“Being a grown-up is harder than I thought. I change my mind.”
That is what I thought when I bought my first car. I thought it would be fun, but negotiating prices and interest terms and finding an insurance company was a lot more work and stress than I had prepared myself for.
Of course, time stops for no man…or woman. Whether it’s what college to attend, what job to take, where to live or who to date, we all have to grow up and make hard decisions! How do we know what’s right for us? There is no writing in the sky, but there are some ways to navigate the grown-up world, not quite stress-free, but at least with peace.
1. Pray. Before you go to anyone else or start Googling your best options, go to God. He is not far, far away, just waiting for you to make the wrong decision and be disappointed in you. He loves you! He has a plan for you. He wants his will and his best for you more than you want it for yourself. Ask Him to help you make the right decision, and trust that He will.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. (James 1:5)
2. Study the Word. The Bible is a living book. You can read a passage and grasp something that you never have before. God knows what we need and speaks to us through the pages of his Word. No, you are not going to read exactly what college to attend or whether to break up with that guy, but there are principles on every page that guide us toward the right decisions. When we know God’s words for ourselves, we are better able to make decisions because we can clearly recognize right from wrong.
Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. (2 Timothy 2:15)
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalm 119:105)
3. Seek Godly counsel. So many of us have such great, Godly, wise resources in our lives that we rarely tap into. Our parents, our pastor and his wife, youth leaders, spiritual mentors…all these people have been where we are, and have knowledge and wisdom that we don’t have. These are the people who know our hearts the best, and want what’s best for us the most! Make much of the Godly people in your life.
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise. (Proverbs 12:15)
Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety. (Proverbs 11:14)
A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps. (Proverbs 16:9)
Like I said before, God wants what is best for you more than even you want it for yourself. He doesn’t make doing right a puzzle or a mystery. Our Heavenly Father loves us so very much, and will stop at nothing to make sure we are safe and in his will, if that is where we desire to be. Sometimes, He completely closes the door to the wrong decision, sometimes he makes the decision very easy by bringing to light biblical principles to base our decision on, and sometimes we have to trust His heart and make the decision that is best based on all these steps—and know that He will take care of the rest.