We all enjoy a good girl’s night, a fun sleepover time replete with good snacks, laughter, and hours of chatting to your heart’s content. It can be challenging, however, to know exactly how to conduct a God-honoring girls’ night, rather than just one that honors ourselves and our own fleshly desires.
Often what happens at a typical girls’ night is that we watch chick flicks, spread gossip, eat too much junk food, talk about boys, and so on. And while some of these things may seem inconsequential, they may not all be quite as innocent or as God-honoring as we might think.
Many times, chick flicks lead to unrealistic expectations about boys and romance and can set our hearts in the wrong place. Gossip-spreading is never a good thing, and, well, hours spent talking about boys can be just as damaging to our hearts as forming unrealistic expectations about them.
Oftentimes, as fun as girls’ nights are intended to be, when the activities mentioned above are the only festivities, we can leave the next day actually feeling a little depressed. We may begin to feel guilt inside for the gossip we spread or we might head home feeling down over the current condition of our love life (or lack thereof!).
So, what are we to do? How can we make some little shifts that will lead to our being able to enjoy girls’ nights that are both incredibly fun while also honoring to the God we love? Here are three ideas to get you started!
Exchange Gossip for Encouragement
Spreading all the latest news about people we know may seem fun and interesting at the time, but it is one of the most damaging things we can do, not only to ourselves and how we begin to view and use others for our own entertainment, but to the victim of our gossip.
Proverbs 16:28 says, “A contrary person spreads conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.” In 1 Timothy 5:13 Paul talks about women who “at the same time, they also learn to be idle, going from house to house; they are not only idle, but are also gossips and busybodies, saying things they shouldn’t say.” Both the Old and New Testaments are replete with verses about how damaging gossip is. And here’s something else to keep in mind: if the girls you are spending the evening with are gossiping about others, what would keep them from gossiping about you when you aren’t around?
Instead of giving into gossip during your girls’ night, be intentional instead to steer the conversation towards far more uplifting and encouraging talk. Ask the other girls how you can pray for them, what the Lord has been teaching them lately, what they have been studying in the Word, etc. Share with them what you have been learning, how you see God working in their lives, and anything else you can think of to encourage one another. Pray for each others’ prayer requests when you’re done sharing.
Exchange Trivial Talk for Edifying Truth
Often we spend much of our time during girls’ nights talking about the cutest boy we know, the guy we’re crushing on, or who we hope asks us out. This kind of talk is oftentimes rather trivial and does little to help us guard our hearts and contentedly wait for that one right guy we may one day meet and marry.
Instead, share truth from the Word with each other. Remind each other that marriage is great and family is important, but that pining away for Prince Charming accomplishes little good for the Kingdom of God. Inspire each other with the truth that God’s love is more amazing than anyone else’s could be, that marriage is not ultimately the highest calling but being God’s ambassador is, and that we should be viewing and treating guys as our brothers-in-Christ first and foremost.
Exchange Chick Flicks for Real-Life Christian Heroes
Chick flicks can be fun, but they do little to inspire us to greatness in our everyday lives. Consider maybe watching a Christian film or sharing what you know about an amazing true story in a believer’s life. Read a book together like George Mueller’s autobiography or Corrie Ten Boom’s account of what she endured during WWII. This is not about being legalistic and saying you can’t ever unwind by watching a fun chick flick. Rather, it’s about doing what we can to honor God and encourage each other in our Christian walks.
God is a God of celebration, He has a sense of humor, and He is not interested in stealing our fun. So, by all means, enjoy your time together as girlfriends! Just keep in mind the ways in which you can make little shifts here and there to make your time more honoring to Him and more beneficial for each other.