Ladies, I have to tell you that the whole “cell phone, texting, social media, not paying attention to anyone around you” fad is way out of control. Let’s be honest.
I recently went to a restaurant with my family, and as we sat waiting for our table, literally everyone around us had their heads down with smartphone in hand, scrolling and tapping. And at a recent kid’s birthday party that my son attended, the children had cell phones and were either huddled alone or grouped around silly video clips. My young son could be heard saying, “My mom doesn’t let me have a phone.” It’s not easy living in the world while trying not to be of it, right? And it’s even harder bringing up children in such a technologically focused world.
Ladies, I’m not trying to spoil my son’s fun. And I’m not trying to spoil yours when I strongly suggest this: Put down the phone, please! Here are five reasons why.
- It’s unsocial. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been to gatherings where some guests are sitting alone in a room with their phone, or restaurants where a couple are occupied by their own phones. Even in stores, people have their heads down and fingers tapping as they shop, totally focused on their phones. Regular conversations are almost obsolete, and checking the phone in the middle of a conversation is no longer considered rude. But it’s almost become a norm, and one that has wedged itself between people and made us so unsocial.
- It’s distracting. Smartphones have taken us out of the real world. God created an amazing world, full of wonder. He also gave us ability to help others, get involved, socialize and converse. The smartphone takes us away from what’s real and what’s important and the important people around us.
- It’s addicting. It’s almost as if we have to stay in touch with the world. We have to know what’s going on at every moment. I know people who check the Facebook pages of people they don’t even like. Or they’ll send out random text messages, back and forth, to their friends. Why? Just to give them a reason to use the phone. Just to stay in constant contact.
- It’s annoying. Especially when you’re the one sitting there when everyone’s on the phone. It’s like no one knows how to be social anymore. No one knows how to have a conversation. Being on the phone also seems to give us this false sense of importance, as if being on the phone, texting someone, browsing the Internet or checking social media every second means that we’re busy or in demand. And anything less means we’re not cool.
- It’s controlling. After a while, our phone controls us because we find that we can’t live without it. It becomes an extension of ourselves.
I know that the smartphone is a great tool. I have one that I use for work. I even text my husband and friends when I have a quick question. A quick text or even researching a question is nothing to bark about. But when we devote the majority of our time to texting, browsing and checking our social media, and we can’t even walk across a parking lot without checking it, then that’s a problem.
Our phones shouldn’t take over our lives. It should be a tool, not something that we’re dependent on or something we just can’t live without. Honestly, if the idea of leaving the house without your phone gives you heart palpitations, then it’s time to put it down.
Ladies, are you able to put your phone down?