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10 Ways to Turn Away From Pornography

Ladies, the response to the post I wrote last week titled 7 Truths About Pornography was pretty revealing. It demonstrated the reality of how common pornography is in our culture and how it negatively affects those who view or read it. Pornography comes in so many mediums these days, and the sad truth is that children are accessing it at a much younger age.

Pornography is damaging regardless of whether you access it randomly or excessively as an addiction. It’s clearly the devil’s tool to divert you away from God, His commandments and His plan for humanity. But no matter how strong your addiction to pornography, you can overcome it.

One of my most favorite Bible verses is “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 is an astounding truth that says we can overcome any type of temptation with God’s help. And that’s something all Christians should embrace. I certainly have—so much so that it lays the foundation for my second novel, Freeing Tanner Rose.

If you’re struggling with an addiction to pornography, here are some tips for helping you turn away from the sin.

  1. Understand the truth about pornography. Realize that pornography is a supply-and-demand commodity and the more people want it, the more it’s supplied. Now think about those who are abused for the sake of supplying pornography. In many circles, as my post demonstrated, pornography is considered harmless. But when the truth kicks in, when God is acknowledged, when His design for intimacy between a husband and wife is revealed, we realize that pornography is a horrible, destructive abuse of what God made beautiful. God’s design was for love and procreation. Pornography is for lust and self-gratification.
  2. Recognize that pornography comes in many formats. It’s not just offered in movies and images, but also written in novels. Unfortunately, even erotica is becoming more mainstream in books disguised as literary fiction. One great example is the book 50 Shades of Gray, which is soon to become a movie. “Sexting” is also considered pornography, and in fact some states prosecute those who send sexual images of themselves or others.
  3. Admit the problem. I know! You’ve probably heard this a million times, but it’s true that until you come right out and admit that you have a problem, you really can’t solve it. An addiction is something you just can’t get away from. It follows you around and you can’t get it off your mind. You yearn for it, and then once you’re fulfilled in that moment, the guilt and shame kick in. It’s easier to admit your addiction when you feel like this. But when you don’t feel the guilt and shame, then you either don’t think it’s wrong or you don’t want to admit it.
  4. Know that you’re not alone. 7 Truths About Pornography proved this in the comments section. Millions of people of all ages are addicted to pornography, primarily because our culture has become very sexualized. Celebrities are made famous for sex tapes. Stars are wearing less and less on the red carpet. Our culture has accepted pornography as a way to enhance intimacy or fulfill lust. No, you’re definitely not alone!
  5. Tell someone who cares about you. This will be the scariest step. Telling someone means that you have to reveal a secret. It opens you up to criticism or ridicule or judgement. But think of it as a penance. The good thing about telling someone who cares about you is that you can have someone on your side and that someone can help to keep you accountable. It also means that you have come to terms with your addiction and you’re willing to fix it.
  6. Ask God for forgiveness. God is a loving God. And His arms are open to those who turn from their sin and run to Him. His desire to forgive is immense and His Grace will cleanse you of all sin, if only you let Him in. He makes all things new!
  7. Repent and stick to it. This means turning away from the sin. You can do this by getting rid of all forms of pornography that you have. And block all access to it online. Covenant Eyes is a software program that filters and blocks cell phones and computers from pornography. You may also remove all Internet access from the privacy of your room. I know this may seem extreme to some of you ladies, but seriously, how badly do you want to be rid of this sin and mend that relationship with Christ?
  8. Divert your attention. Staying away is not going to be easy, especially in moments of sadness, depression or anger. When we feel bad, we tend to hurt ourselves, but that’s because the devil has a hold of our negative emotions. Don’t let him get to you. Don’t let him lead you back. In those moments of temptation, you need a quick diversion. Something to get your mind off your desire. So, consider calling a friend, taking a walk, reading your Bible or praying. “God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” Find the escape!
  9. Get help. My post prompted a lot of suggestions for avenues of help and hope. If you’re struggling with a pornography addiction, check out some of these! Please note that I haven’t had a chance to go through all these websites extensively, but I took a peek at each and they offer tons of advice, resources and support.
  10. Pray for strength. “God is faithful.” His arms are open. Pray that He helps you in your struggle. Call out to Him in moments of weakness. When you feel tempted, think of Him. He is there for you, so ask Him to change your desire and to guide you away from Satan and his destructive tools.

For those of you battling with pornography addiction, I pray these tips help you and I keep you in my prayers.

Ladies, do you have helpful ways to overcome temptation? Share your story. We so love to hear from you.

