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    5 Things To Consider When You Start Dating

    Dating can be very fun but it can also be quite daunting at times. Here are five tips to consider when you start dating:

    • Let your date meet your parents. Your parents are more likely to approve of your boyfriend if they know him. Although you may not believe that your parents really understand what’s going on in your world, remember that they were once your age. Your mom knows what it’s like to be a girl your age and your dad understands what it’s like to be a boy your age. Your parents love you and want what’s best for you! I’m sure that they’ll feel much better if they know who you’re dating.
    • Try to date guys with common interests. It’s always fun to date someone who has the same taste in music and TV shows. Beyond that, common interests include values and lifestyle. To avoid being pressured into situations you don’t want to find yourself in, be sure that what’s important to you is important to your guy.
    • Avoid temptation. The Bible tells you to “watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” (Matthew 26:41) Of course you want to behave in a Godly fashion and avoid sex before you’re married. However, the Bible tells us that people sometimes become weak during moments of temptation. Dating can sometimes lead to unwanted sexual pressure. Therefore it’s probably a good idea to avoid spending a lot of time alone with your dates.
    • Enjoy yourself! Be sure to have fun when you’re dating. Choose outings that are active and fun.
    • Avoid committing too soon. Also, don’t commit to a relationship until you’re ready. If he cares about you, he’ll respect the boundaries that you establish.

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    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    118 COMMENTS

    1. I don’t think any one should date unless they are thinking of marriage, so I think until then if you have your eye on someone, just become friends with them and when the time is right, go ahead and start to spend more time with him and have fun!

    2. When I date I go into a relationship with the main “theme” being, “COuld I spend forever with this guy? Can I trust him with my life? Would I want to raise a family with this man?” Those kind of things that could be summarized as “Would I want to marry this man?”
      So I think that as long as you go into a relationship with those “thoughts” constantly running through your head..

    3. I’m 18 and luckily I haven’t had many opportunities to date in high school. I had one boyfriend as a freshmen and it’s definitely something I regret. I gave him my first kiss and to this day it still bothers me. Imagine if I had sex with him!! I know how it feels to have a boyfriend. It feels exciting. You have a guy you can emotionally invest in, hold hands with and kiss, etc. But like someone here previously said, most teenagers only date to take advantage of those things without any commitment in the long run. It’s very, very rare to find someone who is willing to dedicate themselves to one person at, say, 15. And I don’t blame them! I’m a senior in high school and I’m not even ready.

      Just be friends with the guy you like if you don’t feel ready to date. I like someone at the moment but I put my feelings aside in order to be a good friend. My guy friends are dear to me and sometimes a deep friendship like that can be the most precious relationship there is.

      Wait on God. That’s so much easier said than done. Often I tell myself no one will ever like me as girlfriend material because I haven’t dated in so long and many times I find myself wishing I had a boyfriend. But then I look at the people at school with bf’s/gf’s. So much drama. So many hearts broken. That’s not how God intended it to be. However, I don’t agree that ALL teenagers shouldn’t date. It depends on the person involved. I know of a couple at school who have been together for two years–they have a very fun, sweet, God-centered relationship. It’s possible. But for me, it wouldn’t be wise to date right now because I’m not emotionally ready and that could lead to an unhealthy attachment among other things. Ask God if you’re ready. He knows you better than you know yourself.

      Now for my tips! I would just add ask yourself, “Why do I want to date this person?” If it’s something purely selfish, I’d advise against it. But if you think you could grow spiritually/personally from this person and you truly care about them, I say go for it! And never feel pressured to do something you don’t want to do. If you like a guy and all your friends encourage you to date him and you don’t feel like you’re ready to, DON’T.

    4. When I date, I look at that guy and what he does and how he treats me… I think to myself is this the kinda guy i would want to spen the rest of my life with… it’s like finding out what you want in a future husband who knows you might even meet him along the way

    5. Too any people these days date for the wrong reasons. They go through relationships so fast that they forget how many they’ve been in! Everyone else that has commented is on the right track in my opinion!! The only reason that I date, is because I may be interested in marrying this guy. Otherwise, what’s the point on dating!?

    6. I only like a guy if I think I could marry him. It’s important not to waste your love. I made a very stupid mistake of dating a guy I didn’t even like and I regret it even though we only talked twice while we dated, never even held hands or anything (phew!). This is great advice 🙂

    7. I’d like to see some advice about long distance relationships. I’m interested in a guy, and I think he’s interested in me, but he lives several hours away. Could it work? Any advice on the topic?

    8. There’s all this advice about dating and who to date and if you’re ready. But what if you’re ready but the guys you like either don’t feel the same way or aren’t ready? I’ve never had a boyfriend though I’ve liked guys. it makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong or there’s something wrong with me. i don’t want to feel this way. I’ve been told i shouldn’t feel this way and i need to be confident in myself without a guy. but when you’ve been rejected so much its hard to have confidence. especially when a guy says he likes you but doesn’t want to date you annd says to wait and see what God has in store. one of my friends says i haven’t been rejected. another says i have been. i don’t know what to think or do and i don’t want to ruin my friendship with this guy.

      • personally, i think you’re going to have to learn to love yourself before anyone else can. I’m speaking from experiences. i used to feel as you do, thinking that i wasn’t worth anyone’s time, love, or affection b/c i had guy friends but none that asked to date me. what i didn’t know is that most of them didn’t feel like they could b/c they knew i had high standards. i also believe it’s because it wasn’t the right time (God’s timing). but in the meantime, i learned to love myself and ended up radiating that confidence. next thing you know, now i’m getting offers all over the place that i have to turn them down b/c of course the devil will send some people your way who aren’t worth it. so know your value and worth in Christ, radiate confidence, and be that great girl you know you are! hope this helps! 🙂

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