Dating typically requires a lot of investment from each partner. We invest time and emotions into relationships and in doing so strong bonds are created. We’ve previously discussed how to end relationships graciously, but how do you handle the emotional turmoil when you don’t want the relationship to end? Here are a few tips to make the process a little easier.
- Remember that you’re special. “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27.) You’ve been created in the image of God which means that you’re special and that you have purpose. Don’t blame yourself when a relationship ends or allow your sense of self-worth to be altered. The end of a relationship doesn’t take away from your greatness! Sometimes one thing has to end to make room for something better.
- Forgive your ex. Right now you’re probably hurting and forgiving your ex may be the last thing on your mind. The concept of forgiving might be especially hard if your ex has betrayed you in some way because that betrayal may be making the pain worse. However, forgiveness is a key ingredient in healing. In order to move forward without bitterness, you’ll need to learn to forgive your ex.
- Find something to do! Sitting around sulking only makes the situation worse. Find something to do to occupy your mind. Spend more time with family and friends or find a way to help others in need. Pursue a new hobby or join a new group activity. Maybe you could catch up on your summer reading. Do anything (appropriate and healthy) that will keep your mind off of your ex!
- Grow closer to God! This is the most important thing that you can do to survive a break up. God tells you to “cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7.) Allow God to mend your heart. Read the Bible. Pray more frequently and listen to what God reveals to you. Trust that God will heal your heart and He ABSOLUTELY will!
Break ups can be really hard but with God’s help, you can get through it. Take some time to pamper yourself and be sure to draw closer to God during this tough time. One of the great things about being a child of God is that when you draw closer to Him, He draws closer to you.
Come near to God and He will come near to you. (James 4:8)
Hope this helps!