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  1. bandgirl

    Posted by bandgirl on July 18, 2016 at 19:15

    As a former port addict who beat it, relapsed, and beat it again I know the struggle of what trying to overcome this is like and I’m actually encouraged that so many girls my age have the same problem. Praying for all you girls, beating this may be the most difficult thing you do. For those that haven’t yet, I’m begging you to please run from it in all forms with you life. It’s a trap that seems almost impossible to get out of.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by poppy33 on August 10, 2015 at 17:30

    I’ve never really struggled with pornography, but I have struggled with masturbating for as long as I can remember. The hardest thing for me has been admitting to myself that what I’m doing is wrong. I know that very familiar pattern of being so sorry and repenting and hating myself and then just falling into the same sinful pattern again. I was just listening to this song called Come As You Are and it’s just perfect for anyone struggling with this. The chorus starts with “Lay down your burdens. Lay down your shame.” If that sounds like something you need to do, I encourage you to give it a listen.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wsph2pOTgF4
    I’m praying for everyone struggling with this as we all need to rely on God. None of us can do it alone.
    <3

  3. Dreamerofcreations

    Posted by Dreamerofcreations on August 10, 2015 at 01:01

    I understand each and everyone of you girls… I’m proud to say I’ve been sober for a while even though I still struggle… I’m praying for all of you!
    Not just seeing or reading, I believe indulging on these thoughts is also a self-pleasing pornographic sin…

    You can’t do it alone; God will help you.

    Blessings!

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by karabara123 on August 9, 2015 at 17:49

    I also struggle with masturbation. Please write an article about that.

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by BeMyLoveStory on November 8, 2014 at 18:08

    I’ve watched porn for like 5 seconds by accident a few times (not my fault it’s freaking everywhere :/ pop up ads) but like my reaction wasn’t “yes i want to keep watching” it was like “ew.. no.. ugfdhm *face contorts in disgust*”. Am I the only person who has this reaction?? I mean, that’s not my view towards sex (at least I think not, I’m still a virgin and everything), but I feel like porn portrays it in a way that just strips away any importance to it idkk. Does everyone enjoy porn, because I didn’t and I feel like the odd one out LOL

    • Btrans4med

      Posted by Btrans4med on January 4, 2016 at 12:26

      Normally people don’t begin enjoying porn. That reaction is normal and healthy. I believe it’s the Holy Spirit at work. Typically people begin by seeing pornography and then the addiction progresses until pictures are not enough. That’s when people search for something more hardcore to feel that guilty pleasure again. I have struggled with pornography for years but never watched porn (praise Jesus!).

  6. justdaniellehere

    Posted by justdaniellehere on November 4, 2014 at 19:16

    I’ve been struggling with this for a while now and this has been a huge help knowing that Im not alone in my struggle

  7. AngelnFire

    Posted by AngelnFire on November 4, 2014 at 00:49

    I am so happy you said this, I needed some way of knowing I wasn’t alone, my struggle has been since 5 and that’s because of sexual abuse, I am fighting begging and pleading with God to help me but it feels like I am not being heard, its destroying my wonderful relationship with God and my boyfriend. I want freedom, I have had my internet block all sites, on my phone as well, but its still not enough, if I can’t have that I then turn to my bf and tempt him I just want to find freedom, but I have no one who understands to talk to or if I have they laugh it off and say it’s not wrong at all that it’s human nature. I cry in my sleep if I get any I am up all night tempted. So pray for me please I could use it.

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by Mikaela1008 on October 21, 2014 at 16:45

    Wow … Seeing all these other girls that have struggled with it… It helps me so much. I struggle with pornography, and I told my friend a few months ago, thinking I was done with it. But I’ve kept struggling with it on and off and I just can’t fully shake it. People don’t understand that it’s like a drug, it’s so much harder to just stop looking than you’d think. I feel like such a hypocrite because I’ve always been such an advocate for purity. How do you even gain confidence again after that?

    • AngelnFire

      Posted by AngelnFire on November 4, 2014 at 00:52

      I understand completely how you feel hugs I’ll keep you in prayer. I could use it too

  9. vsmith21

    Posted by vsmith21 on October 16, 2014 at 23:49

    what if there really is no one you can trust to tell? i’ve struggle with this since I was 14 and I’m now 22 and i’m nowhere closer to knowing someone enough to confess than i was back then.sometimes i wish someone would just come up and ask me and then i’d be able to admit it and a huge weight would be lifted. but i can’t tell anyone in my family or have them find out because they are so judgmental.

    • Shyanned

      Posted by Shyanned on October 20, 2014 at 13:42

      I told all of project inspired yesterday about my pornography addiction.

    • Shyanned

      Posted by Shyanned on October 20, 2014 at 13:40

      I openly admitted that i watch and read porn and masturbate and it made me feel a little weight off my shoulders to see that i was not the only Christian or girl in general who struggles with repenting against it. I pray for you that you one day gain the courage to tell someone. It is hard in todays world full of judgmental people to find someone you trust to tell this to. I was wondering if you could pray for me as well just to get the courage to tell someone one day and continue to try to repent against this destructive sin. Thanks so much.

    • ant112

      Posted by ant112 on October 17, 2014 at 12:55

      What about someone in your church family?

