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5 Dating Rules From the King of Kings!

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You know, the King doesn’t let just anyone go on a date with his daughters. He knows and wants the absolute best for us so of course – there are requirements. As princesses, we deserve gentlemen who are worthy to go on dates with the most beautiful princesses.

Hear Ye, Hear Ye! This is a proclamation from The King Of Kings! These are the requirements and rules that must be met and followed in order to have a relationship with His beautiful daughters, the beautiful princesses of the land!

1) He has to be be thoughtful and not always thinking about just himself. No breaking off ALREADY PLANNED time together to ‘hang with the guys’ (it’s fine if something important comes up, though).

2) He has to be respectful. ABSOLUTELY NO TYPE OF ABUSE. That includes mental and verbal, not just physical.

3) He has to respect your boundaries. If you don’t want to do something that you know is not pleasing to God, he has to respect that (ex: sex, staying out past curfew).

4) He cannot keep you from spending time with The King and family. If you want to spend time with your family one day or just talk to God and he tells you that you can’t, he is not for you.

5) He cannot be possessive and control you. He cannot call you every second and ask you what you are doing, where you are going or where you have been. He can’t make you do ANYTHING THAT YOU DON’T WANT TO DO.

Furthermore…

You can apologize and ask for forgiveness for reckless behavior, but if it continues, you will be repremanded.

YOU MUST FIRST ASK PERMISSION FROM THE KING HIMSELF BEFORE YOU CAN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE OF HIS BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS.

Written and Proclaimed by: The King
Princesses, above all, we MUST USE THE JUDGEMENT OF CHRIST in all of our relationships with our boyfriends. When we do, our Father will be pleased. Show this to any gentleman who wants to have a relationship with you so he will know that there are requirements to date the kindest, fairest, most beautiful princesses in the land….

THE KING’S DAUGHTERS!

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  1. Posted by on September 18, 2011 at 17:51

    It’s great when a guy follows all these guidelines, he makes you feel amazing 😀

  2. Posted by on September 6, 2011 at 20:08

    Thank you for this! but i broke up with my boyfriend because i was drifting away from God. now it wasn’t his fault because i was drifting before we were dating but he also wasn’t very open to going to my church. I still like him and I know I hurt him but i don’t know what i should do next!

  3. Posted by on September 1, 2011 at 20:54

    I loved this article! I’m 15 and I haven’t dated yet, even though I’ve been asked a few times. Just recently I just gave my entire life to God, so for now on I am going to let Him be in charge of everything. I wouldn’t date any guy who isn’t a true, practicing Christian. There are plenty of people at my high school who don’t practice Christian values in their relationships and I’d be too scared to date someone who isn’t a Christian! I’m so glad I put God in charge of this stuff, it’s so complex (: lol

  4. Posted by on August 28, 2011 at 20:22

    I certainly wish i could find a guy. :'( Its so hard in this day and age. I read that there are lots of guys that would leave a girl if she gained weight. Idk why people are so obsessed with looks.

    • Posted by on August 29, 2011 at 21:33

      I know how you feel. You are supposed to love the person,no matter what they look like. But,if he feels that you are gaining weight in a uhealthy way,he should tell someone. On top that,these days,everywhere you turn,someone is cheating on their girlfriend/boyfriend or even each other.

  5. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 10:57

    Okay, problem. Please help! I know a guy who is absoutely wonderful, he’s patient, he’s kind, he respects me for me, admires everything about me. He’s also my bestfriend. He mentioned how much he liked me and wants to be with me but I turned him down because of our belief differences. He IS a christian but he’s not as devoted nor does he believe as much as I do. So its like he’s a christian who’s not a christian. That’s a problem. I want Christ to be in the midst of my relationship, but this guy is very much amazing except that one little detail that is also a very BIG detail. So what do I do? Call it to a quits and hope God will give me the WHOLE package, or should I overlook that one (but veryimportant detail?

    • Posted by Nicole on July 27, 2011 at 13:54

      that’s a really tough one. my gut instinct is to be with the guy, and through your life and testimony, show him the love God has for him. 🙂 But make sure not to sleep with him!!

  6. Posted by on July 24, 2011 at 21:49

    well.. I wanted to vote in the poll but unfortunately there was no “No I’m not in charge of my dating life. God is in charge of it” But if there was.. that would be my answer 🙂

  7. Posted by on July 24, 2011 at 07:28

    AND HE NEEDS TO BE A CHRISTIAN!!!!! I won’t have a strong relationship with a guy who doesn’t already have a strong relationship with God. God has to be the center of our relationship and he has to be supportive of that. Because dating is a preparation for marriage, and God is the center of the marriage, then God will be the center of my dating life. End of story. Theank you for writing this Paris! I have friends who need to see it.

  8. Posted by on July 19, 2011 at 11:03

    I’m putting off dating until I graduate high school, in order to strengthen my relationship with Jesus. God knows who my husband will be, and I’ve decided to stop worrying about guys, and put all that energy towards my relationship with my Creator. It’s working splendidly, I have learned so much about Jesus, the Bible, my spirituality and my beliefs, and it’s changed my life! 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on July 19, 2011 at 12:20

      that’s so great!! God loves you so much Leah 🙂

  9. Posted by on July 18, 2011 at 17:32

    shouldn’t these be rules for any dating, Christian or not? (:
    I think any girl, regardless of faith, should live by these rules.
    I don’t care if you’re Christian or not, you shouldn’t put up with a man abusing you or trying to control you or anything.

