Should She Really Be in Your Inner Circle??
Written by Aysha Ives | April 19, 2012
The people who you spend the most time with WILL impact you in one way or another. Although God expects us to be the leaders, He also warns us that Satan will try to tempt God’s children. There’s no exception to this rule.
So no matter how strong your relationship is with God, it’s EXTREMELY important that you choose the right people to enter into your inner circle. Here are a few questions to ask yourself to help you determine who does (or doesn’t) belong in YOUR inner circle!
- Do your friends confess Christ? It’s really important for you to spend the majority of your time with other believers. You should still be kind to non-believers and share the Gospel with them; however, it isn’t be wise to spend a lot of time with them. Satan is crafty and he’ll use your unsaved friends to try to distract you.
- Do your friends share your values? Even if your friends confess Christ but they’re not living a Godly lifestyle, you should reconsider how much time you’re spending with them. Not everyone who says they’re a Christian truly understands the importance of living a Godly lifestyle. It’s important for you to choose to be around people who share your values. If you’re friends are dressing immodestly, using alcohol or drugs, cursing and behaving in other ways that aren’t conducive to a Christian lifestyle, then it’s probably a good idea to establish new friendships. Continue to pray for your friends and share the love of Christ with them, but limit your time around them.
- Is your friendship healthy? Read this article to determine if your friendship is a healthy friendship or a toxic relationship. If it’s a toxic friendship or if your friend is a “frenemy,” then you should reconsider whether s(he) should be allowed in your inner circle.
- Do your parents approve of your friendships? If your parents disagree with your friendship, then there’s probably a good reason. As difficult as it may be, try to hear your parents out. They’ve been where you are and only want what’s best for you. If your parents don’t think your friends demonstrate good character, it’s probably a good idea for you to limit the amount of time you interact with them.
- Are you negatively influenced by your friends? We ALL make mistakes, but if you’re constantly being tempted when you’re with specific friends, then it’s probably best to avoid them. You should choose to surround yourself with positive friends who pull you up, not drag you down!
What are some other questions you should ask yourself before allowing someone into your inner circle?