  10. Godsbabygirl2007

    Posted by Godsbabygirl2007 on October 16, 2014 at 11:15

    MY ADVICE!:
    Know that it’s a process. For years I blamed myself and shamed myself because I wasn’t able to just DROP my addiction. I was introduced to porn when I was 12 years old(I was molested at 5 years old until I was 7). It has taken me many MANY years to get to where I am now. I am now 26 years old. When I look back to where I was when I first started to where I am now, it is by the grace of God that I have come so far. It is a journey, it’s not an easy one but every step you take you’re making progress. Know that you’re not alone and know there are those who care for you and want to help you.

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by jkondratyuk on October 15, 2014 at 23:19

    How are you supposed to admit the problem and tell someone when you can’t even trust anyone?

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on October 16, 2014 at 09:28

      @ jkondratyuk Hey sweet girl! Admitting it is an acknowledgement to yourself. Saying, “Yes, I have a problem and I need to do something.” In regards to actually telling someone, is there a priest of pastor you can speak with? Your youth group leader? Your parents? I know you have us at PI, and certainly you are in my prayers. God bless you, TMG

    • ant112

      Posted by ant112 on October 16, 2014 at 05:18

      Well admitting you have a problem is something you do to yourself. Sometimes when you have an addiction you tell yourself you could stop if you wanted to. You won’t let yourself believe it’s a real addiction. But if you watch it often, it’s an addiction and you need to admit it so you can move past it. So that is something you can do whether or not you have someone you can trust. For me, when I was struggling I was scared to tell someone I cared about. I was at camp the first time I told someone. It wasn’t anyone I even knew very well, but it was our pastor of the week’s wife so I knew she’d understand, but I probably wouldn’t see her again. It helped me, even just telling her. I got up the courage to tell someone else I did know, and just having people know makes you want to stop more because you want to be able to tell them you’re over it if they say something about it.

  12. Daughter of the Star Maker

    Posted by Daughter of the Star Maker on October 15, 2014 at 20:26

    I’ve been free from the bondage of porn for 2 1/2 years now. I still struggle occasionally, but I’m so happy that I’m not enslaved anymore. Make no mistake: pornography addiction is as serious as drug or alcohol addiction. Instead of a sickness of the body, it’s a sickness of the mind, and it’s very harmful. If you are trapped in this sin, PLEASE tell someone you can trust and ask them to help you by keeping you accountable. It will save your spiritual life.

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by maddielopper on October 15, 2014 at 18:17

    thank you. I will never tell my parents that I used to watch it lol. I am so so thankful i dont anymore! God helped me! I prayed and prayed and asked for forgiveness. The internet makes it so so easy to go watch. I think most girls watch it just to feel loved, i never had a bf so I watched it for entertainment and pleasure. I felt so alone. God can help you overcome anything and any temptation just lean on him. He loves you and he will forgive you thanks to Jesus! xoxoxo

  14. ciaociara

    Posted by ciaociara on October 15, 2014 at 18:10

    It might sound silly, but sing a Christian song when you feel temptation arise! Tell yourself that you will sing the entire song, and by the time you’re finished temptation should be less intense, and you should walk away from the situation…go around people or outside. 🙂

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on October 16, 2014 at 09:31

      Hey girl, no tip is silly if it works, right? Thanks for sharing. God bless you, TMG

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by dmarie21 on October 15, 2014 at 18:03

    Pretty Amazing that this is exactly what i need to get rid of in my life, and i’ve been looking for ways to get rid of it, this article and what i heard at Church tonight are exactly what i need to get rid of my addiction

  16. ant112

    Posted by ant112 on October 15, 2014 at 15:52

    I also read the 7 Truths about Pornography, but I was once struggling with this. I felt so alone in it, like this was a guy problem. I thought I was the only christian girl that struggled with it. This addiction made me hate myself. I hated what I was doing but I couldn’t stop. I would try over and over again to get rid of the addiction. At one point I took every movie I had in the house and scratched the backs of them so much I couldn’t watch them any more. But then I got internet and the problem go worse. Everyone in my life thought I was such a good person, but I had this big dark secret, and that made me hate myself more. I felt like such a hypocrite taking communion ever month when I wasn’t right with God, but I thought if I didn’t take it people would know there was something wrong with me. I finally after 4 years of struggle told my best friend and just getting the secret out made it easier. The battle was on. It took 2 years after I told her, but I am now 10 months free and it’s amazing.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JesusFreak3278 on October 17, 2014 at 17:31

      I completely understand. Whenever I used to watch or read porn, I felt disgusted with myself yet I couldn’t stop. I also felt like I was the only christian girl that did this – that pornography was only something sick and perverted guys did… Yet there I was, doing the same thing. This and the 7 Truths About Pornography have helped me grow in my faith so much. Thank you PI, and stay strong girls!! 🙂 <3

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by saraileft on October 14, 2014 at 16:59

    Great article I hope this helps all the girls out there suffering with this . I will pray for all of you

  18. JGirl1562

    Posted by JGirl1562 on October 14, 2014 at 10:47

    Wonderful article – thank you:)