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4 Things to Do to Survive a Breakup!

Dating typically requires a lot of investment from each partner. We invest time and emotions into relationships and in doing so strong bonds are created. We’ve previously discussed how to end relationships graciously, but how do you handle the emotional turmoil when you don’t want the relationship to end? Here are a few tips to make the process a little easier.

  • Remember that you’re special. “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27.) You’ve been created in the image of God which means that you’re special and that you have purpose. Don’t blame yourself when a relationship ends or allow your sense of self-worth to be altered. The end of a relationship doesn’t take away from your greatness! Sometimes one thing has to end to make room for something better.
  • Forgive your ex. Right now you’re probably hurting and forgiving your ex may be the last thing on your mind. The concept of forgiving might be especially hard if your ex has betrayed you in some way because that betrayal may be making the pain worse. However, forgiveness is a key ingredient in healing. In order to move forward without bitterness, you’ll need to learn to forgive your ex.
  • Find something to do! Sitting around sulking only makes the situation worse. Find something to do to occupy your mind. Spend more time with family and friends or find a way to help others in need. Pursue a new hobby or join a new group activity. Maybe you could catch up on your summer reading. Do anything (appropriate and healthy) that will keep your mind off of your ex!
  • Grow closer to God! This is the most important thing that you can do to survive a break up. God tells you to “cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7.) Allow God to mend your heart. Read the Bible. Pray more frequently and listen to what God reveals to you. Trust that God will heal your heart and He ABSOLUTELY will!

Break ups can be really hard but with God’s help, you can get through it. Take some time to pamper yourself and be sure to draw closer to God during this tough time. One of the great things about being a child of God is that when you draw closer to Him, He draws closer to you.

Come near to God and He will come near to you. (James 4:8)

Hope this helps!

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  1. swordoflight

    Posted by swordoflight on April 27, 2016 at 12:34

    Remember that God puts trials in your life to grow you. Maybe a break up is one. Your time as a christian in a relationship changed both you and him. It doesn’t matter what he did or what you did. what matters is the time you spent together and how you grow from it after. When you talk to people you 99% of the time put and idea or a thought of life or Jesus that they may have never known about. Think of it like a christian speaker he or she will explain the word differently than another speaker which makes you think about the topic in a whole different perspective.Knowing that you changed someone or their way of thinking just blows your mind. Iv’e had a person that spread rumors about me and I just hated her for doing that until I forgave her. Then I started to realize the impact that words have on people whether good or bad and started to think that Gods word could work through me and change peoples way of thinking. Isn’t your mind just blown away by that.

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    Posted by RyleighGiraffeFarar on May 12, 2012 at 18:32

    The forgiving part was especially hard. He cheated on me! >:( But Go helped me through it all.

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    Posted by Aimeeangel on April 25, 2012 at 08:33

    I am so thankful for this… i really needed this one.. if only i could find one for getting over guy… breakup are great at ALL.. but we get stronger because of them…

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    Posted by alwaysstrong on March 20, 2012 at 16:09

    my boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago. at first, i was so mad, and a week later he said “look, i just wanted to tell you that i love you and always will. will you please take me back?” and i just yelled at him. i thought he was a total jerk. but….. now i realize i was the jerk. i wasnt as nice to him as he was to me. he always complemented me, telling me how beautiful i looked, how talented i am, how amazing my writing skills are. i didnt always return the favors. whenever we’re good friends again, and he admitted that he still likes me….. but im also with someone else right now. but all i want is my ex back, and i know he’d take me back, but i cant hurt this other guy!!! i told him i didnt want a relationship, but still….. he’d be crushed. i dont know what to do its tearing me apart. i need advice :/

  5. Posted by on October 15, 2011 at 14:16

    breakups are tough i know i just got broken up with (im 14) but i found out if you just pray and have patience you will survive and sometimes talking to someone can help so talk to a close friend a pastor or me my email is natkelley@gmail.com
    may God bless you have a wonderful life 🙂

  6. Posted by on September 20, 2011 at 16:22

    I’ve never had a boyfriend but I’ve been really close with this one boy for almost a year and a half. A little while ago I realized that our relationship wasn’t a good one so I told him I couldn’t talk to him anymore. He was really hurt but I felt like that was what God was leading me. To tell the truth, it was the best decision I’ve ever made. My relationship with God blossomed so much afterwards it made me wonder why I hadn’t done that sooner. Not to say it didn’t hurt to walk away but God can take away the pain and heal a heart; I know that because he did it for me! Great advice!

  7. Posted by on August 11, 2011 at 08:23

    I’m 14 almost 15, and I’ve never been in a relationship. Some would say, “HAHAHA. Whatta loser.” I say, I wouldn’t be as close to God if I had 300 boyfriends in 2 years. So, I’m happy! :]

    • Posted by Nicole on August 16, 2011 at 14:11

      GOOD FOR YOU gorgeous Megan!!! Set yourself apart from all your peers! YOu Go girl!!

  8. Posted by on July 28, 2011 at 13:55

    I’m definitely sending this article to one of my friends who recently went through a breakup <3

  9. Posted by on July 27, 2011 at 20:50

    I haven’t been in a relationship in over a year, and it feels great! I know I’ll probably be in one soon, but if I ever need help with a break up, I always know where to go. Nicole, this site is amazing. It seems like it has everything! Thank you so much!

    • Posted by Nicole on July 28, 2011 at 00:05

      you’re so welcome! I’m so glad you like it! Keep coming back 🙂

  10. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 20:55

    I recently went through a break up and it was really difficult because he had been my first boyfriend acouple of years ago, we had to break up because of me moving. I moved back two years ago and we got back together. We were almost together for a year this time when he ended it. I prayed to god to help me forgive him and I did, I feel happier now. Thank you god.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 27, 2011 at 13:14

      that’s so wonderful!! I’m happy to hear that, 🙂

  11. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 09:42

    Wow! Reading this really opened my eyes to some new perspectives.
    I just recently broke up, it was my first boyfriend. I found myself looking back and blaming myself and seeing things that i could have done to prevent the break-up, when in reality breaking-up was what needed to happen. Relationships are hard. You have to trust someone else, and that is what I think makes relationships hard. But like this article says, turn to God. He does everything for a reason!

  12. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 08:40

    Having a relationship with God can also help your relationship with your boyfriend. Thanks for writing these, Aysha. I’ll remember this article when I am in my first relationship.

  13. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 05:11

    Thank you for this article!!! I am going through a really really hard break up right now, and i feel like God needed me to see this article. thank you!