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12 Things Every Teen Girl Needs to Know

Ladies, as you journey through life, your experiences will guide you through. But if you could have a few tips to make that journey a tad easier, would you take them? Well, I’d like to offer up a few…12, to be exact. I’m sure there are more that will come to mind later, but consider these for now.

Check them out!

  1. Beauty resonates from the heart. A person can be physically beautiful, but if she doesn’t have a beautiful heart, then her physical beauty will fade pretty quickly in the eyes of the beholder. So focus on beautifying your character, because compassion, kindness and generosity make more of a difference than a pretty face!
  2. Purity is a gift. You were bought with a price, and if God thinks you’re special, so should you. Prove this worth and save yourself for your future husband. He’s worth it also, don’t you think?
  3. Boys can be a distraction. When all your friends have boyfriends and you’re crushing on a cute guy, it’s hard to agree with this. But boys only distract you from important things like school, friends, goals and glorifying God. If you’re not looking for marriage, why look for love?
  4. Bullies are weak. You’ve probably already heard this, but if you’re being bullied, it’s not easy to believe. Usually a person who bullies is insecure about herself or being bullied by someone else. Whatever the reason, she is probably not a happy person. Bullies are also strengthened by those they surround themselves with. Look to God for your strength!
  5. Popularity is just a fad. Once you leave school, no one cares. You have your whole life to succeed based on your merits, not because others think you’re pretty or you wear expensive clothes. Focus on your worth.
  6. Modesty is respected. Really, it is! How awesome it is to be fashionable and modest, especially when you get noticed for your personality and great fashion sense, rather than how much of your body you’re willing to reveal. And both boys and girls extend more respect for modesty than immodesty.
  7. Social media can be dangerous. Not only can social media be dangerous for the most obvious reasons, but it distracts you from the world and creates false realities. Also, your self-worth should not be determined by how many followers or likes you have.
  8. Who you are begins now. Ladies, being a teen is fun, and sure, it’s a time when you shouldn’t have to take yourself completely seriously. But there are things that you should take seriously—like the kind of person you want to be and how you want to be perceived. Do you want to be seen as a person of integrity? If you expect good qualities in others, then expect them of yourself also. If it becomes habit, then it becomes who you are.
  9. Your parents might just be right. I know that sometimes you don’t want to hear what they have to say, but your parents’ advice is likely based on their experience. So hear them out!
  10. God adores you and you need Him! How amazing is that? And with so much love encompassing you, how can you ever feel lonely in your life? Never forget that you are God’s girl and He will always be there for you. Let’s face it—you can’t do it alone. No one can. With God on your side, you will have a great life, but there will be low times, and this is especially why you need God and His love. With Him, you will find true strength to get through all the hard times. So keep Him in your heart always!
  11. There’s a plan for you. You may not know what it is, but know that you have a purpose. When I think of this truth, I get so excited about what God has in store for me. You should be excited also.
  12. Look to the Good Book for everything in your life! The Bible has the answer for every stage of your life, from purity to marriage, from repentance to salvation. Whenever you’re looking for an answer, check the Good Book! 

With life comes many challenges. I pray that the above list helps you steer through the craziness of the teenage years with as much sanity, confidence, love and truth as you can possibly attain! God bless!

Ladies, what do you think about the above list? Share your story…we love to hear from you!

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by KaoKosuta on August 23, 2017 at 15:57

    Great list! Very helpful advice, especially #10.

  2. frozen101

    Posted by frozen101 on July 13, 2014 at 11:47

    I agree with all of these, but I think #3 should be worded a little differently. I agree boys can be a distraction from important things, but to say they ‘only’ distract from the important things implies that that’s the only thing they do. Boys are also created by God as well as girls. They can make good friends and a relationship with a good guy is a blessing. A boyfriend helps you determine what you are looking for in a future husband someday, helps you learn how relationships work, and also makes a good companion. So while, yes, being boy-crazy may become a distraction from important things in life, I think intermingling, dating, and flirting is all part of growing up.

