In the slew of articles written to 20-something women, an underlying theme emerges: These days are days of uncertainty. At few other times in our lives are we so deluged with options and opportunities, yet at few times in our lives are we so limited by our finances. Sometimes the fact that there are so many options and paths from which to choose is paralyzing in itself. Do we marry the boyfriend? Pursue the cool job? Go on a year-long mission trip?
The uncertainty of your 20s may be intimidating, but it can also be a good thing. Here’s why.
- Uncertainty means freedom. The fact that this season is uncertain belies the freedom of choice within it. You might not know what’s going to happen, but you have several doors through which to walk. You can pursue a passion and take a risk, or you could choose the dependability of a steady job. Each has an uncertainty of its own, with all the potential of excitement and change. The “not knowing” is part of the beauty in this season of your 20s.
- Uncertainty opens doors. If we knew the blueprint from the beginning, there would be no reason for initiative. The absence of certainty encourages you to open the doors God puts in your path. We often think the door we open is the one we need to walk through, but that’s not actually true. Sometimes we need to open a few doors before God makes the right one clear. Opportunity is a faith-builder—just like uncertainty itself.
- Uncertainty builds faith. Faith cannot exist without uncertainty because faith, by definition, is the belief in something yet to be seen, confidence in that for which we hope (Hebrews 11:1). These uncertain years call us to a deeper faith in Christ, forcing us to seek Him as we make decisions about the future. This is the time to lean into God’s purpose and let Him refine His calling on your life. The faith you’re building now will buoy you through harder times to come.
- Uncertainty strengthens friendships. If you ever needed a sounding board, a listening ear or the encouragement of a friend, it’s in a season of uncertainty. These are days of hashing out all the possibilities on the living room floor, dreaming together and making plans that may or may not come to fruition. Sometimes there’s a twinge of sadness knowing that these years will change your friendships—people get married, move away and take new jobs. But it’s also the time when friendships are strengthened, equipped to last a lifetime.
- Uncertainty teaches us to value the present. “Not knowing” is hard; there’s no question about that. But it has a spiritual and emotional benefit. If we don’t know the future, we’re forced to place more focus on the present. We’re encouraged to really embrace today in order to eventually reach our tomorrow.
This season in your 20s is one of change and adjustment. You might go through a huge life change or feel left behind. You might meet your spouse or break up with your boyfriend—or both. New jobs and opportunities will come; old habits and friendships will go. But through this season you are moving into the person God designed you to be. Your education is, for the most part, behind you, and your “real life” education is just beginning. Uncertainty is part of the learning process. Be a student of this changing life. You don’t want to miss a thing.