Hey, sweet girls! You’ve heard the expressions “Don’t be modest” and “She’s just being modest,” right? What do those actually mean when modesty usually relates to clothes?
Modesty is a huge topic on this site! It may even seem as if we’ve pretty much exhausted the subject. But I don’t think enough can be said, especially when we currently live in a culture that promotes and defends immodesty in every shape and form.
I’m quite certain that lot of Christians, guys and girls alike, are oblivious to the number of truths related to the subject of modesty. I’ve stated this before: Modesty is a virtue that people instill within themselves. And because of this, it’s reflected in many aspects of our being and our lives.
- It’s reflected in what we wear. This is the obvious—and sometimes only—way that people understand modesty. Dressing modestly is not so much what we want to hide from others, but rather what we’re not willing to reveal for the sake of our own dignity. God created something beautiful when He created us. But because of man’s first sin, we have to present ourselves in a way that doesn’t turn what God created beautiful into a thing to be flaunted or lusted after. Our modest dress should be an honest reflection of our modest self.
- It’s reflected in the way we act. We all know that flirting is not modest, but that’s not the only way we can act immodestly. You may want to be the life of a party or make a dramatic entrance, but neither is modest behavior. As Christians we shouldn’t look to be the center of attention. But that doesn’t mean we need to slink into a corner, either. Modesty means moderation.
- It’s reflected in the way we speak. When we gossip, boast, curse or speak loudly or obnoxiously, then we’re not speaking in a dignified manner. And modesty equals dignity. It means that we speak softly, politely and kindly.
- It’s the way we live. Do you wear name brands? Do you have the latest iPhone? Do you share your life on Facebook or other social media outlets? Modesty means refraining from flaunting our wealth or possessions. It’s like modesty in dress: Just because you’ve got it doesn’t mean you have to flaunt it!
- It’s how we treat others. When you treat someone modestly, you’re taking the person’s feelings into account. If you know someone did poorly on a test, you shouldn’t boast about how well you did. Sure, if that person asks, you can tell the truth, but you should do it in a manner that doesn’t make her feel worse than she probably already does.
- It’s what we expose ourselves to. Whether it’s television shows, movies, the Internet or music, we must be modest in what we expose ourselves to and what we allow into our minds. Allowing immodesty into our minds gives us the opportunity to become used to it.
- It’s self-control. Do you have an addiction? Maybe it’s the Internet, your phone, your favorite show, coffee or some other vice, but when you’re addicted to anything, then you’re no longer in control of it. It’s in control of you. Modesty means keeping yourself in check and knowing when something is wrong and when something is too much.
- It’s not just for girls. Because modesty is more than what we wear, it also relates to guys. Why? Because modesty is a Christian thing! So all these points listed here are relevant to him, too—his clothes, his attitude and his way of life.
- It doesn’t equal “submissive.” Don’t be fooled. Modesty doesn’t mean you have to cover your body and sit in a corner acting submissive and staying quiet. Rather, a person who is modest carries herself with confidence and dignity. She doesn’t feel pressured by trends or pushed by peers.
- It’s about pleasing God. Because isn’t everything? We glorify God in ourselves. In everything listed here. Our demeanor reflects our Christian self. We are modest throughout because we eat, sleep and breathe for Christ. He is our world, and when people meet us, they will meet Him that lives within us all. So, we should reflect Christ in our being, and Christ was the epitome of modesty.
Modesty is a beautiful thing. It’s confident and strong, it’s poised and dignified—and it’s everything we as Christians should be.
Ladies, did you know that modesty is more than what you wear? Do you feel that you’re modest in all areas of your life? Can you think of other ways to be modest?