  3. Kaydre

    Posted by Kaydre on December 22, 2013 at 11:49

    I cannot tell you how much I needed this list.

  4. Child_ofthe1true_king

    Posted by Child_ofthe1true_king on December 3, 2013 at 17:36

    Those are all great but number 2 really bothers me. It’s true save yourself for marriage but you can’t save something you’ve already given up! In my opinion you should include somethin (lord help don’t ask me what!) but somethin for the girls that have well… Made that certain mistake!

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on December 5, 2013 at 08:11

      Thank you for your comment. Purity -even for those who have made that mistake- can begin the minute you decide to remain pure for your husband. You can’t take back what’s been done, but you can certainly change what happens from now on. God bless, TMG

    • Child_ofthe1true_king

      Posted by Child_ofthe1true_king on December 3, 2013 at 17:38

      And another thing! Boys are a distraction? I agreed some can definitely be but my boyfriend is probably more help to me than anybody! He loves God and supports me if I’m doin somethin for Him! So there’s some good guys out there that won’t distract you just gotta find em!

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by on November 25, 2013 at 18:02

    I don’t agree that popularity is just a fad. You define popularity very narrowly as being pretty and wearing nice clothes. While it probably isn’t necessary to be the Queen Bee of the school, if you are extremely unpopular, I think it’s worth asking yourself why. Regardless of clothes, looks, or interests, I have found it to be almost universally true that people are drawn to Christ-like individuals. There’s nothing wrong with having only a few friends, in fact I fall into that category myself, but if you find that a large number of people have a strong dislike for you, that may not be just a “them” problem. When it comes down to it, top of the line, Mean Girls-esque popularity may be caused by clothes and looks, but if you are acting in a Christ-like way, people will respect you, even if they aren’t Christian themselves.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by on November 25, 2013 at 18:04

      That said, I love numbers 1, 4, 8, 10, and 11. Especially 10.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by mypunkin on November 24, 2013 at 19:53

    Guys are a huge distraction for me, especially from God. I am a senior in high school and have never been in a serious relationship which I am proud to say, but at the same time I feel lonely. Then I feel like I am completely ignoring God because of my focus on guys. Right now I am crushing on this guy who is a good Christian, athlete, and super smart. We have gone to school together for four years and I have never talked to him. How sad is that? I hate it when this happens but I am always thinking about him while I should really be focusing on God. I have nevr really had a want to be married but I always feel lonely when my friends talk about their boyfriends. I want to talk to him but I’m not sure if it’s for the right reasons. Any suggestions on how to quit this crush especially since he is such a good Christian guy that I want to know?

    • Child_ofthe1true_king

      Posted by Child_ofthe1true_king on December 3, 2013 at 17:42

      Pray about it! And don’t worry! God said He’s gonna take care of ya if you cast your cares on him! He’s gonna send you somebody and it may be the guy your crushin on! It may not be. But pray and read your bible and God will send your knight, cowboy, whatever floats your boat, your way! (:

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by ITOFAR on November 20, 2013 at 08:18

    “If you’re not looking for marriage, why look for love?… Popularity is just a fad.” So true…

  8. Zee

    Posted by Zee on November 19, 2013 at 21:00

    Boys are most definitely distractions, and that’s why I hate having crushes, but it’s really tough to stop liking a guy. Does anyone know how?

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on November 20, 2013 at 10:16

      Zee, Thanks for your question.You have to refocus your attention on other things, such as God, school, friends, interests and hobbies. You have to discipline yourself. Ask yourself why you don’t want to be distracted by boys and then remind yourself of that. But most of all, pray -especially during those instances where you feel you’re most vulnerable. After all, He is your strength. God bless, TMG