  10. Posted by on July 15, 2011 at 18:13

    I have had a boyfriend for seven months, and we are both in love with Jesus. We haven’t kissed or anything like that because we believe in purity. But were only fourteen and fifteen and we know not to let the emotions get the best of us.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 15, 2011 at 22:50

      you two are so sweet! Stay like that, you won’t regret it!

  11. Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 19:06

    I also agree with Lelia, a relationship is supposed to be 50/50, If he treats you like a princess, you should treat him like a prince. Although the bible says a lot about men respecting women, it also tells us ladies to respect men. When we do this, God will be pleased.

  12. Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 18:19

    i agree with what Hannah said! i utterly agree with everything in this article but we need to treat our boyfriends the same way too!!! they deserve to be treated like princes just like we deserve to be treated like princesses!

  13. Posted by on July 12, 2011 at 18:40

    Thank you from what we girls and boys are taught today it can be dangorous at how we let each other treat us. And I can’t wait to fall in love (of course I’m not trying to rush God I want him to take his time and make my love story marvolous:))) And these definatly help for the future. Thank you!

  14. Posted by on July 12, 2011 at 13:31

    Up until Feburary, 19, 2011 my parents had controll of my dating life. I couldnt date until they thought i was mature enough then a guy came along, lets call him Mr. X. Mr. X was an amazing guy.He loved God and his family. His parents were missionaries. Why am i using past tense? Is, loves, and are. He said that he would talk to my dad if need be. I told him my dad had said no to the boyfriend idea and he said “Its ok, i will wait for you.” His parents rules are no dating until you’re 16, and even then NO ALONE DATES. 25 days before his birthday my dad told me I could date him. We have been dating for about five months and he asks me if its okay for him to kiss me. He always has his arms around me, right after he puts his arm anywhere he asks if its okay for it to be there. If I say no, he moves it immediately. Our relationship is centered around God. 🙂 I’m so lucky God gave me Mr. X. 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on July 12, 2011 at 17:00

      that is SO sweet Leia! thank you for sharing that. I’m so happy you listened to your father!

  15. Posted by on July 11, 2011 at 14:42

    Just a thought that I want to share. I totally agree with everything that has been said in this article; it’s a great message to give to girls. But I also want to caution girls and remind them that they should be treating their boyfriends the same way. A lot of times, I see girls dating guys that they expect to treat them like queens, which is fine, but then they treat their boyfriends like dirt, taking advantage of them and doing exactly the things they expect their boyfriend not to do to them.
    Everyone’s not like that and definitely not to that extent, but remember, girls–the guys are also God’s princes, and they deserve respect too!

    • Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 19:15

      You are so right! Something that made me think of this: yesterday, while in a line, there was this family behind me. The boy was talking about his sister would be obnoxious and he would punch her. His dad told him that boys were to never hit girls, and his aunt said that she better never see him punch a girl while she was around. So the sister sat there and punched the kid over and over again, and he couldn’t do anything about it and she knew it. It made me wonder. Why do we think we can get away with things just because others can’t. We need to treat others with the same respect we want for ourselves.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 12, 2011 at 16:48

      you are totally right!!

  16. Posted by on July 11, 2011 at 14:21

    amen! i dont believe in dating, but my future husband will def. have to follow those rules(; i actually have a little box where i write letters to him, whoever he may be, (dorky, i know) and im going to print this out and put it in there for him!

    • Posted by on July 24, 2011 at 07:35

      Hey Rachel! I do that too! I got that idea from the Christy Miller Series! They are SUCH good books for young girls to read. I made a group page for the girls who keep boxes so we can encourage each other to stick with it and stay pure. you should join!!!
      http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/group.php?gid=129883620374153

      • Posted by Nicole on July 25, 2011 at 23:50

        hey Kaitlyn! that link doesn’t work. Can you please resend it to me? I want to see it!

    • Posted by on July 14, 2011 at 10:42

      oh cool! thats actually the series of books i got the idea from too! thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 10:19

      Hi Rachel! Just wanted to share with you a website for girls who are writing letters to their future husbands and saving themselves for him instead of playing the ‘dating game.’ http://www.palsonlyboxclub.weebly.com 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on July 12, 2011 at 14:50

      that’s such a great idea Rachel! Love it! a great way to have as a reminder so you always keep it in mind.

  17. Posted by on July 10, 2011 at 20:00

    I am so glad that God led me to write this. Becuase when I was typing this, I couldn’t think of anything to write, but God helped me out by telling me to write this. I hate writiers block,lol.

    • Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 09:51

      Thanks for posting! My friends and I always talk about our criteria for dating, I will definitely refer to your article!!

      • Posted by on October 8, 2011 at 21:38

        Thanks so much for writing this! its very helpful for me. My first boyfriend was controlling and I didn’t really realize it for the longest time. Its wonderful to be able to explore a website and read articles like this one that are helpful and true. That doesn’t happen very often anymore.

    • Posted by Nicole on July 11, 2011 at 00:21

      yay! that makes me so happy! He is using you in BIG ways Paris!

      • Posted by on July 13, 2011 at 19:00

        I love you guys!

      • Posted by on July 11, 2011 at 12:19

        I prayed that he would and he is. I love writing for this site. Brings me so much joy.

      • Posted by Nicole on July 12, 2011 at 16:50

        and we love YOU Paris!

  18. Posted by on July 10, 2011 at 19:19

    Thank you sooo much for this article!! It is amazing!! LOVE it!!! God knows who my future husband is and I am willing to wait for him! <3