in others. 🙂 she knows what my faith means to me and when I was little she always made sure I was dressing conservatively and monitored my actions. I used to think it was so annoying but now I understand it all.

    3. I read this earlier, but it just occurred to me, my parents told me ALL these things. Why are these things parents don’t want you to know? I mean really, I will probably tell my kids the same thing.

    4. To be honest, it doesn’t bother me that my parents make mistakes. It doesn’t bother me that my parents raise their voice, or get mad, or act out of line. Everyone does. But I have a problem with the fact that a good portion of parents don’t see that it IS wrong to do those things. My mom lied to me for two years about having an affair. She uses the excuse “because I’m your mother” on a weekly basis to justify her decisions. “You can’t talk to that person today because I’m your mother.” I know that biblically, I am to obey her wishes, whether I like them or not, but at the same time, it’s so frustrating to not be able to do something when she isn’t willing to give a reason for her decisions.
      I suffer from depression, and there is very few people I’m comfortable discussing it with. She’s hurt because she isn’t one of those people but it’s because she’s lied to me about EXTREMELY important things so much. Am I wrong to be private about things like that? How do I respect her even when she’s hurt me so much?

      • You certainly are not in the wrong to feel uncomfortable discussing things with your mother. Its unfortunate that she would hide things so important from you, but there probably is a reason. If you were in her shoes, would you want to confide in your daughter, the person who you are supposed to be a mentor to, about all your sins? She may have been hurt and confused or trying to put up a strong front for you. Not that that’s ok, but its a possibility. I would suggest you pray, a lot. Both for you and your mother and the relationship between you. Love her, even if you can’t respect her. If her wishes are in line with God’s, honor them. Someday I would suggest talking to her about why you don’t feel comfortable discussing things like your depression with her, and with God’s hand, in his timing, your relationship can be restored. You mau even respect her again. But only God can truly heal, so go to him above anyone else. Seek and you shall find.

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