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    5 Homeschooling Myths Debunked

    Okay, ladies, before I delve into this subject, first let me disclose that I am a homeschooling parent. I am currently homeschooling two of my children, and I’m planning on homeschooling my two younger children when they reach the age.

    I’m going to come clean again and admit that I’m a total fan of homeschooling! Because of this, I do get a tad frustrated when people unfamiliar with homeschooling criticize it without knowing the truth. So I thought I’d take a moment to debunk some of those crazy myths. I know some of you ladies are homeschoolers, so feel free to share some of your own myths in the comments below.

    So, let’s get to some of these myths!

    1. No socialization. This is the number one myth about homeschooling. It couldn’t be further from the truth. With homeschooling, families can join cooperative organizations where kids can take individual classes taught by other homeschooling parents. In these situations, kids get together before, during and after classes. Families can organize play dates, join activity groups, go on joint field trips and do a ton of other things with other homeschooling kids. Additionally, many class days are shorter because of the one-on-one learning environment and there’s more time to be social. The choices are limited and are basically dependent on the parent’s schedule. I’m part of a group that even arranges prom every year for teens.
    2. Limited team sports. There are many school districts that allow homeschooling children to join their school athletic teams. And if that doesn’t interest you, then you can put together your own teams with the homeschooling friends that you hang out with. Also, homeschoolers often get involved in more activities outside of athletics. Because a homeschooling program allows for flexibility, many homeschoolers include art, music, horseback riding, skating, swimming, specialized crafts and languages in their curriculums.
    3. Kids are sheltered. If by sheltered, critics mean homeschooled kids aren’t involved in the usual drama that takes place at regular schools, then maybe “yes.” But if it means that they sit at home, have no life and know nothing about the world, then sorry, “no.” In fact, many homeschooling children have a very busy and diverse life. Not only are they given more responsibility in the home and learn early about what it takes to make a home, but they’re also exposed to culture and society on a more regular basis. Usually, they go shopping more with their parents and therefore learn about economics in a natural learning environment. They meet a wider, more diverse range of people though co-op groups, activities and field trips, rather than hanging out with the same people every day.
    4. There’s no structure. Kids sleep all day? They don’t have regular school? It’s not a real school? Not in my home, at least. School starts at the same time every morning. We have a structured curriculum. Other homeschool families are less structured, but just as effective because it works for their children. You see, homeschool families structure their education around their children’s learning needs. And this is the beauty of homeschooling. Besides, when past studies have shown that homeschool students outscore those in public school in all subjects, have higher GPAs and college graduation rates, and excel in communication, socialization and daily living skills, that’s got to say something for homeschooling.
    5. It sucks to be around your family all day. Okay, maybe in some families, but not all. But even kids in public and private schools get sick of their siblings and parents, right? I debunk this because all the homeschooling families I’ve met get on really well. In fact, siblings are more tolerant and patient with each other. And I’ve found that homeschooling children seem to be more respectful to their parents.

    Ladies, I’m really not trying to run down public and private schools. Lots of kids do well in these environments and many don’t thrive in a homeschool. It really depends on what a parent provides for their children. I just wanted to debunk these crazy myths that are circulating outside homeschooling families. And let’s be honest, if these myths were true, why are more and more families resorting to homeschooling? And why are those who are already being homeschooled really happy with it?

    While homeschooling doesn’t work for all families, it totally works for mine. I feel blessed to have the opportunity and I thank God for it every day.

    Ladies, are you in a homeschooling family? What myth would you like to debunk?

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    T.M. Gaouette is a freelance writer, ghostwriter, blogger and fiction novelist. She was born in Africa, brought up in London and is now living in New England with her husband and four children. Devoted to Him, Gaouette is dedicated to glorifying God through her stories for teens and young adults. T.M. Gaouette is the author of "The Destiny of Sunshine Ranch" and "Freeing Tanner Rose," Christian novels for teens and young adults. She's currently working on completing her upcoming novel -visit tmgaouette.com for more on her Christian fiction work. Connect with her on www.facebook.com/TMGaouette and https://twitter.com/TMGaouette .

    12 COMMENTS

    1. Wow thank you so much for this! It’s crazy that you post this now because my parents and I just recently decided that I was going to do home school next year and I’m really excited! I told someone I know that I was and he was like, “You’re gonna be a loser with no friends!” I disagreed. Especially since the home school i’m going to be doing pays for classes such as dance, musical theater, etc. which are some I will be joining, and I already am talking to some of my church friends that do the same program. They say it’s amazing! I’m super pumped, and this just encouraged me more. Thank you!

    2. I love this. Personally I’ve been home schooled with my brothers since the beginning. And I totally agree with everything you’ve said. 🙂

      I love being home schooled.

      1) My life is so social… Seriously it’s probably more social than a lot of public schoolers…
      2) Haha. My city has a sports league just for homeschoolers. It’s awesome! We have all kinds of sports for both middle-school and high-school. And we get to play against other schools. And we win a lot of championships too. (not to brag) 🙂
      3) Sheltered from inappropriate things and some drama, yes. Sheltered from like seeing people and going places, haha that’s a definite no. My parents are careful, but they only do what’s best for me.
      4) This one’s funny. You should see some of the schoolwork I do… (again not to brag). And really, when it comes down to it, homeschoolers have to take the ACT, SAT, and GED too. So guess what? We do know stuff ;p
      5) I love my family and my parents have been great teachers. And we do most of our classes with friends too, so we’re not exactly stuck in the house all day 😉

      In short, I love being homeschooled and I’m going to miss it when I go to college.

