16 Things I Wish I Could Tell My 16-Year-Old Self by PI Girl Kelly

    I was a complete mess as a teenager! Looking back, I have learned and grown so much, but I would like to share this so that others may learn from my example. Here’s what I wish I could tell my 16-year-old self.

    1. As much as school sucks, actually take it seriously. The more educated you are before you graduate high school, the better the chances of you actually going to and making it through college.
    2. The mean girls eventually grow up, and some may even become your friends.
    3. Don’t obsess over calories! Enjoy your good metabolism while it lasts. Something about turning 20 kills it.
    4. Be confident in whatever you do. Confidence is the key to taking on any challenge, big or small.
    5. Don’t try to show as much skin as possible. Seriously, I feel more beautiful in longer skirts now than anything that shows too much leg.
    6. Boys should be the last thing on your list of priorities. You aren’t emotionally mature enough for a relationship and you are far too young for marriage, so what’s the point?
    7. Your virginity is soooo special. Hang on to it and only give it to your husband. Life gets complicated fast the second you become sexually active.
    8. Save money! Seriously, I spent so much money on nonessential stuff. I could have paid for my college in cash or bought a really nice car.
    9. When you turn 18, you will start getting stuff about credit cards. Don’t get one until you are making substantially more than minimum wage.
    10. You are awesome, even when you don’t think you are.
    11. Don’t get too attached to your friends in high school. Most of them won’t be in your life in a few years anyway.
    12. Play with your hair, do your makeup, have fun with yourself, but don’t try to reinvent the beauty that God already naturally gave you.
    13. Don’t take what others say to heart. You will be shocked where they end up in a few years.
    14. Don’t drink or smoke. Life is so much better sober, I promise.
    15. Find a passion and stick to it! Drive and determination are essential in the workforce.
    16. Love God with all you have. There will come a point in your life where no one can help you but Him. You are not facing this world alone as long as you have him in your heart.


    Ladies, what would YOU wish you could tell your younger self?


    1. I’m only 15, but I wish I could tell my 7th-8th grade self: “Don’t try to grow up too fast.” When I was in middle school all I wanted to do was to look and act like the older teenage girls I saw. I wanted to date, I wanted a smartphone, I wanted to wear a lot of makeup… The list goes on and on.

    2. This is great advice thank you! I will be 16 in a month so I will keep these things in mind. I do have two things to add though. Some lessons I’ve learned and am still learning about life that may be helpful. 1. Take opportunities. If an opportunity arises to do something that you are seriously considering, do it! Say you want to join the marching band or start a new sport or go to a music event. Do it! I’ve found that I’ve missed out on opportunities, and I regret not taking action. 2. Don’t worry about your future, don’t worry about where your going or what your doing, because Gods got it all worked out. Don’t spend your whole life worrying about what will happen next because youll miss out on your few teen years, which are so special.
      I hope these are helpful to you all!

    3. Im a freshman! Great list but #11 really bugs me and makes me sad. Yes I realize they are not all true friends AND we will be going separate ways in a few years but that doesn’t mean we cant all still be friends right! Have you guys ever heard “Highschool isn’t time to find your husbands, its time to find your bridesmaids” which I think is true (i used to not like it cause I have always wanted a highschool sweetheart) I know there are a lot of new friends ahead but I also know i’d like to stay close to my close group of friend.

    4. I love this! I’m nearly eighteen, and even less than two years later, I wish I would’ve understood some of this stuff. Number eleven, though—I personally don’t think you should purposely try to “not get too attached” just because you might not be in each other’s lives. Take the time in high school to plant, cultivate, and grow your relationships with your friends, and if you really want them in your life, you’ll find a way to keep them, even if you go to college thousands of miles apart. You’ll make new friends, but your high school friends are always going to hold a place in your heart.

    5. Like others, even though I’m almost 18, I wish I could’ve heard some of these things sooner. But I really don’t agree with #11. After all, you might make some true friends that will stick with you for a lifetime. Just don’t worry if a couple of your friends drift away. I’m not saying don’t care because it’s always sad to lose a friend, but maybe years down the road the two of you will meet and reconnect and form a deeper bond than what would’ve formed before. Just pray and see what God has in store for you.

    6. I don’t really agree with number 6. I am 16 and I am in a serious relationship with a man that is 19. But my point is that Not all 16 yearolds are to immature emotionally to date a guy. If a girl meets a guy when she is young doesn’t mean she should just ignore him or anything like that because he may be the one God had for her. If anyone doesn’t agree with me then please reply so I can see other peoples views. 🙂

    7. But wouldn’t life be sad if you lived without strong connections to those around you? If you just wandered without having an intimate bond with someone you can trust and talk to? Becoming attached to friends is half of what makes school bearable. Without close friends, who would you relax with? Who would you turn to? Who would you talk to? Who would you cry with when your entire teenage world is crumbling? So I don’t necessarily agree with the advice to not get attached to friends.
      I also have a problem with the one about boys. Generalizing ALL teenage girls as not “emotionally mature enough” for a relationship is a little too broad. There are some girls out there who are most definitely ready for a relationship and might actually meet their future husband in high school. So putting every teen girl under the stereotype blanket isn’t exactly accurate.
      The rest of them, however, are true and are such good pieces of advice.

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