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5 Ideas To Survive “Dance Night” When You’re Not Dating!

It’s that time of year again. The school dances are scheduled and most of your peers are reeling with excitement. However, you’re not dating anyone right now. Whether you’re in between relationships or you’ve simply decided to wait to date, here are some ideas to help you get through dance night:

  • Go to the dance with a buddy! My best friend in high school did this and had a fabulous time on prom night. I didn’t date in high school and chose to sit at home on prom night doing nothing. But not my best friend! She wanted to go to the prom even though she didn’t have a date, so she and another friend decided to go together. Not only did they have a BLAST, but they were also able to split the cost of the ticket. If you want to go to your prom or any school dance but you don’t want to go alone, grab a buddy who’s also solo right now and go together! Think about all the great memories you’ll be able to share later!
  • Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Ok, so you’ve decided that you’d rather not go to the dance at all.  Everyone has that laundry list of things that they’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet gotten around to–well, this would be a great time to get started! Have you always wanted to try a dance class? Want to try that rock climbing seminar? Have you thought about volunteering for that great cause? Great! This is the perfect time to do it!
  • Host a ‘Girls Night In’ gathering at your house. I bet there are other girls who are in the same predicament that you’re currently experiencing. Gather a group of girls who have also decided to sit this dance out and make a night of it. Get a few movies and some popcorn and call it movie night. Or better yet, gather some grooming products and have a spa party. Have a blast doing facials, manicures, and pedicures for each other!
  • Treat yourself. If you’d rather spend the evening by yourself or with one or two other friends, make sure it doesn’t turn into a pity party. Decide to treat yourselves! Grab your allowance or ask your parents (in advance) for some cash and head out to see that new movie that’s playing at the local cinema. If you’re not interested in a movie, maybe you could get your nails or hair done. Take this opportunity to pamper yourself. Remind yourself that you’re special whether you’ve decided to date or wait.
  • Take this opportunity to do something special for God. This would be a great opportunity to put the focus on God. Check out local activities that you could participate in that glorify God. Maybe a church is hosting a play or concert that you could check out. Better yet, maybe you could volunteer for a local mission to help out your community. There are tons of opportunities to help further God’s Kingdom and this would be a great time to jump on in.

Remember, when you’re not dating, you have the opportunity to focus on making yourself a better you! Don’t allow yourself to feel lonely–get active instead!

Girls, what are some other ideas?

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  1. raybob

    Posted by raybob on May 22, 2013 at 12:56

    Thank you for this, it was really helpful. How about if all of your friends are dating or have dates. What do you do then? All suggestions welcome 🙂

  2. Posted by on November 7, 2011 at 16:51

    Last year during prom, two of my friends and I had a fun night out! We went to the movies, went shopping, went out to eat, looked at the cute puppies at the pet store, and sang as loud as we could in the car! We probably had more fun than the kids at prom! (:

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by LivyLou on November 6, 2011 at 18:24

    Wow. I wish I would have known about Project Inspired a long time ago! There is so much good advice on here! I am seventeen and this year’s fall homecoming was the first dance I ever had a date for. I always felt left out before at school dances. I was even mocked before prom last year because I went without a date. I wish I would have read this article; I love it, and it’s so true. You do not need a date to have fun girls!

  4. Posted by on October 29, 2011 at 15:52

    I thought Christians were not allowed to dance?

    • kaylag.lam.3.22

      Posted by kaylag.lam.3.22 on February 10, 2013 at 13:32

      oh no… nothing in the Bible says Christians can’t dance! There are quite a few examples of godly people dancing in the Bible. The problem with dancing is if one tries to dance in a provocative or seductive way. Dancing in itself is fine – we just need to examine our attitudes while dancing.

