10 Tips to Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman!
Written by Christi Given | May 10, 2013
PI Girls, as you know, I love reading God’s Word and I will be contributing a couple of articles a month on a “Bible study” topic for you. My prayer is that these pieces will deepen your faith, stir a hunger for more truth and spark an interest in other facets of your relationship with Christ.
Ladies, we all want to be the best we can be…but sometimes we need a little guidance, right? Here is a list of 10 ways you can become more of a woman of God—or a Proverbs 31 woman, as spoken about in the Bible.
1. Resolve in your heart to follow Jesus wholeheartedly. In a world of distractions and time crunches, we need to prioritize and make a decision about who and what we will serve. Do we serve God or do we serve man, time and money? Know that as you ask God to open your heart in surrender to HIS divine will and purpose for your life, He will make room for your gifts (Proverbs 18:16) and will bless you with extra time when you put Him FIRST. I am a witness of this. Sometimes when I feel I don’t have time to read the Word or a Bible devotion, I stop and think, “Actually I can’t afford NOT to read the scripture of the day.” Because I know that it is fuel for my soul and for the day. If I run on spiritual emptiness, it will be clear that day, and will result in a not-as-blessed day. Does that make sense? We need to let go of the past and be open-minded to what the Lord has for us, which we know is way better than what we could plan. Amen?
Jesus said, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9:62)
2. Seek out Godly friends. How can we grow as believers if we have opposing views? We need to walk in agreement with one another. Even the Bible talks about this. We need to run the race of faith with discipline and partner up with Sisters in Christ on the same journey. I’m not saying to be mean to nonbelievers or completely ignore and be rude to people who are not as strong spiritually—in fact, you can maybe minister to them—but be wise and pray about your friendships because people can lead YOU astray. I know because I have lived it, too. I am a strong woman of faith, but even so, the enemy can use people to distract or deter you from His best plan. The Bible says in Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” This means we sisters in Christ HELP one another. If your friends aren’t drawing you closer to Christ, you should evaluate and pray about it. Ask God to bring you godly, wholesome women of faith…and HE WILL. I experienced this in my friendships—a harvest of god-fearing women. Hallelujah!
How can two walk together unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3)
3. Bathe yourself in prayer. Communication is key in any relationship. That’s a given in friendships, romantic relationships and even with your parents. Well, guess what? It is the same with God. Prayer is communing and talking with God. When we pray, it’s not only to give our requests, but also to listen and be still. We should thank God for all of our blessings and what HE already has done—which is a lot by sending Jesus to die on the cross for us (our sins He did not commit). Through prayer, God’s presence will come closer to us when we draw near to Him (James 4).
4. Refresh others with life-giving words. Words have power. One thing I am passionate about as a worshiper is lyrics, and the weight of words. When around people, we should edify them, encourage them, love them and build them up. As a true woman of God, you want to help others who are hurting, and want to give your friends and family words of life, hope and joy. Of course, no one is perfect, but remember if you want to become a woman of God, season your words with salt and be gracious in your speech. Make sure to use words that will honor God and will help lead people to Jesus.
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. (Proverbs 18:21)
A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. (Proverbs 11:25)
5. Be modest in behavior and attire. As a woman of God, you are SET APART, called to be holy and pure unto the Lord. When we call ourselves Christ followers, or children of God, but then we dress and act like the latest celebrity or TV star and have inappropriate behavior, this dishonors our King and we are held reliable and responsible (especially to those who are weaker around us). Now I believe in balance—you don’t have to wear a full head covering or ankle-length skirts unless you desire to, but what I’m saying is to use discretion. You and I know what is classy and what is not. Be mindful and have enough fear of God to care. Trust me, people will take notice, and if not appropriate, it’s not always a positive perspective. We need to put our actions and life of worship on the front line and have it match what we say and believe, amen? You can still have style, just be kind enough to care about whether it could throw off someone in your world or circle of life.
And if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a large milestone tied around his neck. (Mark 9:42)
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is worthy to be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
6. Keep a balance in life. In Proverbs 31, it speaks of the women of God who tends her field, honors her husband and family, saves, stores up for the winter seasons, makes clothing, is a blessing to others including her children and the poor—and this woman fears the living God. She has the balance of life, but she puts God as #1. We should all strive to be like this, amen?!
7. Be a wise steward. What does “stewardship” mean? According to Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary, it means “conducting, supervising or managing something….” What do we manage? We manage finances, our health, our time, our giving, sowing, serving and more. This is vital in the Kingdom of God and in becoming a woman of faith. As Christians, we need to be faithful toward the little that God has given us and entrusted to us. If we are faithful about the small things, God WILL, over time, give us more. Keep in mind that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side: People who have more are responsible for more. Remember that. Be consistent with where you are now. Once you have the basics down, then God will give you more over time, amen? (Read more at Luke 16:10 in the Bible.)
8. Fast and eat your daily bread. A lot of times people read books or devotions and gain wisdom from others, which is fantastic. It’s beneficial to your walk with Jesus to have your own personal library of resources. When it comes to seeking God for yourself, it’s even better to have your own encounters and revelations with God than just depend on others to seek Him out. It’s important to read the Bible for yourself (the daily spiritual food or bread). The Lord will guide you and teach you if you ask Him to speak to you when you read your Bible. Sometimes to really hone in the spirit and focus, you may need to spend some days fasting certain foods like sweets, social media or something to give you a discipline to be able to deny the flesh. If you are operating in the flesh, you won’t be able to hear the voice of God. God is a spirit and those who seek Him must come by the Spirit in humility in the truth.
Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. (John 4:23)
9. Listen to God’s voice (be still). God speaks to us through His holy, divine, all-powerful Word—when we draw close to Him, He will draw near to us (James 4). When we humble ourselves, He will hear us, and when we turn off distractions and genuinely listen, He will give us a Word. Some may say, “I do this, but it doesn’t work…how do you hear God’s voice?” Be patient. Be still. Stop overthinking. Humble yourself and genuinely ask God to soften your heart so that the Holy Spirit (the Counselor) can speak to your spirit. After you really ask God to open your heart to His voice, then you will have a deep, rich, personal relationship and time with God. I challenge you to do this in the morning or the evening—or even both times!
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching. (Hebrews 10:25)
10. Be planted in community. This is so important—not only to attend church, but fellowship. God’s Word says, “Apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15). The truth is, in life and in this faith walk, we need each other. We need older people, younger people and everyone in between in our lives and in the church. We need the older and wiser to pour into us, and we need to also pour back into the younger generation. Girls, you need someone and someone needs you, amen? Project Inspired is a great online community, but it’s also wise to be plugged into your local church in person to have community with people in your area. Some ideas of how to get plugged in: Find a local youth group or Bible Study, ask your church for programs or special ministry meeting times, volunteer before or during church (help set up or tear down, or become a part of kids ministry), etc. Remember, the Word says to not forget to gather together. This is huge in becoming the woman of God you desire to be.
PI Girls, who are godly women or examples in your life? Who is your favorite female Bible character?