    3. As a former homeschooler (who now is stuck attending a public high school for a “better” education), I agree with all five points. However, I only agree with the fifth point through witnessing other homeschooling families. In general, homeschooling families tend to have a stronger familial bond with each other, but as an only child in my family being homeschooled by my mother, who came from a strict Korean culture that emphasized education and art a lot, my days of homeschooling were often filled with arguing and hurtful words. It became little better after I started teaching myself in sixth grade, something I did enjoy more than being taught by my mother. The upside of attending public high school right now is that I see less of my mother, because whenever we talk, we seem to always get into an argument.

      In addition, while I did participate in many activities, I never personally was able to connect with anyone because they were all divided up in their cliques from churches or co-ops I never attended or joined. Because of this, I actually had little to no socialization as I felt very “left out” and would not find a real friend until I joined a local youth group in 2012. (He is now my very best friend. XD)

      Again, I am only stating my own personal experience. I am not saying that this extends to all homeschooling families, but I would like to point out that there ARE some exceptions to these “debunked” myths.

    4. I am 17 and a junior and I have been homeschooled my whole life. I absolutely love it and never have wished to go to public school. I would not do well there (look up introvert in the dictionary and you will find my picture :), so homeschool is perfect.

      #1 – I have had so much “socialization” it is ridiculous! And, as a homeschooler, I can socialize with many more dynamics – kids older and younger than me, adults. I think it is a disadvantage for public schoolers to only be around kids their exact ages. That’s my opinion.
      #2 – This is actually true as the schools in my city won’t allow you to play on their teams unless you take some amount of classes at the school. My brother played city baseball for years, but now is a freshman so that was out. Thankfully we found an amazing homeschool team. I do know that lots of cities do allow homeschoolers on their teams though.
      #3 – I definitely was/am sheltered from a lot of destructive things that public schools deal with. I was not told so many “adult” things till way after most kids because my parents didn’t want me to have to deal with the fear and worry. I am thankful for my “sheltering” because I think it let me be a kid while I was a kid and I didn’t have all this junk in my mind growing up. I agree with what soccerbirdie said in her comment below on this one.
      #4 – I am a self-teacher. For several years now, my mom just gets me the curriculum I want to do and I do it. I have no certain schedule, just as long as I get it done. I would say we are in the middle of the “structuring” scale 🙂
      #5 – I do most of my school in my room, because honestly, my brothers HATE school and sometimes are crabby about it. Also, then I can listen to whatever music I want and I’m not bothered or bother anyone else. So, if I’m having problems with my brothers (which does happen), I just go away. But it doesn’t suck in any way to be with my family. Is it hard some days, yes. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

      I am so thankful to my parents for homeschooling me!!!!!!!!!! And thank you PI for posting this!

    5. I am homeschooled and I have been my whole life. I absolutely love it! Not all my siblings were homeschooled with me, my younger brother is public schooled. It just worked better for him. But that’s the beauty of homeschooling, is you get to choose and make decisions based on your kids specific needs.

    6. Due to events at the public school I’m going to (such as teachers showing racy videos in Biology class, showing pictures that need not be shown, the fact that I’m physically and emotionally drained every day, constant cussing and dirty talk around me, etc.) my family and I have decided to take me out of this school and put me into home school. Before this decision, I had been praying to God for a good Christian friend to stand by my side during my trials through public school. Just recently, I started talking to this girl I’m partners with in my Biology class and I’ve found out that she’s a Christian and that she shares the same beliefs as I do. I believe she is an answer to my prayers, but now that I’m going to home school I feel like I’m just leaving her behind. I’ve prayed about this but I still feel lost. Part of me wants to stay and stand by with my new friend, but a bigger part of me wants to leave this horrible school and do home school and join Christian dance classes, etc. I could probably still contact my friend even after I leave the school, but I wouldn’t see her every day like I do now. I’m really lost on what God wants me to do. Any suggestions from anyone? (I thought this would be good to post on here because it is in relation to home school)

    7. I love this! Unlike a lot of you all below, I haven’t been homeschooled my whole life. Only for 8 grade and now (my junior(sort of sophomore) year and upcoming Senior year). But I love it! I’ve been finished with my school work for a about a month now and I love that I have a lot of free to time to work on things that I enjoy. 🙂 I love almost every aspect of it! Oh and one myth that everybody assumes…. we do our school in our pj’s…. okay so maybe that’s not so much a myth, LOL 😀

    8. I don’t think homeschooling is for everyone. With the shifts my parents have at work, and the fact my house is so far off in the country, (plus lack of driver’s license) I’m pretty much stuck at home all day.
      The extra curricular activities I have to choose from are usually few in the evening (when I can be driven) and far too many “open age group” (usually from 8-17), so you might go into an art class anticipating to meet one or two high school teens, and find out you’re the only one amongst nine and twelve year olds.

      And some days, when you’ve cooped up all day and CAN’T wait to do ANYTHING outside of the house, your parents might be too tired from work. (Understandable, but also unpredictable.)

      And I realize some kids get TONS of socializing when homeschooled, and i got more of that between the ages of eight (when I began Homeschool) and twelve, but after that, it became a “hermit haven”. 🙁 But of course, that doesn’t mean you’re “not with it” as a teen! If anything, its nice to be kept away from overly loud , giggly teens twerking and shouting “SWAG!” down the hallways. But I used to know some bookworm kids from high school (public) before they graduated. So I would LOVE to go back to public school and be around those bookworms who could care less about twerking and “swag”. Better than sitting at home all day.

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