      • dancinggiraffe17

        Posted by dancinggiraffe17 on November 20, 2013 at 16:39

        Thought I’d jump in here for a second. Hey Zee! You asked about the crush thing, well see I had a boyfriend he was a awesome guy but he was rather indifferent when it came to God he didn’t really feel strongly that God was real but he didn’t necessarily think he wasn’t either. Anyway so we dated for about four months when I realized that being in a relationship with him was pulling away from God abit, instead of reading my bible I’d be texting him. So after a ton of praying and thinking I decided to give up boys for a year ( to get back with God and because I’m being confirmed this year:D) the hardest part was breaking up with him because we had been dating for five months and he was one of my best friends, I really did love him( not like husband -wife love but more like friend love, but I also like liked him as a boyfriend) anyway so I broke up with and after a few months I found myself crushing on a boy but I realized that after dating my boyfriend that I only wanted to date for marriage and that the boy I was crushing on isnt husband material(at least not yet) and I didn’t have as big of a crush on him. Sorry this was so long but I just wanted to say basically that just think about the man you’ve imagined you would marry and compare whoever you have a crush on to him and you won’t have a crush anymore:) and of course be sure to pray! God bless!

  9. texasgirl

    Posted by texasgirl on November 16, 2013 at 17:24

    Boys need to hear most of this too…:P

  10. Mandi_lee2014

    Posted by Mandi_lee2014 on November 15, 2013 at 20:53

    I can say from personal experience about the popular thing it is so NOT worth it. I was in the popular crowd at school and you know what. It sucks! It is a status that is hard to get to, and you compromise to stay there. Eating disorders, looking good, looking down upon others. Its a mess and you don’t feel special when you are up there.
    Then when you get to college none of it matters anyway (like the article says) now its about who you are as a person, and are you going to work hard to get somewhere in life. They don’t care if you are in your pajamas or wearing $500 jeans. If you are poor or rich as long as you are working your butt off.

    Stay true to Jesus instead. He is your one true love. He will tell you that you are beautiful no matter what, and that He believes in you, because He already has plans for you.

    • cassdev

      Posted by cassdev on April 3, 2014 at 17:30

      thank you so much for your perspective, it means a lot. i always feel kinda crappy for not being popular but at my school that means your willing to do anything sexually, do drugs, and drink til you can’t remember anything. i know it is silly to be jealous of that, but i feel like i may be missing out on my teenage years.. but your perspective makes me realize i am in a good spot

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on November 19, 2013 at 06:30

      Amanda, thank you so much for sharing this. It’s definitely a perspective that all girls should be aware of. Best and blessings, TMG

    • Silver_Blaze

      Posted by Silver_Blaze on November 18, 2013 at 14:30

      I really needed to hear that. 🙂 It makes sense too. Thanks

  11. cupcake12333

    Posted by cupcake12333 on November 14, 2013 at 19:17


  12. I

    Posted by I on November 14, 2013 at 15:21

    It’s nice to know there’s people out there with the same mindset as me! Thanks for posting those 12 great advices T.M. Gaouette 🙂

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by MissMajorHot on November 13, 2013 at 11:24

    I soooo needed this, thanks.:-)

  14. blindlessgirl

    Posted by blindlessgirl on November 13, 2013 at 05:20

    Really true! Thanks for this… This really inspired and encouraged me a lot. I mean, it’s like, it’s just what I needed. God bless you and thank you very much.

  15. gracedgirl

    Posted by gracedgirl on November 12, 2013 at 17:58

    I found this so inspiring, especially the part about true beauty and who you are begins now. Thanks, T.M.!

  16. Eurydice

    Posted by Eurydice on November 12, 2013 at 17:02

    Why is this labelled “Female Empowerment?” Because all I’m reading is, “colour inside the lines.”

    • applebypie123

      Posted by applebypie123 on November 13, 2013 at 12:33

      Hahaha I wouldn’t say “color inside the lines,” but I do agree the label doesn’t really fit

  17. PumpkinGirl

    Posted by PumpkinGirl on November 12, 2013 at 15:40

    This was just was I needed to hear (or, read!) today! Thank you T.M.!

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on November 19, 2013 at 06:34

      I’m so pleased that it was helpful to you, God bless, TMG