  5. Posted by on October 28, 2011 at 16:42

    I am going to my school’s Homecoming with two good friends and I am not wanting to go with a date! I think it would be awkward if I did have one and I think it will be really fun to goof around and be with some people that I know! Plus, we’re also planning on going out to dinner and taking pictures beforehand so we can hopefully remember the night! 😀 So I honestly do think you can go to a dance without a date. I’ll see how this goes! 🙂

    OH! For all you girls who aren’t doing anything for your own reasons–spend the money you saved on a dress, tickets, etc. on yourself! Go to the mall, spend time with mom, have a girl’s night with a friend. Just because you’re not booked doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. 🙂

    • Posted by on October 30, 2011 at 18:20

      Or give your homecoming date money to a good church that will use it to spread God’s Word!

  6. Posted by on October 28, 2011 at 11:21

    Great advice! Thank you! : ) I am 18 years old and have never dated in my life! I have never even had a guy friend! I don’t plan on dating until God wants me to.

    • Posted by on October 30, 2011 at 18:19

      I find it totally awesome that you have never dated and you are only 18, because I don’t think that dating that early is very good, because dating is to find the person you want to marry, and if you are like 15, I seriously doubt that you will marry the person you are dating. But I also think it’s kind of unhealthy to have never had a guy friend, because otherwise, how are you going to know which guy to date? I have tons and tons of friends that are guys and ONLY friends, and I think that it is not a good thing to have only female friends. Go out there and make some male friends Olivia! =)

  7. Posted by on October 28, 2011 at 06:54

    Thank you so much for posting this! It was a God-thing that I found it, because I actually have my Homecoming dance tonight — and I’m waiting to date! Thanks again! 🙂

  8. Posted by on October 27, 2011 at 18:44

    what do i do if my fend says it is okay tom be lesbian or gay or bi what do u think wat should i do ?

    • Posted by on October 28, 2011 at 16:43

      Check out the articles that Project Inspired has about that subject. 🙂 We have articles on just about anything.

  9. Posted by on October 27, 2011 at 14:17

    I went to the dance with my best friend

  10. Posted by on October 26, 2011 at 12:32

    I know from experience that it’s a ton of fun to go to dances with a group of friends. Even if it is all-girls. I’d almost say it’s more fun, depending. Meet up before the dance and get ready together, then go to the dance and just have fun. On the slow songs, you can take a break from dancing to sit down, have some refreshments, or dance with one of your friends despite the fact that everyone else is in couples! Any dance can be fun with a group of friends, with or without a date 🙂

    • Posted by on November 8, 2011 at 14:35

      I do this all the time. Being Christian is really hard sometimes because some guys actually avoid you because you are. Sad but sometimes true.

  11. Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 21:00

    These are great ideas. I know I used to sulk around during dance weekends, but going with friends makes it so much fun. Another cool idea is to do something with your family, like go bowling or visit a museum. doing something special just makes the whole thing a much more positive experience.

  12. Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 19:50

    Hmm,you can spend the day with your mom!

  13. Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 17:12

    Reflect God in being single, being single is a time to celebrate and praise God with passion. Have fun, show the girl’s that have boyfriends, that you can have fun without having a boyfriend.

  14. Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 16:27

    I love going to dances!!!! I’m only 13, and I certainly don’t date yet, but I love going out, listening to music, burning all my Friday night energy, and seeing my friends. These are ideas I would use when I decide not to go. I only go to school dances, and it’s really nice because it’s not a pressure dating kind of situation. I always have a great time!

    • Posted by on October 31, 2011 at 14:23

      Haha, my name is Jenna and I’m 13 and do everything and like everything u said right there!

      • Posted by on November 1, 2011 at 17:51

        Haha we have the same first name and age! 🙂

    • Posted by on October 27, 2011 at 09:20

      High school dances tend to be a little more date-oriented, but there are plenty of people who go without a date 🙂 And not going can be just as fun, too 😀 Glad you’re having fun with it!

      • Posted by on November 8, 2011 at 14:34

        Most definitely. AGREED!!!!

  15. Posted by on October 25, 2011 at 16:09

    This has helped me REMARKABLY! 🙂 thanks so much dear 🙂